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  Uh oh - another subversive group to watch out for (caution fluff)

  by Makena1 in

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  another subversive group..............(apologies if someone else already posted this_ .

  an individual later discovered to be a public school teacher, was .

  arrested trying to board a flight at new york kennedy airport today .

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  What goes around...

  by Nathan Natas in

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  his name was fleming, and he was a poor scottish farmer.

  one day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog.

  he dropped his tools and ran to the bog.

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  Purple

  Good story. But I don't tend to agree that what goes around comes around. Two examples. I spent 20 years of my life loving and looking after a man, sacrificing having children and lots of other things. I looked after him, cared for him and loved him when no one else would even give him the time of day. What came back to me??? My x trying to kill me twice and making my life a living nightmare and still continuing to make my life a nightmare and now trying to rob me of a future and it seems like everyone is backing him up, including the law. My only crime??? Loving him, 20 years of not fighting, of being the faithful, submissive wife. My reward, being nearly strangled to death and being pushed througha window and now fighting alone for my future.

  Example two.. My mum was a similar natured person as me, helped everyone she could, never asked anyone for anything but was always there for you. She died 10 years ago at the age of 52. She never met most of her grandchildren, never saw her children blossom and become the people they were meant to be, plus a lot of other stuff.

  If what goes around comes around, then my x would be lying in a coma dying a slow painful, lonely death and my mum would be here enjoying the family she sacrificed herself for and I would have someone fantastic that I had loved for the majority of my life and nice kids.
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  Were You Ever Counseled For Your Attitude or Because You Didn't Measure Up?

  by minimus in

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  one thing jws do, and especially elders, is counsel people.

  everything is all about setting a person straight.

  even bible students are conditioned to be counseled and to do the same toward any that ask them questions as to what they believe.

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  Purple

  Only over everything I did or said. I couldn't move in the hall without someone running to the elders telling them what I had done. In the end they were making things up. The funny thing was that it was happening after I had done the fade away. How sad is that? They seriously need to get a life!
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  hello everyone

  by itsallgoodnow in

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  my first post here - - wanted to give my story, too.

  raised a jw, stayed in out of fear, painted myself into a corner and currently struggling to get out completely.

  i know lots of people would say they don't respect someone who knows they don't want to stay but is staying for other reasons, like family & friends or whatever.

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  Purple

  Welcome itsallgoodnow. I am glad the board has been of help to you. You will find that if you talk about things here, there are enough experienced people around to help you with what you are going through.

  I guess I must of had it easier than most as I was alone in the truth and no one gave two hoots about me so when I decided it wasnt the truth I just stopped going. No one bothered me, heck I doubt if anyone even noticed I stopped going! Unfortunaltey that is no exageration wither which spaeks about love and all JW being loving and stuff.

  The only thing I would say to you is that relationships based on lies are not really sound and healthy. Lived it for 18 years with myself and in the end had to live up to my truth and made huge changes etc but I am happier now and glad i did. My only regret is not doing it sooner and reporting the SOB to the police and kicking him out on the street.

  I know its gunna be hard but is it worth all the energy that concealing something takes? If your family know you well, surely they would realise that something is not quite right? Usually I find when someone finally tells me something I really already knew what was happening from observation and stuff. Maybe its something though that runs deeper thats keeping you hanging on? Dunno only you can make the final decision and break away if that is what you want.
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  Wakey WAKEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY!

  by Englishman in

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  good morning!.

  the days are getting longer..the nights are getting shorter..daffodils are poppin 'up.

  spring is just around the corner.

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  No dont want the seasons to change just yet! I hang out all year for summer and finally in February we get it with everyday for the past week or so over 105 degrees (I think anyway in Australia is celcius and its been over 35 for a week or more with no end in sight). It hasn't rained for months so some rain might be good! Agggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh autumn is on the way though for us in down under land so dont wish winter on us! So what colour were the daisys and tulips???????????
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  For the millionth post winner....prize suggestions please

  by TresHappy in

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  since peacefulpete won the millionth post contest, some sort of prize should be awarded, perhaps you wonderful people on this board can think of a doozie!

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  Free membership!!!! Hehehehehehehehe sorry couldnt resist that one. The free trip to an apostatefest seems like a wonderful idea!
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  What the longest U wasn't visited 4?

  by badboy in

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  i have been visited only the once in 3 years,that was only b/c a `collegue' contacted them b/c i was interested(she had a `neighbour who was 1'.. so what was the longest period u wasn't visited?

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  Purple

  I never had a cal even when I was pioneering. Shows how loving the congregation was I was in. This included when I went to the hospital three and four times in short succession and died twice and was obviously revived somewhat. Now isn't that a perfect examply of the true love of the true religion!
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  Does your past define you?

  by Princess in

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  they were discussing this on the radio this morning.

  are you defined by what you have done in your past, or is it the present experiences that define you?.

  the dj and tracey lawrence (country singer) were trying to emphasize that we are defined by what we do now as opposed to our past.. are we as a group here an exception?

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  A course I have attended says that the decisions we made in the past shape our future and can stand in our way. They used an example of a child who has one bad experience with a subject say maths, fails miserably or has a challenge they cant meet or overcome and decides that they are hopeless at maths and cannot do it. SO for the next 20 years when maths in involved the person fails in that area, avoids it like the plauge and so on. Yet when they examined that decision later on in life they discovered that infact they could do the math they thought they couldnt do and went into a completley different field, accounting and excelled at it. So that one decision shaped that persons life for 20 years. In this case you could definitely argue that the past shaped the future.

  We also act from what we know from past experience. A simple illustration is that we learn from a young age that if we touch something hot we will burn ourselves, yet every child does it once. However that one experience taught us a valuable lesson that the average person learns from and that changes maybe future outcomes. So expereince does teach us and adds to our knowledge and helps shape who we are.

  On a personal level I have had one very bad experience in relationships which now stops me from developing new ones and I am working on changing it, but experince has also tauight me that if you block people out of your life and you close your life to new experiences and opportuinties and people, you will have an empty uninteresting life, one could almost say half lived!

  So yes I am the person I am because of my past, but I can choose to go beyond that past, learn lessons, take what I need from it but then I can move beyond it and in the future create a new past! I hope that makes some sense!
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  Baptism Protocol

  by Sargon in

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  i'm wondering wether or not non-witness friends or relatives are welcome at, or invited to a baptism?

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  Purple

  They certainly are. I had my sister and then "sister in law" at mine and they were not the slightest bit interested in the troof. They just wanted to see how I was going to be baptised and wanted to show that the family was interested in what I was doing. Invite anyone you want to!
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  A boiling pot of emotions

  by JV in

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  i'm not baptized, but i do go out in service, not much now that i'm getting a post secondary education.

  i wasn't raised a jw and this is where i run into a lot of problems, the things i like to do don't really jive with the wts.

  i played comptive sports in high school and college.

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  JV hun

  Your story is not an odd one. I was a witness for 10 years and always felt that way. The congregation is one large clique. You fit into or you are shunned. There is no real love in the congregation for those who are different. I think you are beginning to realise that and also that maybe you got involved becuase you thought you would find acceptance and love. The truth is there is no such thing for a person brought into the truth.

  You will never feel a part of the cong but always apart fom it. You will never feel this so called love that is suppossed to exist. It only does for familys in the truth. Those who are single and dont have other family in the truth are never fully a part of things. No one will notice if you dont go to meetings or if you fade away.

  You are experienceing what I put up with for 10 years. You have every right to question and protest but dont expect anyone in the congregation to listen or assist. It wont happen. You may get the odd one that will listen but they wont do anything. Its totally up to you what you do now. Not all of your emotions are from the depression. Depression is usually triggered by something and yep the truth (and a violent x husband) triggered it for me.

  the truth wont fill up an unhappy, empty life. You have to do that for yourself and sitting around hoping others will do it for you wont bring about the changes that you obviously wnat. You have to make that happen. I ought to know I have done this my entire life, especially since I left my x april last year.

  Nothing happens for those who sit back and wait for everything to come to them. Take the bull by the horns, change things or stop going to the meetings and fade away. Dont just get more depressed, get activley involved in your life and make things happen.