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A womans tears
by Maverick in
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2. relationships
this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.
bem

LT asked,
Should I begin worrying about the longevity of my future relationships??
Not as long as you continue to show honest emotion,You already recognize manipulation for what it is.a Control issue.So a mans tears can be a great expresion of honesty.Sincere tears from anybody need not drive us away.
My survival instinct is telling me to be very, very quiet, right now...
~nods to guys~ ~whispers"You know what I'm saying..." ~guys nod back~
Also recognizing this will help with all your future relationships. LOL You have been great and I apprecitate that you stuck it out. I notice you took the heat with 'nary a guy steppin to up support ya too.Perhaps you could use a.
But if I knew anyone that spends too much time crying, I'd gently offer the suggestion that perhaps they need to learn coping skills.or get anti-depressants.
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Moms- Are you stay at home or do you work?
by Netty in
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2. friends
do you work or stay home with your kids?
bem

Welcome to the forum BTW.
I stayed home while my older two children were growing up,also helped raise two of my brother-n-laws girls. And helped raise my nephew when my brother passed away so yes there is plenty stay at home moms and dads have to do...I loved being stay at home mom also.
worked since my 15 year old the baby of the family was 5 years old. soon as he started school.I went to work.
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A womans tears
by Maverick in
1. social
2. relationships
this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.
bem

My mom was terrible to use tears to manipulate and she still does.I was so determined to be as unlike her as possible.That I didn't cry till it was like a flood gate opened up when I did.Then I couldn't hold them tears back. Well several ulcers and trips to the hospital spent on I.V. Zantac later and BEM cries now as needed. Jw hubby never let me cry scolded me for it in fact. But I now realize there are men and friends that know to let me cry, be sympathetic when I need it.Hug me when I need it, just please don't tell me to shut up that crying.
Men crying is a very honest expression of emotion always welcome.Like everyone else has said, 'cept when it's used to manipulate.
One of my favorite sayings/poems says "Crying is like a gentle melting".
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Remains....added Forged
by SheilaM in
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2. entertainment
remains

maybe not perfect but whole

in 1964, it had dings dents and chips that went deep.
bem

Sheila had to got to work...the poem is called"Un-natural Love" by Larry post today I think.
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What is your Favorite Scene from a Movie?
by Sweetp0985 in
1. social
2. entertainment
i thought about this topic last night for the board when watching one of my favorite movies.. 1. the man from snowy river- the part when they are going after the expensive colt and they get to the edge of the cliff and all the other riders stop and "jim" keeps going and leaps down the cliff after the wild horses.

i absolutely love that part of the movie...everytime its on i have to watch it, if not just to see this part only.. 2. love and basketball- when she tells him she will play for his heart...awwww first time i started crying.

and then the music they had playing in the background made it even worse.
bem

Mine has to be the scene in the Desert in the movie "The Four Feathers".Where Heath Ledger asks the man that has helped him why he done that for him seeings how they are different races and should be enemies.(wish I got the mans name first) The man replied because "You were put in my way"!
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Remains....added Forged
by SheilaM in
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2. entertainment
remains

maybe not perfect but whole

in 1964, it had dings dents and chips that went deep.
bem

Larry post a poem too have you seen it? both of you are very good.
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Welcome CakeMonkey!
by desib77 in
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2. friends
lets welcome cakemonkey to the forum!
bem

CakeMonkey welcome to the board.
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Introducing Myself
by Zal Taur in
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2. friends
hey all,.

stumbled upon this site while looking for info on some very old friends.

i was born a jw, left when i was 17 or so, and haven't looked back for the past seven years.
bem

Welcome to the board.
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Remains....added Forged
by SheilaM in
1. social
2. entertainment
remains

maybe not perfect but whole

in 1964, it had dings dents and chips that went deep.
bem

Awwww ((((Sheila))) thanks for adding the forged segment that is an awesome addition.Like glass... I'm thinking me here used to be like the new dollar drinking glass you can buy and bump it one time and what do you have a bunch of broken pieces to clean up....but when glass has been around awhile ages (Like me) and it sits in the heat/fire long enough it just gets stronger and takes more knocks and bangs that way.Survives the heat so to speak.
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today, i am a man
by doogie in
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2. friends
i bought my first grill last night.

and i cooked out, wisconsin style (beer and brats, baby).

my texan girlfriend had never seen such a display of raw manhood.
bem

You all are too funny....I so agree @Desib77. but on the other hand it is serious stuff...