Obsession for Men...occasionally.
Corvin,
You didn't have to cut off your face on the picture, we have already seen your face on the old avatar! LOL.
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What do you smell like?
by Stefanie in.
what kind of perfume or cologne do you like wearing?.
i wear vanilla lace by victorias secrets..
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Celebrating my birthday for the 1st time in 14 years.....................
by BLISSISIGNORANCE in......................i'm 45 today.
tonight my kids, hubby and close friends are taking me to an old english style pub for dinner and ale!!!!!!!!!!.
oh how good it is to be out of the borg and celebrating life again.. hope you all have as good a day as i'm having!.
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exjdub
Happy Birthday Bliss!!! I celebrated mine for the first time last month and it felt great!
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What open spaces do jws provide?
by badboy inin the describtion given in the charity commission website,they give providing open spaces as one of the things they do,what open spaces?
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exjdub
The wide open spaces in their heads!!!!
exjdub (who once had open spaces there too, but decided to fill them after he left the Org.)
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What sister elder said at the book study..........ARRRGH
by Pistoff inhello all; my jaw dropped monday at the bookstudy.at the book study on monday, the only meeting i can stomach anymore, a statement was made that made my blood boil.
in asking the question "how does god protect us?
" sister elder answered this way: "well, one of the ways is like that abuse case that was filed in the (twin) cities, or wherever, (sic) it turns out it was thrown out because all the charges were false, or whatever.
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The fall out of shunning
by unbeliever inmy mom has shunned my df'd sister for 10+ years.
my brothers and i are not baptised and she will have a relationship with us even though its very strained.
we have gotten together a few times over the years and had a meal together that mom cooked.
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unbeliever,
It is heartwarming to see you stand up for your sister, and I agree with RunningMan, the only way to stop the whole concept is to stop playing the game. It's sad, but I see it expressed on the board, that people that are the innocent parties feel in the middle because a JW refuses to go to a function with somebody DF'd. If the JW refuses to go, that is their choice, but THEY are the ones who should suffer the loss of the function, not the DF'd one. They are making the choice. When they make the choice, they should be willing to suffer the consequences of their decision. When they impose this decision on others in the family, and they are not willing to accept the loss of the family function or the rift that ensues, then that is emotional blackmail.
I told him that we were not doing her dirty but at worse we were incredibily insensitive for not realizing how she felt. We were totally oblivious to this until her husband pointed it out to us. We canceled the dinner because we felt like shit and we went to her house and had dinner there. The subject was never brought up.
I am a believer in repairing damage whether intentional or not. Bring the subject up to your sister. Apologize for causing hurt even though it wasn't intentional. It can go a long way in healing hurt feelings. I am sure that she will understand and will feel loved by your willingness to repair the hurt. She will also feel loved for your position with your mother.
When I was a dub I refused to go to 2 of my nephews weddings because I was a MS. One of my nephews was baptized but inactive, the other one was never baptized. It caused a great deal of hurt when I did not go. Even though my intention was not to hurt I crushed both of them. When I left the Org I decided to address the issue up front and apologized for my decision and expressed regret that I did not attend the weddings. We now are very close again, and the interesting thing is, they both blamed the Org (even though ultimately I made the choice) and forgave me because they understood the pressure that I was under. Heartfelt apologies and forgiveness are some of the greatest gifts we can give to one another. Regards.
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An average Americans view of the French people
by Maverick ini have just returned from spending a week in the company of frenchbabyface, (fbf) and would like to share some basic observation that i feel will enlighten my fellow countrymen and women about a people we, as a culture, actually know very little about.
i do believe the medias of both countries do not show their people an honest and forthright view of the other countries people.
the american media gives us almost no news of france and most of what we do get is not very positive.
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exjdub
Maverick,
Very nice post, and well said. It is disconcerting to know that the french people think all americans worship Bush, but I guess there are many americans who do the same thing with other countries. Look at the prejudice and twisted thinking that went on after 9/11. Nobody from the Middle East was safe for a while it seemed, and there was a great deal of mistrust. I think you touched on an important point...the media, from both countries, have really done us a disservice by focusing on the negatives (as is their habit), rather than accurately portraying the feelings of the common people.
I live in a tourist town in Florida so I know how the locals feel in general about visitors and how we stay away from them personally. Example, I go to the places they don't know about and when I want to play at a tourist spot I know when most of them will not be around and go then.
I agree with that as well. I lived in Orlando for 3 years, right between Universal Studios and Disney. Oftentimes we would see the very worst in people. Rude driving, rude behavior, demanding people. Obviously this is not the case with all people that go to Orlando, just as it is not the case with all people who visit France, but it does seem to be a common occurence in tourist destinations.
It must have been great to visit the marketplaces with small markets that have the wine, fresh breads and cheeses and unusual products from around the world. I wish Florida had that type of atmosphere but, sadly, I don't think we will ever have a great marketplace or a great transit system.
Please share some more of your observations.
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JWD half-way house...
by onacruse indo you see jwd as a half-way house?.
my opinion: if it's not, then we've done nothing other than join another religion (the "anti-wts-ism" church just around the corner, praise god).. if it is a half-way house, then there comes a time when we must move on.... or are there other good and sufficient reasons to 'stick with it'?.
your thoughts?.
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exjdub
I learn so much from the folks at JWD. And hopefully, I make a contribution as well. Sticking around here does not mean that I am stuck. It just means (to me) that I finally have a place to go, where others understand the hell I have been through.
What Talesin said above speaks for me as well. I think JWD is many things to many people, but I think that changes all of the time, at least it does for me. When I first came here my fingers couldn't stop. I had waited 7 years to say some of the things that I have said here because I didn't know places like this existed when I left the Org. Now I come in frequently to read and to catch up, but I don't always post, or sometimes I will post just one or two things. I like the pub analogy, I think that explains it really well.
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I motherproof my house...........
by desib77 ini'm so ashamed.
here i am 26 years old and i have to go through my house and make sure there isn't anything that might possibly offend my mother.
i plan to do this before her visit next weekend.
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Desi,
This just occurred a short time ago with us. My wife's parents were coming for a visit from out of state and I had just had my birthday a week prior to their arrival. As it turns out my wife also was out of town and was due to arrive the same day as her parents. She called me up and asked if I would remove everything so as not to offend her parents. I removed everything...except I forgot the HUGE display of cookies, that friends sent through a service, that were iced with pictures of birthday cakes, candles, and other obvious birthday references...DOH!!!! We sure had a good laugh later.
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JWD maps - Where are you?
by Lady Lee indue to a problem with the server i was using for the maps i have had to move them so we can still have access to them and post them here.
so if you were wondering where we are from.
or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.. ballistic has done an amazing job with the map of the uk you can find it at .
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exjdub
Thanks Lady Lee, I appreciate it.
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JWD maps - Where are you?
by Lady Lee indue to a problem with the server i was using for the maps i have had to move them so we can still have access to them and post them here.
so if you were wondering where we are from.
or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.. ballistic has done an amazing job with the map of the uk you can find it at .
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exjdub
Lady Lee,
If you would put me on the map in Florida (central east coast), I would appreciate it. Thanks,
Dan-O,
That foul was the ONLY reason Indiana lost. You guys must have been heartbroken when you were watching that. I really felt that it took the wind out of the Pacer's sails.
exjdub