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  Are You A Man Or A Woman???

  by minimus in

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  i don't know if it's just me but at times i get confused as to who's male or female here.

  for the record, i'm a man.

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  Gentle Man
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  Just so confused.............

  by desib77 in

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  hello everyone....i'm new here.. i was raised as a jw until i turned 19 when i decided to stop attending the meetings.

  i just rathered not think about it for a few years.

  now, i'm married and my husband and i are searching.

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  Desi,

  Welcome to the forum. Confusion is a good thing really. It allows you to sort through things and question things that do or do not agree with you. I am fairly new here as well. And I am confused as hell. What to believe, where to go from here. But the advise to me, and I will direct it you to you as well, is; Don't worry about it. It will come to you. Take your time. Find out what your values are in life, what YOU want to do with your life, and what works for YOU. No one can tell you what to do. It's your life and you have the right to decide what's best for you. If you were raised a certain way, you might find out that , that is not who you are. If you had certain beliefs that were spoonfed to you, see if that's what works for you. And soon you'll figure it out. Read some books as was suggested.

  Just remember you're not alone with these feelings. Many are still feeling guilty, due to the fact that, it has been ingrained in them. And that is what the 'truth' did for many. But God is not one that put these restrictions on us, it's people within an organization.

  About your convictions from the WT, you have the right to question everything. The Bereans did the same.

  Hang in there,

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  BOLD move

  by Puternut in

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  i have been a dub for too long, and most of my ambitions were hindered because of the 'kingdom first' issue.

  i never persued the things i wanted to do in life.

  and everywhere i go i run into people that i know, and they give me the 'dirty look'.

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  Hey thanks you guys,

  I have been getting a lot of encouragement and PM's from people, informing me as to where to get some good leads. I have been invited by a lot of you to stop by, and this is from all over the world. Well obviously I can't come see you all. I will have my laptop with me. But I will see some of you, since I intend to take about 2 years of at least, to make this trip. I am going to refresh my navigation skills in the Caribbean, then after that I intend to set course for the South Pacific, and I have never been to Australia, or New Zealand. So if it's sunny where you're at, you can bet I'll be in the area.

  I'll keep you posted with my progress as time moves on.

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  I was DA'd without my consent. Whadda buncha hypocrites!!!!!!!!!!

  by Love_Truth in

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  i was raised a jw, seriously studied the bible, consumed it, and in my decades, found very few jws or non-jws who knew it as well as i. i love god's word, the bible.

  i left the jws as a teen/young man, df'd for fornication, with no witnesses, and i never showed for the judicial commitee.

  when i came back in (in my 20s) and was re-instated, i was "super jw", very zealous, and very vocal and knowlegeable of the bible.

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  Love_Truth,

  I take it you're not going to appeal there decision? Here have another cigar !
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  They did it again

  by freelife in

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  on friday smurfy went in for surgury and it went ok. when i got her home my dad called and was telling me that he was going to have the date of his back surgury changed.

  when he got done talking about his surgury i told him about smurfy having surgury that day.

  the bastard never even asked what she had done or how she was doing or if they could help out with anything.

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  freelife,

  That is lame of your parents not to ask about smurphy. I feel sorry for the both of you. I hope you guys will get through this. Be assured that we care, and wish you both the best of health and smurphy's recovery. How is everyone? And how is smurphy doing?

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  Question: Let it sit or take it and run?

  by dustyb in

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  ok, i was talking to my g/f today and she said that she needed to get away for awhile, move to california with her cousin and stuff because she couldn't stand being at her house anymore.

  whats even more is that she said that its getting to where she doesn't want to get up for service and she doesn't want to go to meetings anymore and she thinks she's becoming "spiritually weak".

  so she wants to move to california to see if that'll "help" her in her current state of weakness.

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  Dusty,

  If you really care about her, you need to give her some space. If you are supportive, that is good, but not good enough. She needs time to sort it all out for herself. Yes the congregations are the same where ever you go. And she needs to be in a environment that is 'her' comfort zone. You both are young, and she is still pressured by thoughts of others. In time she will find out for herself, as to what she wants. She has a good head on her shoulders. I do hope that the people in California, will respect her wishes too. There is nothing more frustrating than being pressured to go to meetings. But IF she decides to stay with the borg, and you are not, remember that you will have new found problems on your hand. I think everyone needs to find out for themselves what decisions they want to make for themselves. And you need to respect her wishes either way. Regardless......

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  This is a special anniversary for me....

  by neverthere in

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  it is 17 years now since i got clean from drugs!

  i was big on uppers, hash and opium.

  i quit cold turkey 17 years ago with no slips since!.

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  Neverthere,

  Congrats, though your name looks like you are 'never there'? (Sorry for the pun) That's a great accomplishment. What is your secret to your success? I have in the last year, to kill some of my pain, done a few things I won't mention here. Sometimes things would get so unbearable, I just needed an escape from pressures and reality.... I know that is not a way to live, but I am still tempted at times to resort to that. So for now I stick with a little booze.

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  Jumping Off Cliffs

  by pettygrudger in

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  while growing up, i can't remember the countless times my mother said "so, if you're friends all decided to jump off a cliff - would you?

  " in response to my comment that all my friends were "doing it".. now, as an adult, i realize that the jw's do exactly the same thing, blindly following their predecessors, family & friends regardless of whether it's right or wrong, or whether it will be harmful to them mentally or emotionally.

  perhaps that's an indication of society in general - ergo so many different cliques/groups/sects.. now that you've left the jw's, do you find that you still blindly follow?

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  I feel I owe it to myself to question things that don't agree with me. We are all unique individuals and we were given a brain for a reason. So if we don't use it and let other fill in the blanks for us, I think we are doing ourselves a disfavor. The 'truth' thingie was an experience for me. I don't regret having been in it, because now my eyes are opened. If I hadn't experienced it, I would have never known the difference. And I gave it my all. So yes now, when I don't agree with something, rather than giving someone else's viewpoint, I can finally utter myself in ways that I hadn't done in a long time. Of cource I respect the views of others, and I have to be tactful in my replies. But it feels good not to be spoon fed anymore. I don't follow other's blindly and never will again. I let my heart speak, and let my past experiences in life direct me. For once no one is going to tell me what I can or cannot do. Selfish? Perhaps, but as the saying goes; life is not a practice for things to come. And if I am wrong about my decisions, I will die with a smile on my face, because in my heart, I did what I thought was right for me. And if there is a God, he will know what was in my heart, and he will understand the reasons for my actions, due to my life's experiences.

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  BOLD move

  by Puternut in

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  i have been a dub for too long, and most of my ambitions were hindered because of the 'kingdom first' issue.

  i never persued the things i wanted to do in life.

  and everywhere i go i run into people that i know, and they give me the 'dirty look'.

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  I have considered my kids. I had a visit with them a few weeks back, and they made it abundantly clear that they didn't want to visit with me anymore, unless I get reinstated. They are both baptized, and have made their stand. I couldn't comment on that, at that time, since I didn't want to break their hearts with the fact, that that is not an option. They don't mind an occasional letter or call, but no more visits. Needless to say, that was another motivating factor in my decision to leave the area. Where ever I land, Marquesas Isands, Bora Bora, or Tonga, I can contact them from there.

  growedup, I appreciate your thought about giving it a try in the Caribbean first, but I have been there done that, and the call of the ocean is very strong, once you have tasted it. The breeze of the wind, the salt spray of the bow in your face is very theraputic. Being on the ocean and heading for the new horizons, is a thrill that is in my veins.

  I know there are problems and obstacles in life anywhere you go. And I am not saying that this is a solution to my problems, but I have always wanted to do this and now I possibly can. In my current position, recently divorced, no more friends, all family are dubs, and a lot of heartbreak, I just feel the need to regroup in my life. Yes I know Octavia as a friend, and she is very sweet, and we hang out, but I am not in a position to remarry real soon. I have been married for 25 years and I am single now. And before, IF, I settle down and do that, I want to make my dream come true. I may never have this opportunity again.

  As a matter of fact, I am meeting with codeblue this weekend in Seattle. I am thinking about doing some initial boat shopping at one of the marina's. I am still in the planning stages, and lots can change. But if I play my cards right, and plan everything carefully, I should be able to leave within about 8-9 months or so.

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  BOLD move

  by Puternut in

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  i have been a dub for too long, and most of my ambitions were hindered because of the 'kingdom first' issue.

  i never persued the things i wanted to do in life.

  and everywhere i go i run into people that i know, and they give me the 'dirty look'.

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  xjw_b12,

  I don't know if I know JCanon, but yeah I can always use crew members. I think I am going to be gone for about a year or two. And yes I do have a back up plan. I have several options as a matter of fact. But it's something that will be an experience of a life time. I either find an island that I will call home, or I come back to the US and start afresh with my business. I am just burned out here, and need a new perspective on life.

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