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  My sad news

  by Fe2O3Girl in

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  as some of you on the board knew i was expecting a baby, i feel i should let you know that things have not worked out for us.. when i went for the 20 week ultrasound scan last thursday, severe problems were found with our baby's internal development.

  only one kidney was detected, and it was very enlarged and polycystic.

  there was no long term hope for the baby at all; if it survived to full term it could only live for hours at most.

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  Chloe

  I'm so very sorry.
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  The Org and my marriage

  by Chloe in

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  well, it looks like the jehovah's witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.. a little background, when i first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically.

  he has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them.

  he believes most of the doctrines (no christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the trinity is wrong, etc.

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  I'm afraid he thinks being a Witness WILL be his therapy. That's the answer to everything. I have suggested it but he says he doesn't need it. I have also asked to go to marriage counselling which he claims he is willing to do, but can never find time to go to the appointment.

  I really think I'm fighting a losing battle.
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  The Org and my marriage

  by Chloe in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well, it looks like the jehovah's witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.. a little background, when i first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically.

  he has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them.

  he believes most of the doctrines (no christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the trinity is wrong, etc.

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  Thanks for your suggestions, Winston. He is really having a hard time with the idea of getting a job and letting go of the business. Also, he knows I don't believe the bible is inspired anymore, so we will have to stay away from that subject because he justs throws that it my face.

  Pintail - I can only imagine. I am so sorry. That's why I'm so concerned about the intrusion of the Society.

  Quotes - thanks for the link. I was just going to look for it.
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  The Org and my marriage

  by Chloe in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well, it looks like the jehovah's witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.. a little background, when i first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically.

  he has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them.

  he believes most of the doctrines (no christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the trinity is wrong, etc.

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  He believes becoming more religious will solve all the problems in his life. A contributing factor is that he has been self-employed for the last couple of years which has been extremely stressful and time consuming without much monetary return so his self esteem is pretty low. He has a lot of people around him that are not the best influence on him and of course all Witnesses are fine upstanding human beings so they would be better to associate with.

  I have spoken with his oldest daughter about this. She is very direct with her feelings and is not afraid to express them, so I think she's just going to tell him it's a cult and that he's a hypocrit. He's really good at pointing out everyone else's faults without admitting his own.

  Thanks for listening and all your responses. I know it's like talking to a wall right now. I'm just hoping that he might see the Org for what it is once the love bombing stops and reality sets in, but I don't know if I'll still be around when and if that happens.
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  The Org and my marriage

  by Chloe in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well, it looks like the jehovah's witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.. a little background, when i first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically.

  he has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them.

  he believes most of the doctrines (no christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the trinity is wrong, etc.

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  Also, I notice, at least in the Spanish side of the JWs that sisters pay special attention to the brothers whose wife is not 'in the truth'. If that's so in the congregation he'll attend, you might even have to prepare yourself to lose him altogether. Of course, the blame will be all on you, as usual.

  Doubtfully, that's EXACTLY what I'm afraid of. He already tends to blame me for anything going wrong in his life, so I know this will add fuel to the fire. I'm also aware that there are a lot more unmarried females than males in the Org. I don't think many of them can support him financially the way I do, though.
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  The Org and my marriage

  by Chloe in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well, it looks like the jehovah's witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.. a little background, when i first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically.

  he has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them.

  he believes most of the doctrines (no christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the trinity is wrong, etc.

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  Chloe

  Well, it looks like the Jehovah's Witnesses are going to start intruding in my marriage again.

  A little background, when I first met my husband he was going to meetings sporadically. He has studied off and on for years but was never baptized so he's always been in the "love bombing" stage with them. He believes most of the doctrines (no Christmas although he lets me celebrate it, the Trinity is wrong, etc.) but I don't think he knows it all and is certainly not very well versed in the bible. He is also the only person in his entire family remotely connected to the JW's. His daughters are grown and want nothing to do with it.

  I went to a few meetings and started "studying" the Knowledge book until I couldn't stomach it any more. Then I found Freeminds and H2O.

  Before we married, I made sure my husband understood that I was never going to be a JW and that I strongly disagreed with them and he said he understood but I think he always secretly hoped I'd change my mind.

  He announced yesterday he wants to start back again because he knows it's the Truth and it would help him.

  My biggest dilemma is keeping my mouth shut. I know so much about the hypocrisy, flip flops, and flawed doctrine that it's very difficult not to express my feelings. Any, and I mean any, criticism of the JW's is construed on his part as a flat out attack. He is unwilling to listen to any information I have. I know I come across too firmly convicted but he won?t budge an inch.

  It?s just that I know how unbelieving spouses, especially wives, are viewed by the org so it upsets me. I also know how time consuming it will be for him. This is going to drive a huge wedge in our relationship. So much of a wedge, that combined with other factors, I don?t see much of a future for us.

  Thanks for reading. Your thoughts would be welcome. I am so grateful for this board
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  Say Something Jehovah's Witnessy........

  by minimus in

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  i know there's no such word as "witnessy" but this can be a fun thread.

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  In order to attain ACCURATE KNOWLEDGE, we must INCULCATE ourselves with Jehovah's word.
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  "Left Behind" Series Gets Left Behind

  by Stephanus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it seems that the writers of the scarey vision of the apocalypse that the left behind series creates aren't happy about alternative views of what the book of revelation means.

  tyndale house, which publishes the left behind books, are publishing a new series of fiction based on revelation, this time giving the preterist view an airing.

  preterism assumes that most of the events of revelation happened in the first century.

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  I thought they were printed in so that they guaranteed the authors and the publisher the greatest return. Each book was almost double spaced and the print was large. I think the whole series could have probably fit into a regular sized Steven King novel.

  I only made it through the first 4 or 5 because I lost all interest when the metal bugs or whatever they were started flying.
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  Zen snow

  by logansrun in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the scene outside my window is truly a delight.

  last night a light snow fell and the trees, barren of leaves, are now cloaked in white.

  the sun reflects off the ground and everywhere there is light.

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  Chloe

  The last few days in the "Banana Belt" of Colorado we have received record amounts of snow - 6 inches and record cold temperatures of 4 below zero. Usually it's in the 40's.

  The snow is supposed to stay in the mountains as far as I'm concerned.
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  Murders Still

  by Sam Beli in

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  those murders at the wts still will not give up; they continue to spin half-truths and bits of information.

  see this current article at their web site (on the evil internet): http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2003/12/8/article_01.htm.

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  Chloe

  This has got me thinking... something else I have noticed is how JWs have an unconscious "disgust" reflex when they see or interact with it.

  Oh yeah. My husband gets totally weirded out when he damages himself and needs me to put on a band-aid, like blood is akin to poison or something. Bizarre.