Nos -- selective memory. My mother has that too
Years later, I told me my mother how much it hurt me that I wasn't allowed to have any friends outside the church, especially since there were only a couple kids in the church and they weren't allowed to associate with us because my father was an unbeliever. Which meant that I actually had NO FRIENDS as a child (I did have siblings, though, thank goodness). Anyway, I couldn't believe what she said back to me, she said "but honey, I didn't stop you from having friends, you just didn't WANT friends". The feeling of total unreality I got when she said that was very wierd, like I was almost floating. I had to call my sister up and say, listen, I'm not crazy am I, we weren't allowed to have friends, right? I was relieved when she confirmed it.