I will be calling my lawyer today to ask about how to proceed with this and my husband has written a letter to his sister telling her how it is and to stop at once with sending us things. I would have prefered that he go down to their home and let her have it but the thing is with that whole family they are VERY nonconfrontational. That is why she never calls here or actually stops by to talk to us . My husband is trying to hang on to the last thread of his entire familys conection with him. However I dont see that happening. I am fortunate in that the rest of my extended family are all non witnesses but he will have no one from his extended family after this. For that I am truely sorry for him. He feels that he will be starting a war with them . I Feel that the war has already been started and that we are the ones on the defense now . All we want is to be left alone and allowed to live our lives the way that we want and that includes celebrating holidays and letting our children think for themselves. The thing is , is that they treat us like we are disfellowshipped. We are still the same people we have not turned to a life of drugs and drinking and satan worship. But I guess when you are as brainwashed as they are you just cant believe that people who leave the orginization are still just good nice people who only want to live a life different from the witnesses. So I guess we wait and see what is going to happen now. I am just trying to keep calm, My doctor told me yesterday that my blood pressure was way up there, so I am keeping as calm as I can. I dont need any pregnancy complications right now to add to these other problems. Thank you all for your advice. I'll keep you all posted on what happens. I have to go pack away my christmas ornaments now . We really had a wonderful Christmas with our son.
annalice
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would you all consider this a serious threat????
by annalice inlet me start by saying that i have posted here before about my wacko sister -in-law.
this time it is bad.
we recieved a phone call from my husbands father on friday night asking about how we were and what we were up to ,no biggie just odd since its only maybe the second time in over a year that he has called.
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would you all consider this a serious threat????
by annalice inlet me start by saying that i have posted here before about my wacko sister -in-law.
this time it is bad.
we recieved a phone call from my husbands father on friday night asking about how we were and what we were up to ,no biggie just odd since its only maybe the second time in over a year that he has called.
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annalice
Let me start by saying that i have posted here before about my wacko sister -in-law. This time it is bad. We recieved a phone call from my husbands father on Friday night asking about how we were and what we were up to ,no biggie just odd since its only maybe the second time in over a year that he has called. My husband told him that we wernt up to much yada yada end of discussion. It was short and ended. We had my family over at the time and my sister staying with us for the Christmas weekend. So next day after being out shoping all day I come home grab the mail and see a card addressed to my husband in it is a very belated anniversary card with a whole bunch of scriptures all pertaining to Lot. only she left out lots name and put in my husbands name and anywhere it said wife she left that out and put in Son. So it read that Lot was to get out with his Son and leave all others behind because they were beyond help meaning ME. Then at the end of the anniversays card she said to my husband that he had her deepest sympathy.REal nice right? Wait there'more. So when looking at the envcelope we see that it was never postmarked that means she came by and put it in our mailbox. So yesterday I go out to get the mail and there is a card in there postmarked and the envelope has christmas decorations drawn all over it so I just figures it was late getting here so I open it and it is a Christmas card but it starts out inside by saying. " I WILL BURY YOUR CHILDREN AT ARMAGEDDON BUT YOUR WIFES BODY CAN ROT!! YOU LIED TO DAD THE OTHER NIGHT YOU HAD CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS UP AND PEOPLE OVER AT YOUR HOUSE. YOU ARE LYING TO YOUR SON!!! STOP LYING TO YOURSELF. YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR SON TO THE MEETINGS AND IF YOUR WIFE WANTS TO BE LIKE THAT AND CHEAT!!! ON YOU YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER BEHIND!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Ok so that shows that she drove by our house and spied on us on friday night. But where the whole cheating thing came from i have no fraking idea. I am 6 months pregnant and have a 1year old at home and i totaly love my husband .so is she making up lies now to get him to leave or is there some rumor going around i dont know about. I am still trying to get ahold of a friend who is still a witness to find out the latest gossip on that one. So my course that i feel i should follow is photo copy all of this material and all the other things she has sent in the past and send them along with a letter to her elders of her congregation asking them to deal with her and that if they do not i will be conntacting the courts to file an order of protection against her and I will have it servedto her when she is there at a sunday meeting. Would you all consider something like this a serious enuogh threat? Do you think the elders would help on this or ignore it since we are fade aways and dont count anymore. I think also maybe i should let them know that i will make this a public as possible will that get them moving on this ? I know the witnesses dont like bad publicity. I am definatly locking my doors she is totally gone off the deep end.
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Who is DF/DA or Fader???
by mama1119 ini was just wondering, how many dfed to we have on here compared to da or faders??
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annalice
My husband and I are Faders. I would love to DA myself but do not do so only because I know it would only cause alot more problems for my husband who is already getting treated like dirt from his family. They are all BIG time witnesses , in my family however only my mother is a JW and she barely goes anymore herself ,but she's still a true beliver of all witness things. However if his wacko sister continues to send us threatening letters in the mail I feel that I will DA myself so she will maybe stop her nonsense.
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Do you get stressed talking to JWs?
by jwfacts ini am a salesman, so will talk to anyone, anytime without fear.
but for some reason, everytime i need to speak to a jw i get a huge rush of nerves.. i also am an accountant and do tax returns, and this year lost most of my jw clients.
some went to another accountant in the congregation.
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You know its funny that you bring this up. Just last night my friend and I were talking about this same thing. She posts on this site also. I have been out for eight or nine years now and we were saying how its almost like stages you go through when leaving. For a long time I would get knots in my stomach whenever I ran into a witness but the longer that I've been out the stronger I have gotten. Those people are just that ,PEOPLE. They should not make us feel that way . I now see that they should be nervous of seeing me. I am the stronger one not them ,I can now think for myself ,all I feel now when I see any of them is pity ,for them and their sad little narrow world that they will always live in. They are no different from you or I, they still sit on a toilet and take a crap just like the rest of us. Only for them ,when they do, they see it as a blessing from Jehovah. We just see it as plain CRAP.
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No Tag At My Son's School....
by Why Georgia inperhaps some of you have seen this on the news.
my son's school has gotten national attention because the ban on tag.
i went to the pto meeting and spoke with the principal.
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WOW that is so stupid, why don't we just send our children to school in plastic bubbles? I had not heard of these childrens games being banned . It is all so stupid. I have read some articles on teachers no longer being able to use red ink to mark papers, they feel that the color red represents violence and anger so they are telling teachers in some schools to switch to "nice" "happy" colors. How stupid is that?
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In-laws getting in the way...
by roflcopter inmy marriage has been hitting rocky roads lately because the in-laws know my stand as far as what i feel about jehovah's witnesses.
every 3 days or so they send my wife a letter full of propoganda and how she needs to come back home, yadda yadda.
it truly is recking my marriage.
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I am sorry that you are having to go through this . I am in a similar situation. My in laws and physco sister in law are doing this to my husband . They believe that I have forced him to leave the "truth" and that the whole reason he has left is because of me. He is constantly being sent letters addressed only to him about coming back and they want him to bring our 12 month old son along also. I geuss I'm just considered a lost hope ,so toss her aside and save yourself they feel. When these letters come in the mail now I just write on them "return to sender- we do not accept cult related letters". Keep strong in your beliefs that you are doing the right thing for yourself. Sometimes I think its the only way these people can deal with a loved one leaving is to point the blame on another person. They just can't accept the fact that someone they love actually wants to leave and has made this decission all on their own. That is what I am trying to get my husband to say to his family ,but as of right now He is still just letting the blame fall on me. But I am happier now than I've ever been , I enjoy the freedom of being able to think for myself. All of us who have left are the truely the strong ones, we all tower over the witnesses with the strentgh we now have . Enjoy your freedom and tell your inlaws to go to hell.
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Info on "big" announcement from those who still attend.
by annalice infor all of you who still attend meetings, have any of you actually heard about a big announcement coming up, or is this just something somebody here made up?
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For all of you who still attend meetings, have any of you actually heard about a big announcement coming up, or is this just something somebody here made up??
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HELP ,need advice about wacko sis-in-law
by annalice ini have posted a topic on this before back on march 21,06 .i wrote about how she had made up her own disasociation cards for us and had sent us some disturbing letters.
well now we have a new letter from her ,it was addressed to our 11 month old son, care of his father.
in the envelope she has actually taken the time to photo copy the exodus account of the of the first born sons of all egyptions being killed by gods angel.
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I have posted a topic on this before back on March 21,06 .I wrote about how she had made up her own disasociation cards for us and had sent us some disturbing letters. WELL now we have a new letter from her ,it was addressed to our 11 month old son, care of his father. in the envelope she has actually taken the time to photo copy the Exodus account of the of the first born sons of all Egyptions being killed by Gods angel. AND she took the time to laminate the five pages and make holes and turn it into a little book for him.and on the very back of the book is a photo copied image of the cat in the hat reading to a little cat in the hat from a Dr.Suess book. she also included in the book a picture from the My Book of Bible Stories of the Egyptian mother holding her dead son in her arms while the father sits and hangs his head down in sorrow and regret. She asks my husband if he can please read this story to our son. So what the heck do I do now??? MY sons birthday is in a week ,I said we should send her a birthday invitation.,my husband said "no dont stir the pot" I'm sorry but I think that pot has been stirred for some time now ,and not by me. I think that from now on when something from her comes in the mail I should just put RETURN TO SENDER on the item and send it back unopened. My friend suggested that instead I should place the item in another envelope and send it back to her parents whom she still lives with at the age of 32. (YIKES). I dont believe that they know she is doing these things and maybe they would say something to her , I don't know. Another suggestion I recieved was to send all of these items, because I have saved them all and have photo copies of them, but instead send them all to the Elders of her congregation asking them to please speak with her. I don't think the Elders would be very happy that a sister of their congregation is making up her own Disasociation cards and sending them out . Apparently my husband does not want to confront her on this and put a stop to it. She has basically dismissed me as a waste of time and is only interested in saving my husband and child. Thats just great, now I am going to have another baby this coming April what will she send that one to read? I might just have to take these items to the local police station if know one stops this and get an order of protection to stop this harrasment. Any suggestions ??
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Can the women wear pants YET?
by annalice ini have not been an active witness active for several years now.
so are the women still being forced to wear skirts and dresses still?
i really think that the whole dress thing has been for some time now very outdated.
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I have not been an active witness active for several years now. So are the women still being forced to wear skirts and dresses still?
I really think that the whole dress thing has been for some time now very outdated. Womens pant suits are very dressy looking and if a woman came to my door wearing one I would see her as a very professionally dressed woman. I mean PLEASE do they still really think they look professional wearing their K-mart Jacklyn Smith collection rayon blouses with those ugly no shape skirts? Or how about the ones who wear the jumper dresses? Oh thats real professional looking. What about the classy way they look in the middle of winter in those horrible long skirts and big old nasty boots just trying to keep themselves warm while and nice freezing cold wind blows rigth up your skirt. So has there been any talk of changing that policy? Or are the brothers still wearing the pants? And I'm sorry to say but have any of you ever seen how short some of the sisters wear their skirts! including the Elders wives and their daughters. And they say nice pair of pants is not for a woman to wear? OH PLEASE!
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Anyone in Upstate NY?
by What-A-Coincidence indue to a new business venture ... the family is relocating.
hopefully this will help our fade.
gonna be nice to leave this congregation.
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I live in the Saratoga county region.