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  Fading is making me WT obsessed......................

  by vitty in

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  because i still want my family to speak to me, i decided to fade.

  it was quite easy to do, i dont live near them so there was problem with meetings and field service.. the problem now is , after 3 years of fading, it having quite a detrimental effect on me.

  i have said things to my family about the child abuse stuff , lack of love that sort of thing and they realize i dont go to meetings anymore but because i just cant leave it alone or keep my mouth shut, i end up talking about the org to them when i promise my self not to.

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  vitty

  Because I still want my family to speak to me, I decided to fade. It was quite easy to do, I dont live near them so there was problem with meetings and field service.

  The problem now is , after 3 years of fading, it having quite a detrimental effect on me. I have said things to my family about the child abuse stuff , lack of love that sort of thing and they realize I dont go to meetings anymore but because I just cant leave it alone or keep my mouth shut, I end up talking about the org to them when I promise my self not to.

  They get upset because im negative and I get upset because I want to really tell them the truth about the org and cant. If I never talked about the org again they would be happy, they dont want to shun me. But I cant keep quite.

  I spend a long time thinking of scenarios of conversations with them, looking up sites and scriptures. Im getting on my hubbys nerves with it all but I just cant stop

  I think the real problem is, Im not being honest. They still think I will come back and have a few problems with the elders. Ive let them believe this because I dont want to think im apostate.

  So has anyone got any suggestions, to putting the WT on the back burner and just letting my family get on with what they want to do and for me to have a little peace in my brain??

  I know some of you will say cut your loses and DA but I just cant although I think it would be a lot healthier for me to do so.
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  Anyone have bad kitchen syndrome?

  by restrangled in

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  i was able to totally rework my kitchen about 5 years ago.

  with limited funds we found premade cabinets very cheap.

  we made them fit.

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  vitty

  I so sympathize with the white work tops. We had them in a kitchen a few years ago...................I couldnt even have a cup of tea and id have to bleach the damn thing !!

  Why dont you ask your uncle to rmove them, since he was the one to glued them ?
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  Jesus mediator...........info needed now.....!!!!!!!!!

  by vitty in

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  i know this has been draged through the coals but i need wt and book info on it now..............ill tell you about it later.

  thanks.

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  vitty

  The problem is I always say too much....................I gave my sister a note with the information in the live forever book and the1995 WT study article.

  She has also said shes getting the Internet, we signed her up on an Email account . Then we did a bit of WT official googling............this was a bit of a ruse on my part I thought if I could get her to look at JW google she may google other JW sites .............I noticed this one is about 3 down and freeminds was 2 !!!

  I am a bit worried its a bit deceitful and will backfire but I need her to search for stuff herself.
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  Jesus mediator...........info needed now.....!!!!!!!!!

  by vitty in

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  i know this has been draged through the coals but i need wt and book info on it now..............ill tell you about it later.

  thanks.

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  Well we had a very interesting conversation, my mum and sister came for a visit................we all agreed that Jesus was our mediator ..untill I told them the society said he wasnt. I got them to say how totally wrong it was, then showed them in their own literature that Jesus wasnt . My mum said i was twisting what they said But my sister saw straight through it.She was pretty surprised but not shocked.

  Last night I was talking about the generation changed...................now my mother has been a witness since the late fifties and my sister has been in she was 12 years get this.................................... they both didnt know what i was talkng about

  I couldnt find any awake before 1995......................to show them or the WT of 1995 .......I do now. They are going home this morning so its too late and my sister was pretty cross that I was talking about it but I coundnt understand it . my mum kept saying they never taught that because if they did all that generation would be dead now ................um yeah thats my point................talk about denial.
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  Jesus mediator...........info needed now.....!!!!!!!!!

  by vitty in

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  i know this has been draged through the coals but i need wt and book info on it now..............ill tell you about it later.

  thanks.

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  vitty

  Thanks thats just the info I need
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  Jesus mediator...........info needed now.....!!!!!!!!!

  by vitty in

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  i know this has been draged through the coals but i need wt and book info on it now..............ill tell you about it later.

  thanks.

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  vitty

  I know this has been draged through the coals but I need WT and book info on it now..............Ill tell you about it later

  Thanks
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  marriage

  by showmelight in

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  my name is paul , i am a practicing jw, (and loving it).

  i am engaged to woman who is not a jw.

  during my studys my elders are always reminding me that i should marry only in the lord as the bible says.

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  vitty

  You will be "marked" that means no one will associate with you, other than in the meetings . Is that what you want ? I would delay being baptized for quite a while, well untill the love bombing stops.
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  My Spiritual Awakening has turned to........

  by AK - Jeff in

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  general apathy about religion.. i don't know precisely when it happened.

  but at some point i began to stop needing anything 'organized' in my life religiously.

  not too long ago - as attested to by multiple threads i started here - i was still wishing to replace the ritual of religion at the kingdom hall with some other church.

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  vitty

  Jeff

  You have put into words exactly how I feel. I felt for a long time, and still do a bit that I should be a " christian" because without that label I am a lesser person

  Especially when taking to my JW family..............but Ive gone through such a turmoil of feelings, but i was stuck in the superstition of the religion and when you escape from that, the need of God seems to go away.

  I felt for a long time the need to replace my knowledge that I was duped to finding the truth..................but I feel there is no truth, so I must be content with that
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  When a DFed anointed one get reinstated..............what happens ??????

  by vitty in

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  i have just found out that an appointed member of a congregation i know has been dfed for drinking, this person has had a problem for years but her daughter dobbed her in................anyway i was wondering what happens if she gets reinstated, will she still be one of the anointed or has she lost her crown.

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  To be honest, when she started taking the emblems everyone raised an eye. She had always been considered on the fringe of the congo and not a good example of a witness Anyway it just goes to show how wrong the 2 flock thingie really is. And all that judging each other, and at the same time saying they dont, just goes to show its all BS.
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  Is it proper for men to tip their hats to women?

  by ThomasCovenant in

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  apologies if you all have read this before.. watchtower 1952 15th april pages 254-256. it is the woman that is commanded to show respect and recognition of the mans position of headship, and women who rebel at it are not so much rebelling against men as they are against god.gen.

  3:16; 1 cor.

  11:2-10; eph.

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  vitty

  I live in a country where men and women are treated equally, which is obviously good but the down side is that on a crowded train or bus, it doesnt matter if you are an nine month pregnant woman or an old woman hardly able to stand, no man will give up his seat to a woman.

  So I usually stand up and offer mine to an elderly woman (or man)..................the look on some of the males passengers faces, but still they wouldnt do ity themselves. It makes me really mad

  This also goes for holding open doors.............no one does it................. its so impolite but if a bloke does it to me, I get really miffed.

  I think it really does matter for a man to do these things for a woman cos when they stop, no one does it for each other, men or women.