Hi El K,
My heart goes out to you. I went through it with my mom (who has since passed away). One thing I can tell you is even though they may not seem to be responding many stroke victims are 100% competent. When I use to visit my mom in the nursing home after her stroke I was never sure if she or other people knew what was going on. I then read a book called "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly". It was written by Jean-Dominique Bauby, he was the french editor of Elle magazine. He had a stroke at 43 and seemed completely in a vegetable state. He ended up dictating the book by blinking his left eye with a alphabet he made up. Absolutely incredible!! So even though people may seem unaware they can have complete understanding and competency. Just keep that in mind, because it helps so much when you talk and really interact with them. My prayers really go out to you and your mom. PC