" . . . after-all I am one of the biggest offenders!"
Oh good. Now all of us younger guys looking for a girl with some modest values know who to punch in the nose.
" . . . I am one of the biggest offenders! My daughter is totally spoiled! At age 15, finishing school when Paris. At 16, bought her a car. At 17, took her on a trip to Hawaii and then on to Australia. Let her have free run of the house while I am gone...all summer for the last three years. This Spring, 17 days across Europe. She even has her own seperated section of the house, with her own entrance so she can entertain friends without bothering me at the other end of the house . . . "
Just what do you think you are accomplishing by this? Do you hallucinate that your daughter will love you more?
" . . . And this is typical of what we fathers do for our daughters. The result is that most young guys just can't compete with Daddy Bank! The average young man will have to knock himself out to try to give these ladies the things they are accustom to! And when he does not live up to their standard these girls will get pissed. And stay that way for life!"
The greatest gift a father can give her daughter is a balanced set of values. With regard to what I am about to say, ideally it is the mother that sets the example here:
I teach my girls, as they grow into womanhood, that they must gain their freedom and independence through the demonstration of responsible behavior and good choices. Mistakes are allowed, but repetition of the same mistake is OUT. It is expected of them to finish high school, learn a profession or some skill that will create for them their own bank account. When they turn 16 and want their own car, they must work and save and at least pay for part of it.
When they become women, they should be completely self-reliant, educated, independent, self-assured, empowered and confident. They must never choose a boy friend, fiance or husband based on that man's financial status. They must never be in the position to be dominated, threatened or controlled by the asswhipe husband who makes the money . . . they should have their own money so that in the event that hubby turns into a buttmunch and holds money over their heads in order to control them, they can confidently say, "sorry dear, but you better stop your shite or I am out the door, because I am not going to take your abusive, controlling crap, not for one minute. I have my own car, my own money, and I do love you, but I can leave right now and be just fine monetarily . . . bite me, my love".
How many poor women get stuck in abusive and controlling relationships, having no where to go because the man has all the money and she has little or no education or skills and confidence to make it on her own?
Simon and Garfunkel said it best when they said, "teach your children well . . . "
Hunyadi
