is the 1st time i write in here .
am really confused about my jw boyfriend attitude .. am separated and with a child .i went through a really bad time after separation (7 months ago)and one of the reasons the relashionship wth my husband ended is because i fell in love with my actual boyfriend ..was love @1st sight ...we didnt make love 4 obvious reasons related to his faith but @the beginning things were much easier :he allowed me to touch him in his intimate parts ,we touched each other (we saw each other naked without making love once)and was very exciting...but the more we were getting involved the accraction was growing more and more and even if i am from a different belief (converted to islam)we agreed that nobody should try to change the other or impose anything ,,,but now i feel he is a bit selfish >he doesnt allow me to touch him under the belt (telling me that recently he discovered he is not allowed to do that )he doesnt even touch my breast because he is not supposed to(after he did before)he is 30 years old ,very good looking man and he keeps telling me when he sees me (once a month :which is even too much)that he cant resist me !but is actually the opposite !!
!he is resisting me ...before i will be able to committ to him i will have to wait 3 years which means also have sex >i dont know and i dont think i will be able to resist after 5 years of marriage and ''regular'' sex life //i am tired of seeing him once a month because his family doesnt know about us (he tells me that if they knew they would tell him to stop helping them with money and to stay with me :but he doesnt wantto make that choice,since he was young he supported the family //on top of that after marriage he doesnt want to have children and he tells me that i have already 1 child (we spoke many times bout that and to make sure he wont have children he wants to do an operation that will sterilize him ).
Girl I am going to be blunt. You are playing with fire. First of all, you are Islam and not ever going to change religion.
so you say. Then do not date anyone except an Islam. forgodsakes don't bring more stress into your or your
child's life by falling for guys who don't believe as you do. Raising a family is hard enough, much less mixing
religions. Esp ones as extreme as JW and Islam. Your child needs more from you than this.
is the 1st time i write in here .
am really confused about my jw boyfriend attitude .. am separated and with a child .i went through a really bad time after separation (7 months ago)and one of the reasons the relashionship wth my husband ended is because i fell in love with my actual boyfriend ..was love @1st sight ...we didnt make love 4 obvious reasons related to his faith but @the beginning things were much easier :he allowed me to touch him in his intimate parts ,we touched each other (we saw each other naked without making love once)and was very exciting...but the more we were getting involved the accraction was growing more and more and even if i am from a different belief (converted to islam)we agreed that nobody should try to change the other or impose anything ,,,but now i feel he is a bit selfish >he doesnt allow me to touch him under the belt (telling me that recently he discovered he is not allowed to do that )he doesnt even touch my breast because he is not supposed to(after he did before)he is 30 years old ,very good looking man and he keeps telling me when he sees me (once a month :which is even too much)that he cant resist me !but is actually the opposite !!
!he is resisting me ...before i will be able to committ to him i will have to wait 3 years which means also have sex >i dont know and i dont think i will be able to resist after 5 years of marriage and ''regular'' sex life //i am tired of seeing him once a month because his family doesnt know about us (he tells me that if they knew they would tell him to stop helping them with money and to stay with me :but he doesnt wantto make that choice,since he was young he supported the family //on top of that after marriage he doesnt want to have children and he tells me that i have already 1 child (we spoke many times bout that and to make sure he wont have children he wants to do an operation that will sterilize him ).
Girl I am going to be blunt. You are playing with fire. First of all, you are Islam and not ever going to change religion.
so you say. Then do not date anyone except an Islam. forgodsakes don't bring more stress into your or your
child's life by falling for guys who don't believe as you do. Raising a family is hard enough, much less mixing
religions. Esp ones as extreme as JW and Islam. Your child needs more from you than this.
ok, i didn't know what to title this subject.
but ...my question is: exactly what does one.
do when they go to bethel?
Phil, what KH in California lured your daughter....my JW family is in California, just curious.
ok, i didn't know what to title this subject.
but ...my question is: exactly what does one.
do when they go to bethel?
Thx for the info..what-A & daniel p. Look forward to hearing more. I'm going to try to communicate w.
my niece about it. She is only 20 yoa; her brother went and I guess she is considering it now. So...
doubt I'll make any dent but I have to give it an effort, it's a conscience thang ya know?
Say Daniel, your bio and posts are interesting, you've come a long way. how is your wife doing w.
the situation now? do you have any kids?
ok, i didn't know what to title this subject.
but ...my question is: exactly what does one.
do when they go to bethel?
Ok, I didn't know what to title this subject. But ...my question is: Exactly what does one
do when they go to Bethel? Specifically, how long is the stay? Is it like a 6 week course?
Are there classes all day long? My relative is going to go but I can't get any answer as to
just what he'll be doing, or for how long. Would like hear from any of you with recent experience.
Oh and what does it cost?
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just in case you all didn't know about this resource.
i think it used to be a 24 hour helpline.. http://www.iclnet.org/pub/resources/text/apl/jw/jwlabel.txt
Thanks so much for posting this; the website has great resources. I hope this gets bumped
so others will read it.
...happy birthday to me....happy birthday to me..... hi everyone!
we'll most likely do a nice dinner tonight as a family (husband, daughter and i), and i will have to buy my own cake.
but we can never call it a birthday anything...the very mention of the term freaks him out!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, AND may this year be one of happiness,
growth and freedom for you! Loving someone does not mean you have
to stifle your own beliefs....nor hide them from your children. Teach your
daughter open-mindedness in little ways so that she will see the world without
the JW blinders. She has two parents, not just one. I wish you well this year...
AuntieJ
well our fade seemed to be going along pretty smoothly even with the slight hitch of having to attend the memorial .
then this weekend good old mother in law who lives a thousand miles away , and talks to us once every few months , called, on speaker phone no less .
i know she has informats here and she has been dropping hints for months that she knows something is up , but she never comes out and just asks .
You are an adult and have adult children....they have made their choices. Yet... You would still allow this woman to rattle you like this?
Here's something you said earlier:
I will no longer feel guilty about following my own conscience...... .....period. GET OVER IT; you owe her absolutely NO explanation, no discussion on anything. Stay strong! Shalom, AuntieJane
my dream trip is just around the corner!
we will be there the first of april.
i cannot wait to.
My dream trip is just around the corner! We will be there the first of April. I cannot wait to
see the beautiful Ireland countryside, hit the pubs, hear the music....find the pot of gold
and knock down a few whiskey shots or glasses of brew at the pubs. Life is too short to
say "I wish I would have....."
i am reposting the major part of another thread "need computer help" because i am really looking for advice a situation with my husband.
i need to know if i am crazy to be worried.
so here it is.... ok, since i seem to be getting responses from guys and there's no way anyone i know will see this,i will tell you the story.
Yikes poor girl. You must feel betrayed again. If everything else is really as good as you say it is;
I think the best thing to do is let him know you found out again. Then proceed to call a marriage counselor
and get some counselling in the matter. Obviously, what you thought was working is not. He is not being
upfront with you. What concerns me, besides the S&M and bondage stuff...(to each his own I guess) is his
dishonesty, hiding it. He needs to face reality; don't let him put any blame on you either. I'd tell him I am
calling a marriage counselor. If you do have such a solid bond as you think, you both will only grow from the
experience. Otherwise, be prepared for this wedge to grow wider. Just my 2Cents. Good luck.
