Posts by Strawberryfieldsforever

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Loss of Family

by desib77 in

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i am just wondering if any of you have lost family members that you were really close to by leaving "the organization"?

how did you deal with it?.

right now i am neither disfellowshipped nor disassociated but considered inactive.

I've been out for 13 years now. I haven't been df'd or da'd. I did the slow fade. Because of that my Mom still talked to me for awhile. She would always tell me scary things about the time of the end and that we should want to be in good standing with Jehovah so we don't lose our life. It always scared me and I felt so sick with fear. I avoided talking to her so I didn't have to listen to it anymore. I think I tried for a while to keep her in my life, but found that I couldn't move forward. She held me back because I was always tip toeing around issues to make her feel good. I had to go on with my life. I wanted to vote and celebrate holidays. I was free now of the JW mindset and was excited to enter the real world. Unfortunately, my Mom wasn't part of my new life nor did she have any interest in it. She only wanted me to be part of her JW life. She had love for me, but as I found out, it was only on her terms.

My neighbor told me once that if my Mom didn't want to be part of my non JW life, then that was HER choice. I guess thats very true. I know that you must feel terrible about losing your Mom. I did too. But as time goes on, I am finding other beautiful loving honest people to help fill the void. Find some! Contrary to what we've been taught at the hall, there are wonderful people out there that you can trust and that will love you unconditionally. I hope this helps a little. Hang in there and remember, that you are important too and what you want to do with your life. Don't forget that!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Please Welcome kidneybean

by outnfree in

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some of you will remember that i occasionally brag on my dear friend, jann, who has been such a wonderful, caring friend to me since i moved to michigan from ontario over 10 years ago and whose love and support i could not have done without recently when my mother fell ill and then died.

(rayzor is a cheerleader of hers, too!

) well, ten days ago, she finally joined the forum as "kidneybean," a reference to her new lease on life since last august thanks to an organ donor.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Welcome kidneybean! I look forward to your posts!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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April 04, 2004

by ChileanRick in

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hi dear friends....... .

one question.... what will you do next april 04, sunday?........

i know you have a lot of ideas for being so far from the kh that day, and not attending the memorial.

Strawberryfieldsforever

April 4th I'll just be arriving at my Dad's after a two day trip. We'll probably all be drinking!!!

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My baptism back into the world - my story

by a wee scots lass in

i was raised in 'the truth ' from the age of 9, when my parents came 'into the truth'.

i was the perfect little witness girl, went out in field service - without complaint, gave talks (well the way you do in two's when you are female!

), i was even on the list of people they called on when someone did not turn up to give their talk and would get up with only 30 min prep time!

Strawberryfieldsforever

What a great story! It will be an inspiration for all new ones and for us too! Thank you for sharing! And WELCOME

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Would You Stick Up For A Friend If They Were Being Dealt With Unjustly?

by minimus in

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i knew many people in the congregation that were dealt with terribly.

but most times, people were afraid to talk to the elders or were afraid they might get shunned by the more prominent ones in the congregation.

so they closed their eyes to their own friends being treated poorly and carried on as if nothing really was happening.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I was always afraid to speak up. I was programed to believe that Jehovah was taking care of things and just using the elders to do it. I would end up losing in the end......

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WTS can expand but can we?

by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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my husband was saying the other day how the wts can build all these new buildings and use modern technology to further themselves.

but we get looked down on if we build a new house or buy a new computer or new car etc......back when we were in there, they even looked down on starting our own business.

they kept saying it was too materialistic.

Strawberryfieldsforever

My husband was saying the other day how the WTS can build all these new buildings and use modern technology to further themselves. But we get looked down on if we build a new house or buy a new computer or new car etc......Back when we were in there, they even looked down on starting our own business. They kept saying it was too materialistic. Don't you think the WTS is doing that???

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I finally finished "Crisis of Conscience"

by Nosferatu in

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last night, i decided to finally finish off the book.

it takes me forever to read a book, and after a year, i've finally completed it.

quite a good book, although i found myself skimming through the last chapter called "perspective".

Strawberryfieldsforever

I really enjoyed CofC. I even gave it to my neighbor and after she read it she said she plans to use it in her church for information to help JW's get out. I thought that was really cool. I thought it was humbly written and not out to get the WTS.

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How to take down the WTS. Maybe for good.

by avishai in

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i just heard the most brilliant plan ever.

we draft an all purpose legal document to send to the wts stating that "i,__________ do not want any jw's ever coming to my door, please put me on the do not call list and send this to the congregation nearest me, if they do, i will construe this as harrasment and act accordingly" .

then we pass these out, do a mass mailing, give them to all of our friends, encourage people to make copies and give them to their friends, call it the sleep in on saturday document.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I agree with Freedom96.

They'll think it's a sign of the end. I try to imagine what my mother would think.....I know she would say its persecution just like the society said. Stronger they would become and start counting the days until Armaggedon.

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I've finally made a decision

by J.R.R.Watchtower in

hi friends!.

i've finally made a decision: i wil leave the wt in december 2004 or january 2005. please let me explain how i would manage this and i will also like to know your point of view or any other thing you would want to say.. i live in spain (as some of you know) in a city where there are 20 congregations.

i think that the elders would like to know the reason why i'm moving to another congregation.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I think it's great that you have a plan. It seems like a long time tho.....but then again, some of us here took a long time too. We can't say what to do unless we walk a miles in your shoes. Good luck and welcome to the board. I look forward to talking to you this next year. You'll need some friends while you make this big step!!!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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my first post in this forum

by trumangirl in

hello, just introducing myself.

i'm an inactive witness, been so for a few months now.

got put off mostly by 1914 being hammered more and more lately, the child molestation issue, the un-ngo thing and just feeling like i don't want to shoot my mouth off and get labelled apostate so best to fade out.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Welcome TrumanGirl!

Don't feel bad, I don't know how to load a photo either........guess I'm not a good computer person!