i was raised from birth as a jehovah's witness, but have been disfellowshipped for 13 years.
alot of ex- witnesses are bitter and bad mouth the witnesses, but my experience has left me feeling this way: being in the "truth" makes some people happy, and they are truly doing what is right in their own heart, and to condemn them for that is wrong.
as much as we oppose the witnesses and can see the real trurh, everyone is entitled to believe what they choose, and i truly believe that if someone is doing what is right in their heart and it makes them truly happy, then god will love them for the pureness of their heart.
Hi Searching4?. Personally, I'm not the least bit bitter. We had alot of good friends that we left behind when we left the organization. And a few that turned out to be not so good. We realized that if they were happy there was no point trying to dissatisfy them. We nearly got ourselves df'd by talking to friends who appeared to be dissatisfied. They were actually just complainers, upset that they weren't being promoted as fast as they thought they should be.
Cellist
to those of you that have been jw's for many years... i would like to know how it is that you have transferred to your new life.
my family and i are in the process, actually, we have left because of many of the issues brought up on this forum.
this, being jw's, is all that we have ever known.
Hi Lo-ru-hamah, welcome to the board.
And a welcome to you, too, Toby888.
It does get better with time. You can't rush the process. Although, studying and seeing where the Society is wrong does help.
Cellist
hello this is my first time on this web site.i am an inactive jw.
married to a jw.didnt believe in there teachings for many years.. looked and read at your site for along time.
its one of the best.iam not very good at typing or spelling.and cyber communication.. hard to have a marriage when one believes and the other one doesnt.we were both raised jws .but i changed and she didnt.. common story.too years to learn to think for myself.
Hi Cranwood. Welcome to the board.
Cellist
i'm glad you found us.
siddown and take a load off.
lots to read especially under bestof!.
Yes, welcome to the board.
Cellist
my daughter has been diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome/fibromyalgia.
several questions: are they one in the same, are there any good web sites to look over?
also, when she was young she was abused/molested over a several year period.
I don't know about CFS, but fibromyalgia is thought to be possibly triggered by stress, illness or injury.
Cellist
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name responsibilities that sisters could have had at the hall, that doesn't go against bible principles?.
why couldn't they have passed the microphone?
I had the "privilege" of typing the school schedules. Does that count? The one hall we attended had very nice elders. They were more than happy to share the work, not at all chauvinistic. I had other "priviliges" as well, but I'm afraid of identifying myself if I list them.
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this is a new thread started from the one my husband left yesterday............ hi everyone,this is gringojjs wife.i thankyou all for your comments and your help,really makes me feel better about my situation especially since i see that most of what im going through alot of you have been through the exact same thing.it makes me realize im not the only one and that i can get through this tough time like most of you have.i can really identify with the poster who made the comments about being scared after leaving,not realizing if it was the right decision or not.i am really scared of armagedon,of invisible wicked forces the wts teaches you to turn away from,just like the poster i watched a horror film a couple nights ago and it was about demonism,i was extremely scared i was going to be bothered by the demons for getting involved in watching those kinds of movies.its ridiculus how scared i was,just believing in satan and his demons,and what they could or could not do.something my husband doesnt really understand because he doesnt believe in satan or jehovah or a god at all,but when you do believe its scary to think you are upseting god or on the side of satan.i dont know where i am at right now i do know that im confused,the witnesses coming to the door,halloween coming up......which btw i celebrated last year but my concience is really doing me in this time.........i dont know what to do with the kids !
do they celebrate do they not?i dont know, when the time comes mabe i will but i know one thing i have to make a choice, for my husbands sake,for my sanity,and for our children.i am glad i have people to share my pain and suffering with,my mother says i dont want to suffer at all because im afraid of losing my husband if i become baptized,she says thats what you have to do for the truth....suffer....im not going to be happy suffering through life and for what?mabe nothing.i am not afraid of losing my husband i am afraid of dissapointing my mom but im not going to stay in a religon that makes me totally screwed up in the head.i used to have panic attacks when i was attending meetings i havent had one since not attending,i still have exterme anxiety from worry and fear but no panic attacks....hm....go figure!last thing,the other day a born again christian approched me by my local post office and asked me if i was interested in attending his church.i simply told him no thankyou my children are already screwed up enough from the jws.
Hi acuragirl. Welcome to the board.
Cellist
heya, i'm new to the site(no shit huh?
), was actually found a couple of weeks ago by legolas on another board, he recommended me to come here, i've been out of the organisation for about 2-3 years now.
i'm from the uk, i'm currently studying for a degree at a local university, and working in a record store, and to be honest the last 3 years have been the best years of my life.
Welcome to the board, Jordan
Cellist
just wanted to pop in and say hi.. i'm from the uk and have made quite a few ex jw friends.
we have met up a few times, and it's great to be with others who understand (my sense of humour lol!).
i have been df for 14 years, and in the process became the black sheep of the family ( a familiar story).
Welcome to the board, Doffy and William.
Cellist
elder david nesler was arrested in jackson california for striking his teen-age daughter (also a jw) in front of a high school.
he is currently released and an active jw member who is allowed to participate in meetings, although his status as an elder is unknown.. this was not alleged to be sexual abuse, but it does certainly call into question the discretion of this elder.
if this is what he does in public...?.
Oh, I forgot to say. Welcome to the board, Follow the Leader.
Cellist
