I've been presented a rather amusing and hard decision....
First of all, my so-called best friend "Stina" (a JW) told my other JW friend "Amber" that she stopped talking to me a while ago b/c I wasn't attending meetings. Now, I could understand if I was DF'd or DA, b/c her parents would tell her not to, but that just isn't the case. I simply stopped attending after I moved out of my parents house.
Anyways, my friend Amber told me that Stina is going through a phase where she thinks she's holier than thou, b/c she had started pioneering. So basically I'm just gonna say "screw it" and not even bother to hold on to my friendship w/Stina anymore-I've tried for the past 5 months....
Well, Amber is 18 and is getting married in 3 weeks. I told Amber that I thought she was too young-I shared with her my opinion, but also told her that being a true friend; I'm happy for her, and will support her and her decision. I'm also friends with the guy she is marrying. They both said that they miss me (they live in AZ and now I'm in MI) and they offered me a plane ticket to fly out so I could be at the wedding. Well, Amber told me that Stina and our other friend "Nellie" (Stina and Nellie are sisters) both told Amber that they don't want to be in her wedding. They also had their dad tell Ambers' dad not to even send an invitation b/c they don't want anything to do with them. Now Nellie and Stinas' dad is an elder, along with Ambers' dad. I personally think that it's screwed up how their treating one another. Amber hasn't done anything wrong-she's just making a decision to get married at a young age. She's still a witness....
Anyways, I told Amber that I would still go to her wedding (she wants me in it, but I don't have a dress). The thing is, I don't know if I will be able to make it out there. But if I can, I told Amber to not even tell any of our friends. Stina claimed that she missed me, but now isn't talking to me and isn't going to the wedding.
So what I'm thinking about doing, is just flying out there, going to the wedding, and if I don't see anyone at the wedding; than I wont see them at all. I'm not going to give Stina the time of day or all my other friends who have cut me off and erased me from their friend list. Do you think that it's a good decision? Should I just blow everyone off, except for the people who I see at the wedding?
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should I or shouldn't I??
by babyboo ini've been presented a rather amusing and hard decision..... first of all, my so-called best friend "stina" (a jw) told my other jw friend "amber" that she stopped talking to me a while ago b/c i wasn't attending meetings.
now, i could understand if i was df'd or da, b/c her parents would tell her not to, but that just isn't the case.
i simply stopped attending after i moved out of my parents house.
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anyone into rap music?
by babyboo ini was just wondering if anyone has heard dmx's new song "we right here", and also ja rules new hit "livin it up"....their my fav artists...ja and i are secretly "involved" right now....(but don't tell nobody).
now, ja's my boy, but that song w/j.lo has got to go!.
and i want to know if anyone thinks fabolous is gonna stay around....i kept tellin everyone he's gonna be hot-the next one to blow it up....damn it feels good to be right.. get @ me.. ~boo.
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Thanks Tatiana, I've been looking up songs to download off of this one site and burn on a cd.
Has anyone heard D12's new album...that shit is funny. My bro went to HS with him, and another friend of ours used to rap with him, he has a home video of them rapping in his downstairs basement. It's pretty crazy.
Has anyone seen the Bubba Sparxxx video "ugly"? The video is funny but at the same time scares me....I'm afraid I might get nightmares if I see it b4 bed.... :)
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anyone into rap music?
by babyboo ini was just wondering if anyone has heard dmx's new song "we right here", and also ja rules new hit "livin it up"....their my fav artists...ja and i are secretly "involved" right now....(but don't tell nobody).
now, ja's my boy, but that song w/j.lo has got to go!.
and i want to know if anyone thinks fabolous is gonna stay around....i kept tellin everyone he's gonna be hot-the next one to blow it up....damn it feels good to be right.. get @ me.. ~boo.
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Well, I'm into alot of different types of music...I just grew up on mostly rap since I had 2 older brothers.
When I was about 8 or so, I use to listen and sing along with Sirmixalots' song, "Baby got back"...hehehe...and of course Pac, Warren G...u know.
Right now, I love Pac, Bone Thugs, Nelly, Jay-Z, Brotha Lynch Hung, Trina, Ja, DMX, Snoops' old School (ex: Gin and Juice) etc...And yes, I knew about Ja Rule being a JW and his mom....(3:36)As far as other types of music, I love R&B; Jon B, Ginuwine, 112, Jagged Edge, the list goes on...
I have another question:
There's an old School song that is one of my favs, but I don't know who sings it. I think it's called "I wanna be your man" it has that computer voice in it...anyone know what I'm talking about? Thanks for the help.
1luv
~BooBlack Man: Hey-u in Detroit?? Right now I'm at my bro's off of 7 mile. Where u at?
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anyone into rap music?
by babyboo ini was just wondering if anyone has heard dmx's new song "we right here", and also ja rules new hit "livin it up"....their my fav artists...ja and i are secretly "involved" right now....(but don't tell nobody).
now, ja's my boy, but that song w/j.lo has got to go!.
and i want to know if anyone thinks fabolous is gonna stay around....i kept tellin everyone he's gonna be hot-the next one to blow it up....damn it feels good to be right.. get @ me.. ~boo.
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I was just wondering if anyone has heard DMX's new song "we right here", and also Ja Rules new hit "Livin it up"....their my fav artists...Ja and I are secretly "involved" right now....(but don't tell nobody). Now, Ja's my boy, but that song w/J.Lo has got to go!
And I want to know if anyone thinks Fabolous is gonna stay around....I kept tellin everyone he's gonna be hot-the next one to blow it up....damn it feels good to be right.
get @ me.
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To Babyboo
by finalcall inhello babyboo.
i was a jw for 38 years and was blind to many of the things that go on inside.
i never really began to see or acknowledge these things until i was on my way out.
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To all who have responded...thank you, for it is much appreciated.
For FrightMare, I WAS in a screwed up congregation...as well as all the others I've been to. I've lived in MI and also across the Country in AZ, and they are all the same. They all have their problems-yes, but certainly shouldn't to the extent that they do. My parents actually made us move out of the cong we were in b/c too many were "falling out" and not attending.
Now, I'm not just turning my back on the religion, but I AM questioning it and wanting to find out what I believe is "the Truth" It has been especially difficult for me when my own parents give up on me and call me a liar for the things that I told them that had happened in my life. I'm trying to find somewhere in my heart to forgive them, and also the people in the congs in AZ, as well as in MI, who have stopped talking to me and started ridiculing.
I can understand your defensiveness on the religion, b/c (still being a witness) I too get defensive at others' remarks, even though I have my own dislikes towards them.
Please allow others to freely express their opinions and thoughts b/c I'm welcoming everyone's POV on this subject. If you haven't read my message on this board...it's on one of the pages...I titled it "inactive for 5 months...confused!" Please take the time out to read it to better understand the situation I'm in.
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inactive for 5 months...confused!
by babyboo ina little about me: i'm a 17 yr old femme-i'll be 18 the 30th of this month.
and yes, i'm going to celebrate it.
i haven't celebrated it since i was 6. i have 2 older sisters, an older brother, and a younger brother.
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Farkel...I do have some questions, but I asked if there were any JW's on here so that I COULD talk to them and ask them. I'm looking for at least some encouragement. I know that I myself being a witness and knowing many people also in this religion who ARE actually genuine, maybe I could talk to some of them. Not all of them are like my family...and every religion has people like that. Thank you for replying.
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inactive for 5 months...confused!
by babyboo ina little about me: i'm a 17 yr old femme-i'll be 18 the 30th of this month.
and yes, i'm going to celebrate it.
i haven't celebrated it since i was 6. i have 2 older sisters, an older brother, and a younger brother.
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BTW-my big brother was kicked out b/c of our stepmom also. For dumb reasons, one was b/c he smoked...she got in his face about it, so he said screw it and left. She was psychotic (did I spell that correctly?)
My 2 sisters moved out b4 they lived with my dad and stepmom. Our mom was an alcoholic and would leave us everywhere..at bars, inside cars...etc. My mom tried killing my sister by choking her on my bed on night. My sisters just got fed up with it and couldn't deal with her anymore. They had to take my dad off to the side and tell him what was going on b/c he was divorced to her and didn't know what was happening.
To Cornish-no I'm sorry, I'm not the same person whom u talked with b4.
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inactive for 5 months...confused!
by babyboo ina little about me: i'm a 17 yr old femme-i'll be 18 the 30th of this month.
and yes, i'm going to celebrate it.
i haven't celebrated it since i was 6. i have 2 older sisters, an older brother, and a younger brother.
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hello Larc. Yes u are right-I was sexually molested by my stepbrother. My stepmoms' son-that is why she didn't believe me...he was about 17 when he did it, I was 7. He molested me until I was about 11. He was also supposed to be a witness. I don't like telling people that b/c they start thinking alot of JW's are bad-which isn't true. He's gotten in trouble for something else last yr and was DF'd, but got reinstated. Now he knows that I told on him. All of my siblings want to kill him. And just recently, his wife (my step sis-in-law) called me and started talking about us working things out so we could be a family. No way in hell is that going to happen.
Anyways, I was really depressed-went on anti-depressants for it. I also started cutting myself, but my boyfriend at the time found out, and I stopped. I had also started throwing things up after I had eaten. But I've worked that out now. I felt very used, betrayed, and worthless.
Now I'm just trying to deal with everything-the fact that I have parents that don't want anything to do with me, my religion, and now I'm trying to get my GED, b/c I had pulled out of school. I'm just thankful that I had my brothers and sister around to help me. Otherwise I more than likely wouldn't be here today.
Thank you for your understanding, u along with everyone else have really made me feel welcome. It's almost like recovery group sessions...hehe -
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am i normal?
by airwlk149 inok, so i am 17 almost 18. i used to have a boyfriend.
we were gonna get married this coming december, but stuff happened and we aren't now.
i had sex with him before marriage, and the bible firmly states to deaden your body memebers, which apparently we did not.
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Hey Air-I'm 17 too. I'll be 18 this month. I too was supposed to marry my boyfriend this year. But we broke up a couple months ago. Ii broke up with him b/c I knew I was spiritually weak and that it would work. He and I still talk and have a good friendship though. He and I also had premarital sex many times. I had asked him if he felt guilty about it and he said no. Now he's pioneering for the second yr-and still says it doesn't bother him. It hasn't ever bothered me, but I thought being a witness, u would want to be repentent and be forgivin. I haven't been to a meeting since April-but I did go to the Special Assembly. Anyways, I thought it was ammusing to see how some of my friends also "sinned" and admitted to the elders about it, as opposed to others who sinned and don't think twice about it.
About your friends....I've always had friends outside the truth. I've told them about my religion and have made it clear that if they ever want to learn more about it, they know they can always come to me. U can't change everyone-as far as your mom...all I can say is ur almost 18. You'll be able to make your own decisions. Do what u think is right.
Now, about the lesbian thing. Me and my best friend and our other friend (we're all JW's) "experimented" together. We mostly just kissed and did dumb stuff like lick honey or chocolate off of each others stomachs or tongue or something. We also showered together...I know, we were dumb, but it helped me figure out who I was and what I like. We were just curious about our sexuality. We didn't consider it wrong, and we were all around 16-18. So honey, don't worry about those feelings inside. They are perfectly normal. Everyone has them, whether they admit it or not. Do what u feel is right and comfortable. Just be safe.
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inactive for 5 months...confused!
by babyboo ina little about me: i'm a 17 yr old femme-i'll be 18 the 30th of this month.
and yes, i'm going to celebrate it.
i haven't celebrated it since i was 6. i have 2 older sisters, an older brother, and a younger brother.
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Hi everyone, I'm new here. A little about me: I'm a 17 yr old femme-I'll be 18 the 30th of this month. And yes, I'm going to celebrate it. I haven't celebrated it since I was 6. I have 2 older sisters, an older brother, and a younger brother. My little brother got baptized last yr-but my older siblings aren't JW's.
Here's my story, PLEASE READ IT-I have q's that I need answered!
I moved out of my dad and stepmoms' house on the west coast about 5 months ago. I'm now living with my older sister and her family in MI. They aren't witnesses, but my sister used to study-however, my so-called "parents" ARE JW's.
I was raised in the truth since I was 7 and I was baptized last yr in July. I moved out of my parents house in the middle of the night in April. My brother bought me a plane ticket, after what had happened at my house. I had told my parents something that happened to me when I was younger. It was so hard for me to tell them, that I had my older sis fly in from out of state, to help me tell them. Their first reaction was to be sympathetic. But about 2 wks later, my stepmom told me to my face that I was a liar, and she was kicking my ass out when I turn 18. My dad never did anything about it. So I decided to leave. My stepmom never liked me or my sister Julie. We all think my stepmom literally has a mental problem-for various reasons I wont even begin to tell u about...
Anyways, the morning after I left, my sis called my parents house. My stepmom answered, and when she went in my room her reaction was, "oh, yep, she's gone" And let me tell u-all of my bro's and sis have moved out b4 they were 18. I was actually the one who stayed the longest.
So, after I moved, my dad called me once, and that was to see what I wanted from my old room. About a month ago my real mom died. I didn't really know her-Last time I saw her I was 10. So I went to her funeral-it was open casket. She was an alcoholic and used drugs, so seeing her the way she was, was really hard on me. All my dad did was send a sympathy card. I have no intention or desire to talk to that man. He's pissed me off so bad. He hasn't called any of his children since I've moved. I DO NOT consider them Christians.
Only 2 of my JW friends have continued to talk to me. That's b/c they know the real story and saw how things went on in my house. The others can't talk to me b/c their parents told them they can't, and b/c they obviously don't give a damn. Everyone in my old congregation has ridiculed me b/c they hear what my parents have told them. Which is untrue and inaccurate.
I believe that there is no ONE religion. It's your heart condition that counts. All I want, is Jehovah to know that I love him and to know what's in my heart. I believe in alot of what the witnesses teach, but I hate how they "act". They all lead double lives-no matter what they claim. I have seen it firsthand-in my family as well as in the congregations. And what's with this shunning? I'm not even disfellowshipped-I thought this was the time where they embrace fellow JW's and encourage them-not shun them away. That makes me so mad. Everytime I talk to another witness, their like, "that's not how it's supposed to be" well guess what? It IS like that, and I'm sick of it.
So why do I have the urge to go back to the KH?? I want to go for the meetings. I don't want to talk to anyone-I don't want their questions. I'm thinking about just going, sitting in the back, and leaving right after. Bbut Ii'm very confused right now, and am in need of others views. Are there any JW's that I can talk to on here??
Thanks for taking the time out to read this. I didn't write this so people to feel sorry for me, but to give you all some insight...Peace EZ