Well, as someone also not a woman, i can only offer my male perspective: you dated two guys, you didnt hit it off immediately (so it seems).... Thats life. Two guys out of thousands in your area. Its a small sample size. I would keep looking, maybe vary where you look and keep an open mind about who you are willing to give a shot too yourself. If your only looking at fairly well to do men in your age range , meaning stable with good jobs amd no wife, your going to keep getting the same result. Guys looking for a good time with minimal strings attached. Theres a reason they have gone this long not married or divorced themselves. They dont want marrige. Maybe you could look at guys who are not as well off, perhaps who have fallen on hard times etc etc, maybe a bit of shared circumstances would give a chance for more intimate understanding of one another... Just a thought....