Posts by bem

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Can they be excused, in all honesty????

by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

over the period of time i have been posting on this forum i have noticed how differently we feel about the borg and dubs.

i guess our point of view is based on our own particular situation and experiences, our upbringing, our culture, our gender, our relationships etc.

but i think i can safely say that we all agree on one point, that the borg is a corrupt, greedy, hypocritical, dishonest, controlling, unloving, brain-washing cult!

bem

OMG...(((((cyber-sista))))) The same thing happened to me with the post partum depression after my third baby was born.(two mis-carriages prior to him) I too was 29. I had studied for a lot of time then after a while off they returned when I was in a state of total depression.I knew it then but I had the I didn't cares so bad...and my relatives didn't know what to do for me so they totally avoided me.well heres these people that didn't mind being around someone that was a totally susceptible and willing to co-operate...lol ....Now I know it as love bombing...which lasted till my first sunday meeting after I was baptized....Yes that soon afterward the perfect answer to love started crumbling...Conditional love...

((((BLISS)))) They have a lot to answer for. to a great many of us it seems. The thing I'm grateful now is the fact that this site and the ones mentioned by Blondie have informed us enough to keep my adult children.My son from being re-instated....My daughter from becoming active again so "her daughter could liveforever" Which is where she was heading when I found first this site and the other similar ones.Especially now that there believing father and I are about to be divorced.He's already asking questions to help find information to get me dis-fellowshipped.That I don't care about now, since my kids are to my knowledge never going back to the Jws.The family I have that are active. I truly could care less about.But it will give them something to gossip about.Another of things I don't care about....You know how it goes when they're talking about me they're giving someone else a rest..

Dorothy.

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Can they be excused, in all honesty????

by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

over the period of time i have been posting on this forum i have noticed how differently we feel about the borg and dubs.

i guess our point of view is based on our own particular situation and experiences, our upbringing, our culture, our gender, our relationships etc.

but i think i can safely say that we all agree on one point, that the borg is a corrupt, greedy, hypocritical, dishonest, controlling, unloving, brain-washing cult!

bem

" I think I can safely say that we all agree on one point, that the borg is a corrupt, greedy, hypocritical, dishonest, controlling, unloving, brain-washing cult"! Right?

RIGHT...When I first started reading here and then posting....I still thought I was doing something wrong and sinful!!!!...Well I'm glad I stayed... I have learned a lot...specially how corrupt,the jw religion is. I'm sure I have only just begun to learn....

((((((( BLISS...)))))) Hello dear.

Dorothy.

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Ethical question here, what to do?

by Snapdragon in

hey all, i have a hypothetical ethical question.. i know for a fact (having heard directly from the now-adult) a certain man molested at least 2 children in the the 1970's.

of course at the time this wasn't discussed and the creepo has gotten off virtually scott free.. i just found out some interesting medical information on him and was wondering if this should be shared with his victims.. of course this is hypothetical, right, i work in the health care profession and am bound by law not to divulge personal medical history.. that being said: the information of this guy doesn't have a lick to do with the past.

its just interesting.

bem

Being in ethical bounds...you'll fell better having not divulged personal info.I'm in the same sort of job that I keep private matters private.and I am proud that I keep personal things to my self.

But along the lines of Avishai and Sheilas thinking...I have the satisfaction...of being able to report abuse...not for my own satisfaction. ( my molester died at the age of 96 in november 2003) But the people I work for ~ as in I am concerned with,and responsible for ~ are all under 18 years old. You really have there trust by the time they divulge there secrets and/or pain (and thinking back on expierience I only told adults my problems hoping they would help me in my situation) That being said I am very glad that in my situation I am obligated to report my beliefs when I suspect abuse...I am learning how to help young people when they may not know how to help themselves.

To me gloves are off with PEDO's ......but that is just me

I also agree with LL and BT some adults need to move on and would not appreciate knowing these things...~ denial keeps some people sane ~ IMO... Denial for me on the other hand kept me a victim so I discuss my own journey through this maze of emotion loud and long when I need to.

Appologies for being wordy

Dorothy

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NEWS FROM DOTTIE AND WILL AND BABY

by SheilaM in

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friends

i will just cut and paste

amy elizabeth was born on august 6 at 3:21 pm weighing in at 7 lbs and 12 oz in niagara falls, ontario (i knew she was gonna be a canucker ) she was a quick and fast delivery (5 and a half hours).

amy had low blood sugar at birth so her blood was tested every few hours and saturday after one of the nurses came in to check her blood, we noticed that her right arm had a twitch in it.

bem

Send my hugs to all of them Sheila.

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You may think I'm as trite and as gay as a daisy in May...

by SixofNine in

...perhaps even a cliche come true.

or do you see me as bromidic and bright as a moon-happy night pouring light on the dew?

you see, i'm as corny as kansas in august, and i'm as normal as blueberry pie.

bem

LOL,

*faints again*

FBF, darlin' I think he's whipped!!

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A womans tears

by Maverick in

this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

bem

I love this thread, Glad you all cried as needed...((((all of ya))))

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You may think I'm as trite and as gay as a daisy in May...

by SixofNine in

...perhaps even a cliche come true.

or do you see me as bromidic and bright as a moon-happy night pouring light on the dew?

you see, i'm as corny as kansas in august, and i'm as normal as blueberry pie.

bem

Thanks Jgnat LOL @ Kate, What great romances!! You all keep it up and I'll become a softy...

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My Mom just passed away.

by El Kabong in

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friends

dear friends.

i've posted earlier this year that my mom suffered a stroke.

i just got the news that she passed away this evening.

bem

El kabong sorry to hear of your loss ((((to you and her family))))

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A womans tears

by Maverick in

this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

bem

(((((LT,JWbot,Sheila< is not invisble .Sunny)))) Folks you all done really well working this out,I to have been at work since early ~~today~~ yesterday wow.... what a life this took on!

Interesting to me since friends and I had recently been talking about this subject....

Not the whiney, nerve-wracking sort of crying Rodbar mentioned. But the kind I imagine most of us don't mind the expression of, honest emotion be it from male or female.

Personally...I would have to imagine my step-dad as a human to even consider his tears as a sad heart wrenching thing . I seen him cry as such a tool of manipulation along with a manipulating mom tears or not. That by the time I got mature enough emotionally to cry when I needed it. I was also emotionally mature enough to appreciate tears from others...I only mention this as a personal thing....my perspective on my self...I am not...aiming any of this paragraph at anyone just telling my personal journey version.

If my comments offended anyone earlier I apologize. I meant no hurt to any one.

I'm thinking a white flag would be nice up here to wave then see if it gets shot down before we post again. Or perhaps a hat to throw into the forum floor and if it gets stomped then you know it's time to hush! Phew... I'll hush now.

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You may think I'm as trite and as gay as a daisy in May...

by SixofNine in

...perhaps even a cliche come true.

or do you see me as bromidic and bright as a moon-happy night pouring light on the dew?

you see, i'm as corny as kansas in august, and i'm as normal as blueberry pie.

bem

Such a great love story I'm usually not a push over for romance but FBF...your so sweet who couldn't be happy for the two of you.I'm happy to share in your excitement...congratulations to both of you.

Dorothy.

Edited to add: I had to go back and read the great Love story between Kate & Craige I wasn't on the forum then, So this is nice being in at the annoncement. tc.