Thank you for the info Baba, I will be checking it out. I am so baffled by this person who has been my MIL for 7 yrs... and she just keeps getting worse the older she gets.
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17Do you have a Narcissist Jw in your life?
by tika innarcissistic personality disorder is characterized by : .
believing that you are better than others being envious of others or believing others are envious of you.
fantasizing about power, success and attractivenesss trouble keeping healthy relationships.
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Just frustrated
by tika inthe last meeting my husband attended was the memorial 2 yrs.
ago last year we were visiting my family for easter or he would have went.
the last meeting i attended was the memorial 3 years ago.
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tika
The last meeting my husband attended was the memorial 2 yrs. ago last year we were visiting my family for Easter or he would have went. The last meeting I attended was the memorial 3 years ago.
Not to digress but, at that meeting an elder's wife inquired about my brother who is in prison and commented that "You don't need associations like that anyway" basically telling me it would be best for me to write him off. While I agree that my brother is where he should be, paying his debt to society... he is my baby brother. I was waiting for him 34 years ago when they brought him home from the hospital and I will still be waiting for him in 34 years when he comes home from prison. He is my family and I love him... no matter what. So at that memorial 3 yrs. ago I decided right then an there I wanted nothing to do ever with this religion or these people. It was the last straw for me.
I knew when the memorial was going to be this year long before my husband so I knew we would be out of town, unbeknownst to my controlling MIL. The Saturday before our trip, and the memorial, we had a gathering of his family in our home. MIL brought the paper invitation with her that night, which he laid on the buffet never mentioning to her our trip (for fear she'd invite herself along). After she left I threw the invitation away knowing he wouldn't be attending and the damn thing would just sit there. The following day SUNDAY (which is our day to relax and enjoy our home as a family without being disturbed by the outside world... here comes the elder who's wife p'd me off from MIL's congregation (one town away) to give my H another paper invite to the memorial. Upon his entrance to my home I promptly said "hello" picked up my dog and retreated to the computer room closing the door behind me. Not only did I not wish to speak to him, but since he stopped by unannounced I had no bra on under my pajamas so I felt quite justified in leaving my husband to deal with him. Fast forward to us returning from our trip, 2 messages on our machine from MIL requesting his attendance at the memorial... the 1st sounding pitiful and mopey, and the second very nasty, mean and full of rage. I about laughed my butt off. I heard the second message and laughed and told my poor husband "sounds like your in trouble". He is 41 years old and has been emotionally abused by her his whole life. The funniest part is he didn't even call her until the following evening.
Thanks everyone for listening, I would go insane if I didn't have you guys and gals to vent to. I wish everyday for the day my husband sees what I see.
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Do you have a Narcissist Jw in your life?
by tika innarcissistic personality disorder is characterized by : .
believing that you are better than others being envious of others or believing others are envious of you.
fantasizing about power, success and attractivenesss trouble keeping healthy relationships.
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I have found many intersting sites and support groups on NPD in the past week. Knowing that the disorder my MIL has a name and face and researching how to deal with the types of emotional (and other) abuse these people are capable of is IMO the first step in getting my marriage back on track! I hope this info will be helpful.
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Do you have a Narcissist Jw in your life?
by tika innarcissistic personality disorder is characterized by : .
believing that you are better than others being envious of others or believing others are envious of you.
fantasizing about power, success and attractivenesss trouble keeping healthy relationships.
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tika
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by :
Believing that you are better than others Being envious of others or believing others are envious of you
Fantasizing about power, success and attractivenesss Trouble keeping healthy relationships
Exaggerating your achievements or talents Setting unrealistic goals
Expecting comstant praise and admiration Being easily hurt and rejected
Believing that you're special Havinging a fragile self esteem
Failing to recognize other people's emotions and feelings Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
Expecting full compliance from others with your ideas and plans
Taking advantage of others
Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
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Dateline episode - Mistaken Identity
by Bonnie_Clyde inhttp://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23824767/.
did anyone see this last night?
just incredible!
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tika
I missed it but my aunt is from the same town as the girl who was in the hospital and told us how huge her funeral was. How heartbreaking especially for the family who thought all that time that their daughter was alive.
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JWs dont celebrate holidays or birthdays
by Elisabeta inor participate in numerous other "worldly" things but they do seem to be ok with committing adultery... .
maybe for the sole purpose of getting out of a marraige, who knows... i didn't think i was ever that bad, my kids say while there were moments that i was bad - he always "one upped me" - made my behavior justified.. in any case i am sure everyone here knows that jw's are a religious group of people that knock on your doors many days.
mostly on the weekends when your trying to sleep in or participate in some "indoor sports", lol... .
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Welcome Elisabeta!
I was never baptized either, but with a DH who was raised in the religion and several active inlaws, I feel the sting of hypocracy on an almost daily basis. Best wishes to you and your girls, you deserve a better life! tika
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Are scriptures missing from the Bible?
by tika ini have heard that the bible as we know it today is not in it's entirety.
i feel that this is deceptive and had people argue that the present day bible is how god intended us to read it because that is all we need/ it is presented how he wants us to have it.
i don't buy that and feel that god wouldn't "hide" any of the holy scriptures as men have done.
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I have heard that the Bible as we know it today is not in it's entirety. I feel that this is deceptive and had people argue that the present day Bible is how God intended us to read it because that is all we need/ it is presented how he wants us to have it. I don't buy that and feel that God wouldn't "hide" any of the holy scriptures as men have done. To me it seems that some man decided what he wanted in the Bible as we know it today. I don't think God had anything to do with it. Any thoughts?
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Who else has zero friends?
by tsunami_rid3r ini am now a junior in college, and i have my own place.
i don't really like having roommates at all.
i just left in the middle of a lease because my ex-roommate was being a pain in the ass.
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You are young and you will go out into the world of work in year or two and find people you have more in common with. I don't keep in touch with anyone I went to school with. The people in my life that I consider actual "friends" are few and far between because I don't trust very easily and it takes someone a long time of me knowing them to feel close and consider them a true friend. I am ok with that, I would rather have one true friend in this screwed up world than a million acquaintances, but that's just me. My son is the same way. Some of his teachers bug me about him being anti social. He is a homebody and is doesn't mind being alone or home with me and his step dad. I don't think there is a thing wrong with that. When you are young, your so called "friends" can sometime get you in a heap of trouble. Hope this helps, and don't feel too lonely. You just need to put some time between you and your mistakes, believe me, in a few years it won't even matter... you'll be onto bigger and better things!!
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How do people continue to buy into the Watchtower???
by integ infolks,.
with all the information out there, available for all to see; exposing the lies,hypocrisy, and outright ridiculousness (is that a word?..if not it should be) of this whole witness religion, how in the world are people still buying into this?.
is it because i don't have jehovah's spirit anymore?
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Not to mention, they drill it into your head not to seek out other information, that the garbage on the internet is from Satan, so alot of witnesses do not even seek out information. Many who do would just say we are evil for slandering the WT.
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5 stages
by Anti-Christ ini was thinking about the different stages we go through when we start to find out the lies of the jw.
i find they are similar to the stages someone might go through when they find out they are going to die soon.
i think this one is obvious.
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I think you are absolutely right. It is the process of grieving for a loss. Losing the core beliefs you were raised with is a huge one. My DH is in denial. I wish he'd move on to step 2. I think he would be much happier if he got rid of the chains that bind!