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  Surgery for your child and the blood issue

  by anewlife in

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  monday morning my 14 y/o son was having severe abdominal pain in the lower right abdomen...diagnosis....appendicitis.

  needless to say an emergency appendectomy was performed.

  all went very well as they did the procedure laparoscopicly and therefore he went home in 24 hours and is recovering nicely.. my question/thought to others is this: i was df'd 2 years ago.

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  Thank all of you for your heartwarming responses and concerns!! What wonderful, caring people all of you are!

  Balsam, my heart goes out to you!!! It brought tears to my eyes just imagining what you must have experienced. Our children are the most precious things in our lives and I would be so devastated if I ever lost one. (((((((((((Balsam)))))))))) I'd give the hug to you in person if I could!

  Sam, I thank you for posting your experience. I will read it and appreciate your sharing.

  Again, thank all of you for your support. Nick is moving about pretty good today and has a regular 14 year old appetite again! LOL

  Much affection to everyone!

  Cheryl
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  Ladies - what's your favourite men's cologne?

  by Beck_Melbourne in

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  just a bit of fluff...what's your favourite men's cologne or women's perfume scent?.

  have you ever got a gentle wiff of a really nice cologne and wanted to ask the owner what the name of it is??

  if its a woman i will ask, only because i want to go out and buy some.

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  Hi Beck....we're actually on at the same time!!!

  I really like Hugo, Obsession and Eternity for men. When I'm in a mall and some guy walks by wearing one of these, I instantly turn my head to see who the cutie is (as he's got to be cute if he smells this good!) LOL

  Cheryl
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  Surgery for your child and the blood issue

  by anewlife in

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  monday morning my 14 y/o son was having severe abdominal pain in the lower right abdomen...diagnosis....appendicitis.

  needless to say an emergency appendectomy was performed.

  all went very well as they did the procedure laparoscopicly and therefore he went home in 24 hours and is recovering nicely.. my question/thought to others is this: i was df'd 2 years ago.

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  anewlife

  Monday morning my 14 y/o son was having severe abdominal pain in the lower right abdomen...diagnosis....appendicitis. Needless to say an emergency appendectomy was performed. All went very well as they did the procedure laparoscopicly and therefore he went home in 24 hours and is recovering nicely.

  My question/thought to others is this: I was DF'd 2 years ago. My ex-husband has not attended meetings in nearly a year, but claims to still be a "believer." Of course, as in any emergency medical situation, the blood issue is approached. The forms to sign were presented. When I was a JW and very strong, denying the intake of any blood was an easy decision for me...NO WAY! Now when faced with the possibility of my son being in a situation where it might be necessary to sustain his life, my decision was a no-brainer.....absolutely! Do what you have to do! His father was annoyed with me when I verbalized this as we read the form...so I gave him the form and said, "Here, read it and you tell me what you would do in a situation if they said our son may die without it." He then presented me with the what ifs....what if he gets AIDS or hepatitis and has complications from the blood and dies anyway...then who bears the responsibility for his death then? Well, I refuted his questions and said he is my son, I want him to have life now as I no longer believe in life everlasting...Life is today! He then hands the form to me and says, "I won't take any responsibility...you sign." I might mention my son was baptized when he was 10. As he laid there in pain awaiting surgery I asked him how he felt about the possibility of needing and taking blood...he said, "I don't care, it's fine with me." So I signed the form with no regrets. Well, as I stated above, all went well and the need for blood was never an issue....I'm glad, as this means there was minimal blood loss and he'll recover faster.

  I was wondering if anyone else has ever been in this type of situation and how you handled it? What were your feelings and thoughts at the time you were faced with this?

  Your thoughts and comments are appreciated.

  This is the first time I've ever started a topic... Thank you for reading/responding.

  anewlife
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  50 years today

  by Lady Lee in

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  i am 50 years old today.

  the world is a very different place from the one i was born into.

  i have been witness to the beginnings of television and the explosion in communications; cell phones and computers.

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  HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY LADY LEE!!!!

  I'm glad to be able to say this to you. I also want to say I've enjoyed reading some of your posts. If we ever met and you were to tell me about being abused....I also would be one who would respond, "Me too!" It's nice to "know" you. I'm happy you have sought out the counsel and therapy much needed by those of us who have been abused. I am doing the same and it is very, very beneficial.

  Enjoy your next 50 to the fullest!!

  Cheryl/Anewlife
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  A Timely warning regarding Disfellowshipping. A Mu

  by MARTINLEYSHON in

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  i have been disfellowshipped for 2 weeks.

  my story the shortened version.. i left the organisation 2years 2 months ago.

  i live 25 miles from the kingdom hall that i attended for 29 years, man and boy.

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  Martin & Simon I feel for you both. I have to agree with Eyeslice that there seems to be a "pulling of rank and politics" amongst the elders and in the congregations. From my own observations after years as a JW I saw that a lot depended on "who you were" as to the way a matter was handled. My question is Martin, if the body of elders felt that your not meeting with them was an act of disassociating yourself, then if that is proper protocol, shouldn't they just have stated that in an announcement rather than taking it upon themselves to "be kind" and disfellowship you? My opinion is both are equally tarnishing and damaging to you as a person, but because of "who you were" this was the decision that was made? Does that sound like the workings of a United Body or rather does it sound like personal opinions and feelings of imperfect men? Once again, my point is, Who are they as imperfect human beings to sit in judgement of others and presume to be able to read a person's heart and mind? This is a matter that should be left strictly up to God and Christ! Therefore, if one wants to leave ANY religion he should be able to do so quietly without any "announcement" of sorts and ultimately answer to God!
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  THANK GOD THE PRESS NEVER GOT HOLD OF IT!

  by bay64me in

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  i used to pioneer with a lady that was in her fifty's, brought up in the 'truth' and one of her boasts was that through the efforts of her mother, over a hundred people had been brought in.

  over a period of time she revealed many things that had gone on within the organisation one of them being a case of sexual abuse by a special pioneer that had been sent to the area.

  his victims were the young boys of a lady that was kind enough to give him a room to stay.

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  You're absolutely right! The "concern" has never been for the effects of the victims, but HOW the congregation would be effected and the "reproach" it would bring on Jehovah's name. Well, 25 years later, this still pisses me off! According to my mother, "the truth will fix it," therefore, my father never got any help, the elders were never told and she stayed with the $#^%*! He is a JW in good standing and is a ministerial servant at this time and he has the ordasity to "shun" me because of an act of infidelity that I was DF'd for! Make any sense to you? It doesn't to me!!

  (Sorry, I just really needed to get that off my chest! Thank you!)
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  To JWs: First Page of Crisis of Conscience

  by IslandWoman in

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  price of conscience.

  whether we like it or not, moral challenge affects each of us.

  it is one of life's bittersweet ingredients from which there is no successful escape.

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  Excellent summation IslandWoman!! Beautifully written, easy to follow, clear and concise. Have you ever considered writing for the back of a book cover? LOL

  Crisis of Conscience was one of the most straight forward, unbiased books I have ever read on any particular subject matter. One can easily form their own thoughts and opinions after reading this one!
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  What's Your Pet Peeve?

  by DB in

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  of course, the wts is pretty much a pet peeve of almost everyone here.

  but besides that, what's your pet peeve?

  i'm in a playful mood today, so here's mine, with some tongue-in-cheekiness, of course: .

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  People who call the doctor's office (where I work) and have a new ailment, but seem to think they need to start from the birth canal and tell you blow by blow of every scraped knee,hang nail and hemorrhoid they've ever had in their life only to finally get to the point that they've got a cold and would like to know what kind of cough syrup to use! Gee people...if you're going to do this then don't b*tch that YOU had to wait on hold for 5 minutes! The person before you probably is 10 years older than you and has had a lot more hemorrhoid problems than you did!

  Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!!
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  Do your parents still talk to you?

  by scootergirl in

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  just curious if your parents still have contact with you after you have been df'd/da'd.

  mine have stood by w/strong convictions not to have contact w/me.

  they have to have some being that i have kids that they want to see (but that is very minimal).

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  My parents and I haven't been close in years, but we "put on" the appearance for the rest of the congregation as if we were. Well when I was DF'd 2 1/2 years ago this became a nice "excuse" for them to not have to call me. At first this bothered me, but now I believe the decision they've made based on the Borg identifies the kind of true people they really are...unloving. Sad...very sad, but like Beck says, we have family right here and it really, truly helps. Beck and I have become like sisters! So, Scootergirl, you'll never be alone. :)
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  Dateline Ratings

  by WTLies in

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  does anyone know the ratings for last tuesday's dateline?

  just curious as to how many people actually saw the show.. william, .

  former member of a non-prophet.

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  Thanks BoozeRunner. I missed that thread! Sounds like we did fantastic in getting people to watch. Way to go!!!