You can't live for others and be happy if you're being inauthentic. Not in the long run. So who are you and what do you want? You're going to endure pain in this one way or the other so you might as well endure the pain that moves you forward toward growth and living your life in a way that fits you.
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Anyway coming back from my blunder?
by Crazyguy2 inmy oldest boy got pissed that i started going back to meetings so i had one last conversation with him as he moved out.
(only went back to try and not loose whole family) during the conversation things got a bit heated and i mentioned a couple of false prophecies in the bible the rest of family heard so now they think i don’t believe at all.
guess their right think my going back was just a ruse, yes that’s true to.
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Unpopular Opinion on Convention Protests
by Jehalapeno ini think it's really sad that people that wasted countless hours preaching for a cult are deciding to waste more hours on that same cult after leaving it.. get a hobby.
enjoy life.. "the best revenge is a life well-lived.
" - some person said this..
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dubstepped
The protest, as far as I know, isn't some aggressive screaming match. It's a peaceful protest as far as I know. I know that it helps PIMOs that have to go as they secretly are excited to see others that are out around them. I know that it helps those that are protesting to feel seen, to get some camaraderie around a shared trauma, and it helps give some media attention at times to the voices of those wanting to be heard. Done right it does create questions in the minds and hearts of people that see the protest that are open to it. Advertising of sites that can be accessed from private devices could lead some that are questioning to finally look up "mentally diseased" sites like JW Facts. You never know who might be impacted to leave, to know that there are others like them out there, etc.
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My JW mom tried telling me this
by Jayk ingoing thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago.
this girl i was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago.
she springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights.
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dubstepped
Is this "Sara", who you posted about 6 months ago that spit in your face, took a bunch of pills, and claimed to have had a relationship with your friend "Tim"? Or is this your "shameless" relationship with your ex-wife who has all kinds of problems?
My point? Look at the relationship drama you have. I remember pointing out that you have involvement in the drama and should see a therapist. Did you ever do that? Because you're attracting and dealing with people with a lot of issues. Why do you do that? The scenarios you bring here are highly dysfunctional and one common theme is you.
I say this, not to blame you, but you're the only person in any of these scenarios that you can control or have any hold on. Your mom, your girl, your ex, lots of people all causing your problems, and maybe they genuinely are, but why do you put up with it? Why do you keep putting yourself in these situations? Those are questions that once you have answers to might help you find a different type of person and relationship, because right now they all seem to be train wrecks.
I could ask all kinds of questions here for this one scenario to try to grasp the ins and outs, but I'll leave that to others. I just wanted to point out that this isn't an isolated incident and if nothing else you may have a bad picker. You need to get to the root of why that is and how you can better yourself. Not trying to pile on, I say this because I'd like to see you not have to make these posts and to find healthier options in your life. You blew up at your girl, almost did at your mom, I hope to see you live a life where you aren't having to feel like blowing up and where you don't have all of this drama, and if none of this has anything to do with you then you're powerless to change anything.
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School task on Jehovas Witness
by Balder ini am writing an essay on jehovas witness and i have a question for you.
what does a normal day of a jehovas witness consist of?
how is your day different from other's?
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dubstepped
Hi Balder! If you want to learn about the lifestyle, because it's not like regular church, I recommend you listen to the podcast This JW Life. You don't have to listen to the whole thing but I detail what that life is like. The meetings, the organizational structure, and how they manipulate people. Listen to episode 4 and 5 to get a better understanding. You can listen to 2-5 for even better understanding, or all of the episodes, but 4 and 5 might really help your assignment.
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Mental Health and Ex-JWs - My interview with ICSA
by dubstepped ini was interviewed by the international cultic studies association and the video from the live stream a few weeks ago has been released.
if you're an ex-jw i'd encourage you to watch and share.
the objective of this video is to help those that leave jehovah's witnesses to identify patterns and psychological problems that may be present in their lives and to help professional therapists and coaches to do the same.
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dubstepped
I'm hoping that it helps others. So many struggle to find a therapist or someone that understands. They don't want to have to basically indoctrinate their therapist to help them understand so that then they can help them untangle it all. If we can educate the therapists at scale we can help the helpers, so to speak. And if we can help those suffering to have the verbiage to use when they go in, to know what patterns might be playing out in their lives, it gives them a running start instead of having to go backward in order to go forward.
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Mental Health and Ex-JWs - My interview with ICSA
by dubstepped ini was interviewed by the international cultic studies association and the video from the live stream a few weeks ago has been released.
if you're an ex-jw i'd encourage you to watch and share.
the objective of this video is to help those that leave jehovah's witnesses to identify patterns and psychological problems that may be present in their lives and to help professional therapists and coaches to do the same.
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dubstepped
I was interviewed by the International Cultic Studies Association and the video from the live stream a few weeks ago has been released. If you're an ex-JW I'd encourage you to watch and share. The objective of this video is to help those that leave Jehovah's Witnesses to identify patterns and psychological problems that may be present in their lives and to help professional therapists and coaches to do the same. These insights are gleaned from my own experience personally, my observations in years of interactions in ex-JW communities including my own, my interviews for the Shunned Podcast, and from professionally coaching individuals that have reached out to work through their past and to work on building a better future.
This can be used to help your therapist to understand where you're coming from. This can also be used to help you understand and identify roles that you're playing out in your own life and some of the reasons behind it.
My current projects:
https://thisjwlife.com/ - this is my story
https://shunnedpodcast.com/ - listen to the stories of others
https://shunnedpodcast.com/shunned-recovery-project/ - online meetups for those who are shunned
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Fast and Furious Actor, ex-JW.
by Lost in the fog inluke evans still finds birthdays ‘weird’ after being a jehovah’s witness.
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https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/13/luke-evans-still-finds-birthdays-and-christmas-weird-after-being-a-jehovahs-witness-for-16-years-11097283/.
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dubstepped
Michelle Rodriguez of Fast and Furious fame is also an ex-JW.
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ALJ denies refund to tax-exempt to Watchtower
by Rattigan350 inhttps://www.lexology.com/library/detail.aspx?g=8bdcae82-b20f-4ac4-9c04-4b1cf1191aab.
alj denies refund to tax-exempt religious organization .
finding that a tax-exempt religious organization failed to meet the requirements of the statute providing for exemptions from the motor fuel tax for exempt organizations, a new york state administrative law judge has upheld the department of taxation and finance’s denial of a refund.
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dubstepped
So they don't like strict interpretations of written words.... first I've heard of it.
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I'm Awake!
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JW's ransom sacrifice DOGMA
by The Fall Guy init-2 p. 735 ransom - “the real ransom (a) sacrifice.....would have to correspond (b) to the perfect adam......and enslavement into which their first father adam had sold them.
only thereby could he satisfy god’s perfect justice (c) that requires like for like...(d)’”.
a) can a ransom redeem something which wasn't lost – i.e.
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dubstepped
Once I started thinking for myself this stuff didn't add up. Two imperfect people sinned yet one coming from his sky daddy could fix it all and somehow balance the scales of justice? Is this just because women don't count?
And what did it really prove? Jesus wasn't some ordinary human. He had magic powers and Adam nor Eve had those. He had a prehuman existence and relationship with god and still asked why his father had forsaken him while going through this, not the bastion of strength one expected, not a fair comparison with those that failed.
I guess justice was on a BOGO sale that day and didn't truly require a true like for like exchange.