Thanks, everyone who has responded so far! I will ask her to read Romans and Galatians "for comfort" and hopefully she will take the time to do that, instead of reading an Awake or something; the scriptures, even in the NWT, really helped me (no surprise!) when I stopped reading the literature.
Oh, and I apologize for the use of the word "losers" - I meant it as "users" - but maybe that would be offensive too - the ones I refer to in my comment would call my sister so often that she was almost constantly answering the phone during the few hours each day that she was actually home w/ her husband, that he literally ripped the phone out of the wall and insisted that she put the answering machine on every afternoon. And he is a VERY CALM, PASSIVE, NICE GUY. She was glad for his interference, because she could never say no, or just let the phone ring. After that, though, even her family had a hard time getting hold of her - she doesn't give out her cell number even to me! I thought something was wrong w/ her - she lives so far away from me, and I rarely ever see her.
Something unique about my sister, that really floors me because it seems so rare in people who, like her, DO SO MUCH WITHOUT LET UP, is, she doesn't judge the ones around her who seem to have the means, but who do so little. Sometimes they are her best friends. For example, one of her long-time best friends won't even allow the friends to use her bathroom when they come over for the Book Study, which has been at her home for decades. And when one of the mothers approached her to ask if she may take her child to the bathroom, was told "they should have gone before the meeting - it's only an hour - can't they hold it for one hour?" - and the sister was told, albeit "gently" that she would have to start going to the Kingdom Hall Book Study if her children were going to require the use of a bathroom!!!!! Now, at first, my sister was furious at this sister and her elder husband for being so ungiving and unloving about the use of their precious bathroom; but she forgave them, and they are good friends. SO... when my sister was out of town for a few days recently, and this same sister took it upon herself to help my sister out by simply bringing in her mail, my sister said "Oh, So-and-So is suuuch a good person...." I just rolled my eyes as I turned away.
Another example of how people use my sister and she still accepts and loves them is, years ago, a young sister would go in service w/ her often, and because of the weather out there and just the general way the city is, there is no street work like we have so much of out here in California, and for my sister, no late afternoon or evening service time because her husband placed a curfew on her and she abides by it (he's VERY strict about this ONE thing, for her safety) - she must be home by dusk. So, this young sister would always ask, during service, "Could you just take me over here or over there, and can we stop at the market/dry cleaner/Mom's house/ whatever" everyday - so it was hard to get the required "time" in. ( And of course, she's very strict with herself on timekeeping - never embellishes or makes the usual allowances.) This young sister, it turns out, was actually having my sister drop her off at her BOYFRIEND'S house sometimes, unbeknownst to sis, until she became pregnant, was publicly reproved, had the baby, and the whole time, you guessed it, they were friends, and still are.
That's the way it should be, I admit. But I would have been too angry at either of these two women to continue being close to them - but my sister is true blue! In spite of how "good" she may be, she doesn't view others as "bad" or "inferior." It's amazing. And yet, now I know, she's spinning her wheels in a false religion. So sad.
Thanks for listening.
Sorry to cause any hurt - and I appreciate the comment about befriending the shy ones or the ones that others may have considered odd, whatever - those were my friends! And my daughter's too. Now my son - that's a different story!