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  Marrying out of the truth poem!

  by DagothUr in

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  2. friends

  marrying out of the truth !!.

  (author's name removed to protect privacy).

  he or she-- doesn't love jehovah .

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  I was on JW Talk maybe 2-3 years ago and that poem was posted. I spoke out about how ridiculous it was and don't remember getting much support. One member there was married to an unbeliever and sent me a pm thanking me. Even when I was still in I couldn't stand such bull poo. It's a very hostile poem. I hate their attitudes.
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  Help Me Regain Contact With My Still In Family

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  situation is, i'll never return to the wt.

  my family with never leave the wt.. depending on who you ask you'll get the following answers when you ask about me:.

  my family: he's confused.

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  Thinking of you, your mentally disabled brother, and your daughter, completely breaks my heart. There is a very slim chance at some point that they will see you again, but you and I know the harsh reality for most. I'm so sorry. My family shuns me, and my wife's shuns her too, after we DA'd last year. They know it was all our choice but they have to shun. Our families are punitive enough that they probably don't want anything to do with us on that reason alone. Rules are more important than anything.
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  Fading 2.0

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the following examples are true.

  witnessed by myself and many many other jw's of my age generation.. they're examples of a successful fade, and a failed fade and what we can learn from them.. the successful fade.

  sister c - she gets baptized at 19yo.

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  I think Sister C also got the benefit of being an elder's daughter in the hierarchy for many years. It puts some people (particularly attractive, popular people) on a pedestal that's hard to knock them off of. For a tragedy to strike one of the beautiful people makes it even more tragic, and then the scenario you outlined takes place.

  Nice observations!
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  How To Spot A Cult - This is what started woke me up!!

  by pale.emperor in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this is the article that woke me up.

  i felt sick after reading it.

  then sad.

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  Let's review......it's a cult!
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  Why are anniversaries allowed but not birthdays?

  by hyperpen in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the scripture quotes aside, i was always told that we don't celebrate birthdays because that is a celebration of the self, which has no place in jehovah's organization.

  then why celebrate anniversaries?

  anniversary celebrations are about the joining of two selves, isn't that twice as selfish?.

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  Marriage is God's arrangement. Birth isn't, see Adam and Eve. Why not?
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  Don't have sexual fantasies! Today's watchtower...

  by purrpurr in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  the watchtower today says not to think of sex, or to have sexual fantasies.

  i'm just wondering... how many people in the hall hearing this watchtower today would be having sexual fantasies?

  sitting there thinking about sister hottie or brother hunky ?.

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  What about sexual fantasies in the context of other fantasies, like the panda paradise (and no, not with the pandas)?
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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  You're a good friend HB! I'll bet he never forgets that party. Heck, I'd like to go to that party myself as it sounded fun. My wife and I threw her party and we've never even been to a birthday party before, so we had no clue what traditions were or what was normal. We did some digging online but ultimately we did it our way. You hit the nail on the head about children not getting their own special day and their self-esteem. Heaven forbid you ever feel good or special as a kid without it being praise for giving a good presentation or talk at the freaking Kingdom Hall. Outside of that you knew you were pretty much worthless. Heck, even God's hope for you was nothing more than "undeserved kindness" for the sinful little kiddos. Ugh, makes me sick. So glad to be out, and happy that you were never a part of it but helped your friend like that.
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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  Thanks! I love giving gifts and it would be one of my "love languages". Maybe because we grew up poor and gifts were hard to come by with no holidays, but a good gift shows that a person is trying hard to think and feel you. I have a lot of fun with it. My wife and I didn't celebrate holidays for 16 years but she got plenty of surprise gifts. I've made grown men cry with the gifts I've gotten them. It's just a natural skill and I get something out of it too when my gift has an impact.
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  I GOT OUT!!! ❤️

  by UNCONDITIONAL LOVE in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this is a inspirationally great song for those who are escaping and have escaped the jw cult or any form of cult.

  i know it has truly aided and helped me.

  does anyone know if lauryen hill or her family was a former jw, from the lyrics it may seem so.... https://youtu.be/0hdztvh8mvw.

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  Okay, maybe I'm wrong, but it sounds more like she's talking about getting out of the societal norms and traditions and turning to God because she knows her condition. The material world is stealing her eternal soul. I'm down with the "just get out" message, but the song seems like an encouragement to "just get out" and turn to God, something that many here see as an oppressive message that includes mind control and traditions and all of the bad things she's saying to just get out of just in a different part of life (spiritual or religious versus material).
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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  Haha Cangie, I understand. The 4th of July party I went to was something my friend was invited to and he asked if I could come. He had friends there and talked to them and I was just an outsider through the whole thing. It was like I crashed a family reunion where everyone was happy to see each other and having a wonderful time but me. I tried to initiate conversations and the people gave me one word answers or maybe once sentence tops and showed their disinterest in discussing things with me. It was b-r-u-t-a-l, but like I said the fireworks display was very nice. There was good food too. I tried to explain how I felt to my friend and didn't know if he was getting it so I told him that if I wanted to be ignored I could go to a Kingdom Hall. He got that for sure. Those deja vu moments are a little jarring. Go have your party, and have fun!