My dad was an elder too, well loved, well respected and adored by his congregation, do anything for anybody anytime.
He was however extremely dogmatic and unreasonable when it came to the organization. He knew he could not win me around, when I said I would never love a god willing to kill family members who are not devout JW's I would never want to live in paradise knowing billions had died. I was liberated from it and he knew it.
He thought he knew best..............He refused to come to my daughter's wedding as she was marrying a D'ad man, when it came to his loyalty to the JW's there was no reasoning with him.
He died two years ago and begged me to return to the congregation, he tried so hard but in the end in our last conversation just before he died,.. he told me he loved and respected me for taking my stand
all in all he did what he thought was right I miss him! but not his religious dogma.
I loved the man, my father and not the elder part of him
this thread had helped me so much more than you could believe possible thank you