Nice post Heather. Beautifully done. You have good insight. Thank you for your care and interest in helping your friend.
buckster
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Any actually embarrased to admit they were Witnesses?
by Robert7 inwhen i was active, i was always (usually) proud to talk about being a jw, our faith, reasons for our stupid beliefs on birthdays, x-mas, etc.
now with everything i'm going through, given how much of an impact this is to my life, i want to talk to others about it, like coworkers, and other friends.
but thinking about how i would explain how it's a mind-controlling cult, i feel stupid for falling for it.
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Graduation and elders meeting!
by why??? inhi everyone, i'm not new here just haven't posted in a while.
for those who remember me i'm graduating from college on wednesday!!!!
i'm very happy but there's still a dark cloud (pardon the dramatic-ness) i am still with my non-jw boyfriend of almost three years and i've let my parents know that we want to get married (next month) and they went and told the elders(they did it kinda behind my back) who now want to meet and talk with me!
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buckster
Leave, don't talk leave. Create distance. Build strength. Put on armor. Fight when you are prepared properly.
Leave and marry your dude if he is the right guy. Parents will do what they will do.
I did 19 years ago(ok the right girl). Best thing I ever did.
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Violations of privacy re: postal mail by JWs
by Dogpatch ini have been sending out orders of books to jws, ex-jws and others for over 25 years.
sometimes plain wrap to keep the family's noses out of it.
over the years i have seen the same constant pattern: whenever the questioning jw lives with or near family members who are currently jws, they want to break open the mail to see what others are ordering!!
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buckster
They often justify their actions with their fantasy of righteousness. Fairy tale perspective for their own sense of right.
I'm not suprised. Its just so pathetic that they say things are lies but they fear it. So what they are really admitting with their actions is that they don't believe that Jehovah can handle matters for them so they should steal what others have paid for.
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Hello to everyone!
by redredrose inbrand new here, haven't even picked out avatar yet.
but i feel the need to reach out and touch someone (smile).
my situation is a little confusing to me, i am definitely on the way out and have been fading for quite some time, however my decision to leave has just been made very recently.
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buckster
Hello and welcome! Start with the foundation. Check it out. Not too stable. Hmmm.........yup, can't support much from the bottom up.
I am so glad to see that you are well!
Hang in there. It will work out fine.
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Any actually embarrased to admit they were Witnesses?
by Robert7 inwhen i was active, i was always (usually) proud to talk about being a jw, our faith, reasons for our stupid beliefs on birthdays, x-mas, etc.
now with everything i'm going through, given how much of an impact this is to my life, i want to talk to others about it, like coworkers, and other friends.
but thinking about how i would explain how it's a mind-controlling cult, i feel stupid for falling for it.
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buckster
As an adult who escaped at 18 and has now purged this crap after burying it in my head fo fifteen years I am no longer embarassed I am just damn proud.
I was embarassed as a child through to my young adult years. Double life at school became kind of a solution and I was very good at it. That has its own blunders but I felt that it was a matter of survival. Where are ya gonna go should you actually let people know how you feel? Child protective services? That was too daunting and we were made paranoid of the system. If parents find out, you feel as though you'll be roasted...forget any kind of freedom. And the pummeling your ears and brain would take as a result of your "lack of humility" would be endless. I would imagine that I would have been left with reading Witchtower & Afake material exclusively from dawn till dusk. I would have been told that I was the embarssment and how could I bring reproach to the family and the org.
How many times did you have to explain beliefs that you thought were nonsense and exclude yourself from things out of obligation to that nonsense? That is embarassing.
I am free. You are too. I'm so happy about that. I am proud now and not embarassed.
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Any actually embarrased to admit they were Witnesses?
by Robert7 inwhen i was active, i was always (usually) proud to talk about being a jw, our faith, reasons for our stupid beliefs on birthdays, x-mas, etc.
now with everything i'm going through, given how much of an impact this is to my life, i want to talk to others about it, like coworkers, and other friends.
but thinking about how i would explain how it's a mind-controlling cult, i feel stupid for falling for it.
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Current elder explains the college situation to me
by changeling inwhile he says he has not seen a letter ,he tells me that at the last visit the co told his body of elders pretty much what is being said here on jwd.. he gave some examples: .
1- if a young ms/pioneer, attends college and lives at home, would he and his elder dad be deleted?
the young man is "spiritually focused".. 2- an elder's daughter attends college in the hopes of having a good job in the future and dad promotes this course of action.
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buckster
They are senseless to start with.
This line of reasoning is the same kind of rhetoric and BS that I used to hear. Sometimes they run around and try to get everybody on the same page when the current Imperial Leader has some kind of epiphany.
Really though its the same old thinking I heard as a kid except they are just trying to "clarify" some murmings that have come up. Both Grandfathers, Dad, Great Uncle, CO, annointed claimant, MS all in the family. Its very similiar to stuff I heard.
Although this is specfic its not really new. It gives elders who want to get wound up another reason to whip the crew and they will.
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my autonomy is soon to be over....DF'd on the horizon
by wings inyesterday i had a little breakdown...laid down for a nap and woke up 17 hours later!
not so unexpected, just never done that before.. the first thing that came to my fogging brain this morning was that in a week i am moving.
back to colorado and to a town where i know hundreds of jw's.
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buckster
Whatever feels most comfortable is what you should do. Bottom line its your gig. Push them back as far as you need to.
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my autonomy is soon to be over....DF'd on the horizon
by wings inyesterday i had a little breakdown...laid down for a nap and woke up 17 hours later!
not so unexpected, just never done that before.. the first thing that came to my fogging brain this morning was that in a week i am moving.
back to colorado and to a town where i know hundreds of jw's.
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buckster
Say you are not going. Not interested in seeing anyone right now. Nope not feelin' it but thanks for the concern. Sorry to disappoint have a good day. Yeah, really not up to discuss any of it. Shut them out.
Say you really would appreciate it if they would leave you alone . That is not a disfellowship offense.
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News Flash !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by TooBad TooSad inmy wife excitedly told me that she talked to the wife of an elder that just came back from.
the special training for elders in upper state new york and that the elders are being told .
to go back to their congregations and to get them ready for the great tribulation.. i said to her that is great news !!!!
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buckster
That is all too true. It is part of their mantra they go into when you run into them.
"This system is just so bad its gonna come soon. Jehovah will bring and end to this evil system of things soon. The end is near I just know it pay attention to the signs!"
So self confident and so eager.