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  Phoenix, AZ -- Valley of the Sun -- Any PHX people?

  by [email protected] in

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  phoenix, az -- valley of the sun -- any phx people?

  lookin' for locals.

  [email protected]

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  bem

  BTTT
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  For bem

  by xenawarrior in

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  the bridge

  a metaphor

  there was a man who had given much thought to what he wanted from life.

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  ((((Xena)))

  I have made friends with an amazing couple, from here on the forum. soon as I found this site.

  They sent me a story and attached to it was a poem the story is amazing in itself but the poem is one I fall back on.I'd like to share it with you.

  It's called: THE JOURNEY

  By Mary Oliver- she maps out the only trip worth taking...

  • one day you finally knew
  • what you had to do,and began
  • though the voices around you kept shouting
  • their bad advice-
  • though the whole house
  • bagan to tremble
  • and you felt the old tug
  • at your ankles.
  • "Mend my life!"
  • each voice cried.
  • But you didn't stop.
  • You knew what you had to do,
  • though the wind pried
  • with it's stiff fingers
  • at the very foundations,
  • though their melancholy
  • was terrible
  • It was already late
  • enough,and a wild night,
  • and the road full of fallen
  • branches and stones.
  • But little by little,
  • As you left their voices behind,
  • the stars began to burn
  • through the sheets of clouds,
  • and there was a new voice
  • which you slowly
  • recognized as your own,
  • that kept you company
  • as you strode deeper and deeper
  • into the world,
  • determined to do
  • the only thing you could do-
  • determined to save
  • the only life you could save.

  A poem of transformation, don't you think? To quote Roger Housden " it captures that moment when you dare to take your heart in your hands and walk through an invisible wall into a new life"

  Thanks again.bem
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  For bem

  by xenawarrior in

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  the bridge

  a metaphor

  there was a man who had given much thought to what he wanted from life.

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  WOW! Xenawarrior thanks so much for that. great impact on me and I needed that! I know there is only so much I can do and really feel as tho I have done IT... over and over.

  Thanks from Bem

  I will be printing that one out.
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  Today I saw my child's sexual abuser..........and the feelinds start.

  by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

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  today has not been too good.

  yesterday, while i was in sydney for the day with a friend (to have a break and do a girlie shopping day)..............i received a phone call from my brother to inform me that a very special cousin of mine in italy had committed suicide.

  i was devastated, she was so special and we had been close.. so here i was driving back from sydney last night knowing a loved one was dead!

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  ((((((Wednesday)))))) sad. I hate to hear it.

  Bliss... hope you feel better.
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  Today I saw my child's sexual abuser..........and the feelinds start.

  by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

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  today has not been too good.

  yesterday, while i was in sydney for the day with a friend (to have a break and do a girlie shopping day)..............i received a phone call from my brother to inform me that a very special cousin of mine in italy had committed suicide.

  i was devastated, she was so special and we had been close.. so here i was driving back from sydney last night knowing a loved one was dead!

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  (((Bliss)))

  Tho it's true we don't want you embroiled in a lawsuit...One person can make a difference...I encourage you to find a way to let what he has done be known!

  My nephew I mentioned above came from a family of pediphile. his grand-pa. a sexual abuser I thought he had only abused me... but when I found out how many girls in our family he abused I almost had a break down I couldn't recover from! They do abuse more than once...

  Thanks for the post. bem hopes we're helping you.
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  Today I saw my child's sexual abuser..........and the feelinds start.

  by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

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  today has not been too good.

  yesterday, while i was in sydney for the day with a friend (to have a break and do a girlie shopping day)..............i received a phone call from my brother to inform me that a very special cousin of mine in italy had committed suicide.

  i was devastated, she was so special and we had been close.. so here i was driving back from sydney last night knowing a loved one was dead!

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  (((((Blissisignorance)))))), Sweetie you have every reason to be sad & who wouldn't be negative!

  I remember being one of those people who said I would hunt down and kill anyone that ever abused one of my kids... well when it happened to us... it was a different story...when my beautiful daughter was three she was being seually abused by one of my teen-age nephews and believe me I watched them like a hawk but the people that prey on our babies are constantly looking for a chance to act on there sickness.She was 11 before she told us about it ,and she was acting out her pain, so it was a very traumatic expierience to go through! first I believed her...very important ...second I went to the police...Then that same week-end, I personally confronted him at a family gathering NOT in front of everyone but to the side privately. And I PROMISED him if I ever even thought he abused another child there or anywhere else I WOULD make his life miserable till he was imprissoned (we were told BTW that the time passed plus her word against his and others would need to come forward before anything could be done).

  My point is They thrive in secrecy & silence is there friend NEVER think for a second what a sick pedophile does is your fault. sorry for the rant. but I am very passionate about this subject!

  Outcome for my daughter who is now an amazing 23 year old, Mom.and she thanks me for first believing her. still has a few problems that we deal with when we need to.

  As for the suicide. it makes us feel frustrated and helpless when we lose someone in such a way. One of my young brother-in-laws commited suicide several years back and it still hurts when I wonder what I could of done to helped him *sigh*

  Take care and know you are loved! and I truly do understand I'm not saying I know how you feel but I do understand. PM me any time.

  bem
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  A question for those recruited as adults

  by kls in

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  i remember who my husband was before we were recruited,you know what i mean, his humor,his daringness.

  i am sure i changed also but only to an extent because i had to many doughts.

  as i quickley ran from the cult ,i could sit back and see the person that i married into the person that the watchtower created.

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  bem

  my husband was * not a drug addict, not a drunk. When he became recruited he became abusive , controlling,and down right mean .

  * edited your words cause they fit my situation really well,Except mine was always mean. and the recruiting seemed to give him even more permission to be a jerk!
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  Phoenix, AZ -- Valley of the Sun -- Any PHX people?

  by [email protected] in

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  phoenix, az -- valley of the sun -- any phx people?

  lookin' for locals.

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  bem

  I'm not from Phoenix but I lived in Safford for years... I am looking for a dfd friend in your area. so hopefully....
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  How many near death scary stuff happened to you?

  by kls in

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  did you ever think that you should have died.

  i mean like scary stuff that happened to you and wonder why you are still here .

  i have had so many but the one's that stick out of my mind are ,when i took my son ( who was 16 at the time ) for a drive in my 1968 charger, when i heard a pop, i was going up a hill and all of a sudden flames started to shoot out of the hood.

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  When I was around twelve yaers old I went river rafting/tubing with my brother and his family on the Palo Verde River near Phoenix,Az. and the tube I was on got caught in a whirlpool and I was pulled under! one of the guys with us pulled me out and we went on had a lot of fun...A while later ,My mom mentioned peoples life flashing before there eyes when they are in near a death episode. I could vivdly recall everything I "seen" it seemed like a lot too, in such a short period of time.

  Then my youngest son has had to have lots of therapy for speech,occupational,physical etc. We always had to drive a long ways to get to the therapist. Then with work also and lack of sleep. I fell asleep driving and the car ran off the road I woke up before it completely left the hi-way.after that one of the older kids would go with us to help drive.
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  Home Alone

  by codeblue in

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  here i am home alone........ my hubby works out of town from time to time...it never fails, how even though i am dead tired..i get in bed and think i "hear" something or "see" something....geez...you would think i was 10...scared to death...lol.

  i guess i just don't like being in an empty house...does anyone here really like being alone at night???.

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  bem

  I used to hate being home alone!

  Now I actually prefer it.

  I'm sending you positive thoughts hope they help!

  bem.