While I understand your reasons for wanting to do so, I too suggest you reconsider meeting with elders.
Involving elders implies they are important or hold some power or authority. Now that you have left the religion, the only importance, power or authority they hold is what you allow them to have.
You and your husband are each other's chosen life partners. You are both individuals with individual thoughts, ideas and beliefs which do not always need to be identical to enjoy a great marriage. Even when you disagree, there should be no reason you can't discuss matters between yourselves to understand and accept each other's point of view.
Your husband insisting that you talk to elders implies he is not comfortable, assured or committed to the JW beliefs or the other concerns you wish to raise, otherwise, he should be able to discuss those matters without needing other men to intervene on his behalf.
He knows doing personal research into the concerns you raise will require effort on his part which may lead to his own questions and doubts. By insisting you meet with the elders, he is attempting to take the easy route as he knows he will not need to put in any effort and, they will attempt to change your thinking, not his.
You said: "He thinks that elders would be okay with me asking about these things and even said I should bring up an issue I had with a BOEs letter because "there must be a reason or more to the story."
Although he attempts to defend WTs actions, as a member of the congregation that can't explain the reasons, perhaps he, not you, should be demanding an explanation from the elders.
