Started several studies and when I left original cong. turned them over to so-called friends.two I heard were baptized. The wife of one of them was suppose to be baptized to but didn't stay in touch. Yes! BS very fitting.
Posts by bem
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33Ever start a BS?
by PopeOfEruke indid anyone here ever start a bible study while out in field service?
from scratch, all by themselves?.
i had a couple of studies but never started one from cold.
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any suggestions for my "family problems"
by 1m2y3j init is very hard to condense 30 yrs of "in-law abuse" into a sentence or two, but hopefully some of you can relate and if you have found a way to cope/deal with it i'm all ears.
basically, my spouse and i have stayed together for 30-plus yrs because of being witnesses, despite extreme differences of values and goals.
half-way thru the lives of our children we both discovered the fallacies of wts and thankfully left this simultaneously.
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My in-laws are hateful not because they are Jws. But mean all the same. My older children,there dad, and myself. were recruited into the wts. by door ta door visits. about 7 years into our marriage of 26 years now.We had a son after we were baptized he's now 15 years old. I have always had a bitter relationship with my in-laws & was never supported or defended by my husband. Before the jw years he was physically violent. During those years he was not violent but he became controlling. Now we are inactive.He still belives but stopped attending. The control has become worse than ever.with a return of the violent tendencies. The children have even been mis-treated by his mom. And my mom. I put up the mis-treatment dumped on me but would not put up with it on the kids. The m-n-law never see's the kids she's a thousand miles away. my mom is 12 miles away and she never see's them either it's there fault for being so hateful. We can take some things thats normal but there has to be a line especially when you are hurt or emotionally damaged by the actions of others. Thye even have a 4 year old great-grand-daughter That they are missing seeing her grow up because they want to get away with whatever they want to do or say and the kids will not allow it. I know every situation is different.I never stuck up for myself for years.I lived a false life to keep "the peace". Gave up parts of myself.So things would run smoothly.So there would be no problems. It's taken years to get to this point but I felt myself dying inside for too long so before it consummed me. I am ending my marriage. As for my children.We had a family meeting this last Sunday,we openly discussed why I'm divorcing this man. everyone was there so we all got the story at the same time. There will be no mistakes.No reason for the kids to ask each other what have you heard? Again it's not that I'm recommending this as the answer to every situation. Incidently my adult son & daughter told me they were surprised I hadn't done this years ago.They also said that it would not change the way they feel about either there dad or me. The 15 year old is a different story he has a rocky relationship with his dad. I'm put in the position at times of keeping him safe from his dad.
I'm not sure I'm much help just the way I had to cope.but your not alone. bem. wishing you the best
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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W. & Desib , I have that old issue.(I'm a packrat K) I'll see if I can get help posting it. Sorry I can't offer much other help my argument with my mom was the opposite I argued for the jws & I'm proud to say I loved my son he's about your age Desib, more than I did the wts. so when he was dfd it was the beginning of the end of that part of my life. I can send you warm wishes and I hope someone is able to help you! W.idea about the article may strike a chord in your mom tho'
bem. wishing you the best
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WOW am I glad I found this place
by jaredg ini finally feel like there is someone out there that understands what i'm going through.
my ex-girlfriend (and still best friend) try to understand but she just can't.
she supports me in being strong but it's just nice to vent to people who have been through the same thing.
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Welcome Jared! Yes life does go on! It will get better. You are probably at the right place you'll meet lots of people here that are willing to help you, they will listen. Joke with you. cry with you. even have group hugs! <--chat folks). Main thing is getting unconditional friendship and lots of support from folks that have gone through what you need help with. Since my time here I have made two amazing friends that have helped me tirelessly! And met them nearly from the start.
You are almost exactly the same age as my oldest son. He was Dfd when he moved out and met his gf./ wife.I could not shun him would not turn my back on him. We went through a lot of pain together.I never stopped helping him, but his dad has been hard on all of us he still believes in Jws. constanly tells us we should go back.no way,no how aint gonna happen!! I have a daughter that is twenty-three with a four year old baby. My daughter was actually thinking about going back, then I found this site. shared info from here. and from other sites. She joined the forum and began her own research.The covered up molestation & sex abuse in the Org. really tore us up.Thankfully tho' the info helped her & her husband see that they did not want to be apart of any group that would even attempt to cover up that or any other violations against young people. Or any people for that matter!
sorry for being so wordy... welcome and wish you well on your journey...bem
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I graduate tomorrow!!
by Leolaia inwith my phd!
finally after all these long years.
the funny thing tho is that i'm walking through the ceremony, but not getting my diploma... yet.
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CONGRAGULATIONS!!! Leolaia,
Thanks for adding the info about your Mom. I'm starting at a community college this fall semester. I'm looking forward to/scared to be starting, but I'm determined. Still don't know what I wanna be when I grow up. But I have to get the basics over with first anyway,so gives me a while to decide.
bem. Thanks for giving me hope.
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More Beautiful PHOTOS at the very tip of mainland Britain
by Celtic inearlier on this evening, i packed sarny's, took a bottle of drink with me, camera and headed off to the far west to the cove at porthcurno, one of my particular favourite stretches of coastline around here, porthcurno is the place from which the very first transatlantic cables were laid from connecting the uk to the usa.
just to the left of the very pretty cove, with the finest possible sand is the incredible and visually stunning minack theatre, a 750 seater amphitheatre carved straight from the cornish granite cliff from whence the views are staggering, next on to lands end via polgigga and trethewey, a few miles after which the setting of the sun between cape cornwall and lands end itself.
the lighthouse picture is the longships, with the scilly isles in the very far distance, beyond that is the usa, i waved to you all from here, the most westerly point in the country.. as per usual to enlarge pictures, click on them, they only take a second or so to load, then hover your cursor over the bottom right side and if a directional icon shows up, click again to make even bigger.. hope you all enjoy them as much as the pleasure i had earlier this evening walking by myself these cliffs and sands.. hugs to all you ruddy balmpots!
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Celty, as always thanks for sharing the photo's. and I agree amazing sunset pics. and love the cliffs,sand and water. very pretty.
bem
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The Popcorn Kernel vs. The Ear Canal
by imallgrowedup inhave any of you ever had your child (or know of a child) who decided to experiment with foreign objects and how they may or may not fit into bodily orifices?!
well, today, my child did!
since today is "no tv sunday," my son was bored to tears, as he is every sunday when we will not allow him to watch the television.
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Odrade is on the right track with the tiny vaccum idea .One of my nephews went through a similar expierience (the item was a dry bean )when he was about nine and the E.R. doc pushed it in further requiring a trip to the specialist. who said if a vaccum had been used it would of came out easier.As it took a while longer to extract. Kids! hopefully all will go well for ya.
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Love Is... The Meaning of Life!
by FMZ in"one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.
" sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).
love is as old and timeless as life itself.
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Oh phooey! don't know how to edit... but I didn't want to miss mentioning that being covinced we're loved probably have heard that before but can also have new meanings along the way.
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Love Is... The Meaning of Life!
by FMZ in"one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.
" sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).
love is as old and timeless as life itself.
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WOW! FMZ. You figured out young what it's taken me years to only recently begin to understand. I let a world that never wanted anyone to feel loved,secure,independent, or free! to dictate... and I use that word completely.Have let to many people tell me how & when to feel, have only just began to understand that people can care about us expecting nothing in return, except maybe to be loved. And am only now understanding that love can be shown in a variety of ways. It can be as simple as a friend sending us photos to enjoy (with a Hey? want to see something pretty in the form of lovely blooming Iris') to sweet words of encouragement in positive things said, I enjoy colors and textures I quilt and paint so recently was sent photos of Italy that make you want to see whats out there. How complex can it be? Phew don't know about that one guess we'll have to stick around to figure it out. Thanks for the post I am learning to be grateful for people that. take time to express themselves. .
bem = Dot
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Things your mom said to you to get you to stop doing things............
by Sunnygal41 inif you keep picking your nose, your nostrils will get as big as a horse's!.
we can use your face for a halloween mask if it freezes suddenly with that expression on it.. how would you feel if your sister died after you said such awful things to her?
(this following a normal, sibling scuffle).
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" One of these day's your gonna have kid's just like you are.and I hope they treat you just as bad as you treat me" - well with first two I laughed inside said I cruised right on pass that curse. Then eight years after the second one came child three... My mothers revenge!
Then there was "Wait till your father get's home your gonna get it" She never forgot to tell on me. and she was right.