Posts by ohiocowboy

i have no complaints about being out of the organization now, however the initial shock going through the loss of friends and family took some time to get over.

ohiocowboy

Welcome to the forum, and thank you for defending our FREEDOM!!!!

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New to the Forum

by Candles of Light in

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i am new here and i have never been a jw, however by boyfriend has been one for most of his life.

he is now kicked out of the church.

i have to deal with his pain over the experiences he tells me about in regard to his association with this church and i don't know how to help him.

Candles, Please realize that with any forum, there will be the occasional person who is not nice. It is few and far between though. We are here for a reason, and that is to get encouragement, insight, understanding, support, and even to have some fun. Please do not let what one person says affect your joining us! You are very welcome here, and you will find that the largest majority of us are decent, caring, and loving individuals who really want to help!

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Listening to The (A) Great Teacher

by wasasister in

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i have a good friend who is a primary school teacher.

although he and his wife both have a masters degree, he earned more money last year painting houses during the summer than he did teaching.

it is a well bemoaned fact in the usa that teachers are terribly undercompensated, considering the level of education they must obtain.

ohiocowboy

The teacher that has had the greatest impact on my life was my 6th grade teacher, Mrs. Brinkerhoff. Grades 1-5 were sheer hell, as the other kids did not understand my beliefs. Kids can be cruel, especially when they see that you are different for not saluting the Flag, no holidays, constantly having to excuse youself to go to the library because of either a birthday party, holiday, or the like, and not being allowed to fight back. Being the only child in my family, I became a real loner, besides the fact I was not allowed to have any "Worldly" friends. My 6th grade teacher noticed this, and constantly gave me the encouragement I needed to start building my self esteem, and would tell me how she appreciated that I was able to stand up for my beliefs. This is the only teacher that I ever recieved encouragement from, and I rememer it to this day, and the things that she would tell me. I have even made it a point to visit her a couple of times throughout my adult life, and tell her what a great teacher she was, and what an impact she made on me. There are not many "Real" teachers out there, but she was one of them!!!

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New to the Forum

by Candles of Light in

jw
friends

i am new here and i have never been a jw, however by boyfriend has been one for most of his life.

he is now kicked out of the church.

i have to deal with his pain over the experiences he tells me about in regard to his association with this church and i don't know how to help him.

ohiocowboy

Hello, and welcome to the forum!!!

Please be patient with your boyfriend, he is going through a very traumatic time now. I think that a lot of people on this site can relate to the feelings that your boyfriend is going through. I have been in relationships in the past, where they couldn't deal with the issue, and couldn't understand my feelings. My current relationship has lasted over 2 years, and this person has been very understanding, and because of this understanding and support, it has allowed me to grow, and my mindset that I once had with being involved with the organization, has a far less impact on my life. It takes time for people to heal, but if a person is patient, they will sure to be rewarded. It is hard to understand the situation that your boyfriend is going through, as you were not a JW, so maybe this site will give you some insights, and you will see proof of the healing process of those who left the org. and have gotten on with their lives. You have a chance for a wonderful relationship, as it sounds like you both really care for each other. As others have mentioned, maybe your boyfriend can also join this site, but he will have to do it in his own time if he does not feel comfortable about it yet. I wish you the best, and I think with patience, you will have a really nice relationship!!

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quotes capturing emotions of leaving

by Markfromcali in

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friends

i thought it might be nice to have this, and the two i have thought of are actually song lyrics, but feel free to post whatever you feel is appropriate.... angels of devils by dishwalla.

this is the last time.

that i'm ever gonna come here tonight.

ohiocowboy

Those lyrics are really deep. I will be pondering them for awhile