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  Warning! Fluff Post? What's on your screen?

  by Carmel in

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  i just finished changing my desktop back ground and realized to some it may reflect what they value or something that symblizes their identity.

  what's on your desktop and what does it say about you??.

  carmel (of the bored still crowd)

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  pennycandy

  A picture of me in my skivvies in all my curvy glory . . . before the last two babies. It's my motivation to try to beat the sags.
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  Why Christianity is all about judgement!

  by free2beme in

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  this joke was written by the comedian emo phillips.

  what makes it funny is that it captures christianity to the exact point we all should know.

  enjoy .... voted the funniest religious joke of all time.

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  pennycandy

  I think the propensity to judge others comes more from personality than religion.

  Just a guess, but I would imagine half the Christians on this board would shake their head at your imminent trip to hell, and half would say lets go have a beer.

  Along those same lines, I bet half of the atheists on this board judge me foolish for being a believer, and half would say to each his own.
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  Why Christianity is all about judgement!

  by free2beme in

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  this joke was written by the comedian emo phillips.

  what makes it funny is that it captures christianity to the exact point we all should know.

  enjoy .... voted the funniest religious joke of all time.

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  pennycandy

  As a witness, I would judge you for your religion, your morals, the cleanliness of your car, and your choice of hairstyle. As a Christian, the only person I feel fit to judge is myself.

  I have had my "absolute truth" disintegrated before, and acknowlege the possibility I could be wrong, so I appreciate the right to my beliefs and those of others.
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  Time again for........ Congregation roll call

  by Jourles in

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  it's been a while since this topic has been brought up.

  use it as a chance to see if there is someone you might know from years past.

  1973-1976 --- lakeside, ca??

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  pennycandy

  1970's & 80's -- Port Arthur, TX (Central & Lakeshore)

  1990's -- Farmer's Branch, TX

  Lake Highlands, TX (Hi, Smiles!)

  Mesquite, TX
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  So true AA!

  My husband was perfect for me at 20. But by 30, I was a seasoned wife and mother who wanted a house and yard and retirement account. And married to someone who still wanted to spend all night playing video games and sleep until noon and keep responsibilities to a bare minimum.

  Should I have to spend the rest of my life living in a college apartment being a mother to my husband?
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  Thanks for everyone's opinions. I empathize with everyone who's been through divorce, been there myself, it ain't no cakewalk.

  I too remember many horribly miserable people in the congo who were cheered on for staying with someone they didn't/couldn't love.

  HL, hey girl! Yep, I plan on being at Eyebrow's. See ya there. Now sweep that floor!
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  Well that makes a whole lot more sense!

  Does this verse contradict the "he who divorces except on the grounds of adultry commits adultry"?
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  LT,

  Do tell.

  "Only, as Jehovah has given each one a portion, let each one so walk as God has called him. And thus I ordain in all the congregations." (NWT)
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  That being said, I do think most marriages can be saved with a lot of effort. But some are just not saveable.
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  Choosing a life of misery instead of divorce

  by pennycandy in

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  divorce is a bad thing.

  god hates it.

  i get that and i agree.

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  pennycandy

  Divorce is a bad thing. God hates it. I get that and I agree. But even as a witness, I thought the divorce-only-by-adultry rule was misused. Here is how I came to disagree:

  My parents have been miserable ever since I can remember. My dad is a closed book, clueless, emotionless, inactive for about 30 years. My mom is a talker, social and fun, but resentful and bitter at my dad. I can't imagine two people more ill-suited to fulfill each other's needs. She's kicked him out a few times, but always takes him back because everyone says she has to, not because she thinks they stand a chance at being happy together. I grew up watching my mother waste her life away being unhappy.

  So I was very careful picking my JW husband. I made him promise he wouldn't "drift away from the truth" after we married because I would NOT live my mother's life. Funny, maybe if he had "drifted away" we might still be married. Anyway, through the years as things got worse, every time my mother would say, "He's so much like your daddy," I would die a little inside. I knew I was trapped, just like she was.

  It's not that I was looking for an easy way out. I never took my marriage lightly and planned to lie in the bed I had made forever. But my mom . . . she was a good person in a loveless marriage and they were both MISERABLE.

  Her two options were . . .

  1. Obey God's "rules" and spend the rest of her life in this system angry, hopeless, desperate for love and affection, and terribly unhappy, bestowing upon her children all the detrimental consequences of growing up in an unhappy home and never learning what love is supposed to be. Crying herself to sleep and dragging her unthankful children to the meetings and in service with no familial support and no encouragement.

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  2. Cut her losses, climb the emotional mountain of recovery, teach her children they cannot let someone else take away their happiness, maybe fall in love again and have the marriage she always dreamed of.

  She choose #1, the "right" choice, for a witness. I wished many times they'd just sign the papers and get it over with. It may be a sin but God can forgive sins.

  I began to see the divorce-only-by-adultry scriptures in a different light. Shouldn't it be viewed as a common sense principle instead of a hard and fast rule? You know, like don't be lazy, drink moderately, women should wear a head covering, don't divorce on a whim.

  Did the Bible writers really mean to imply such a hard and fast rule that one should live their entire lives in misery instead of break it?

  What about cases of abuse? Sure, you can leave him, but you must either go back to him or live celibate the rest of your life or until he has sex with someone else. How is that fair?

  Would God really want someone miserable and unloved instead of divorcing? Especially since the majority of marriages take place at the beginning of adult life, when one still has so much changing and growing to do.

  I think if God can forgive murder then he can understand the need for a second chance.

  What do you think?