Posts by happyagain

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My Story

by happyagain in

thank you for taking the time to listen.

i feel since i'm new i should share my story.

i was born a jw, my entire family at the time were all jw's.

Courage is something I had to learn at such an early age. Too early!! Any true follwer of christ would want to protect the children. JW's do just the opposite, they hang them out to dry. For what? For being typical teenagers? For having NORMAL hormones and emotions.

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My Story

by happyagain in

thank you for taking the time to listen.

i feel since i'm new i should share my story.

i was born a jw, my entire family at the time were all jw's.

happyagain

Hi everyone. Thank you for taking the time to listen. I feel since I'm new I should share my story. I was born a JW, my entire family at the time were all JW's. I knew no other way of life. Things were so great when I was younger, I loved my mom and dad, they loved each other, and we all loved Jehovah. But as I grew older I felt myself thinking outside the box. My father became an elder, my mother a regular pioneer. I felt so much pressure to be a pioneer myself. When I was a senior in high school I wanted a better life for myself, college, a career, but as we all well know, that was looked down upon for a young women. We were supposed to find a nice brother and get married and stay home, have babies, and pioneer. To me at 17 that was a load of crap!! I was DF'd at 18. My younger sister was happy with this, so of course that what she did. Me on the other hand ended up marrying way too young to a "worldly man" just to get out. He was physically and emotionally abusive. My parents only could say I told you so. Instead of going back I put all my energy into my career, becomming the younget Exec VP and partner of a large brokerage firm in Atlanta. I finally left my husband and finally decided to deal with my shame and guilt. I had such a fear of God, I felt I was never worthy enough, I felt I was going to be killed as soon as Armegedon came. I sought professional help, something that is so shunned as a JW. It took two years of therapy to undo all the hurt. My parents and my sister will have nothing to do with me still, and ten years later I have finally found TRUE happiness. I met my wonderful husband, have two beautiful children, a beautiful home, and after a succesful career, have chosen to stay at home and raise my kids. None of my family has ever met my husband or my children. I felt the need to get involved with this website to let all those know who are in doubt that it is possible to move on and be happy. I don't live in constant fear anymore that God is displeased, or that an elder will be calling my house to ask what I've been doing. I feel the need to help the young ones, I only hope I can be there to help. I chose not to allow my family to even try to be a part of our lives. I am now in control instead of being controlled.

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Shunned by Family

by happyagain in

so here's a question, where does the bible say god wants you to completely disown a family member for chosing to leave the congregation?

is that the god we have been taught to know?

how can they go from door to door trying to save strangers, when infact they don't even talk to there own family?

happyagain

I am just so outraged that this goes on and it seems they get no publicity for it. I feel that they are kept so undercover, why is that? This is the first time I have ever looked on the internet about JW's and I wish I had looked sooner. It seems there are so many of us with the EXACT same hurt. If this is such a true religion, why does it cause so many people so much pain?

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Shunned by Family

by happyagain in

so here's a question, where does the bible say god wants you to completely disown a family member for chosing to leave the congregation?

is that the god we have been taught to know?

how can they go from door to door trying to save strangers, when infact they don't even talk to there own family?

happyagain

You know it upsets me to no end. I guess the only bright side to this is they will not ever be subjected to closed mindedness of this religion. I haven't had my family to lean on in a long time, and now being a parent myself, I cannot see how anyone could ever turn their back on their own children. I know I never will.

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Shunned by Family

by happyagain in

so here's a question, where does the bible say god wants you to completely disown a family member for chosing to leave the congregation?

is that the god we have been taught to know?

how can they go from door to door trying to save strangers, when infact they don't even talk to there own family?

happyagain

What's even worse is my father, an elder, has never met either of his only granchildren, my mother, the regular pioneer, hasn't spoken to me in 4 years, my sister, the soon to be bethelite, hasn't spoken to me in 4 years either. How can this be considered Christian behavior?

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Shunned by Family

by happyagain in

so here's a question, where does the bible say god wants you to completely disown a family member for chosing to leave the congregation?

is that the god we have been taught to know?

how can they go from door to door trying to save strangers, when infact they don't even talk to there own family?

happyagain

So here's a question, where does the bible say God wants you to completely disown a family member for chosing to leave the congregation? Is that the God we have been taught to know? How can they go from door to door trying to save strangers, when infact they don't even talk to there own family?

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Another JV update

by JV in

well we had the co's visit tonight.

i can feel myself fading slowly away, i even called up some of my "worldly friends" and i even called up a girl who i had a huge crush on in high school with whom i've lost touch over the years.

why is everybody so chipper when the co visits?

happyagain

JV,

Ok, so this is the first time I have been to this site and already I fell like I should have been here all along. I feel as though I should grab you and help you get out. It is very tiring keeping up apearances, you don't have to!!! Get out while you can recover your life!!