Only been before one JC while I was a JW. It was upon exiting. Personally I feel like it depends on your own attitude as to how you view it all. I had my mind all made up before it happen. The Elders were doing their job as they viewed it and I did not give a flip what they thought.
I had left a JW husband who let out 15 year old son die without blood that could have saved him. He was verbally abusive all the 30 years I was married to him and resorted to physical violence and injury to me. He hated me and didn't try to hide it. Also there was a number of affairs he had been involved with through the years. He himself had been disfellowshipped once. The Elders always said we needed to stick it out and we did. The feeling of hatred was mutual after 30 years of marriage. The brothers loved and respected him, and will I was a woman and viewed as the weaker vessel. LOL
And I had found my lost love from high school again after 32 years and was running away with him to start a new life. (no I was not raised a JW, became one at 21 with my then husband)
Ok so then I told my then JW husband I was leaving him, he told the Elders and they called me in. I wasn't going to go in, but an Elder I liked was on the committee and I went because he asked me too. I had written a short and very brief letter to them and gave it to the husband to give to them prior to the invitation. The good Elder was kind, even helpful, the other one was shocked and didn't know what to say. The third Elder played the evil Elder out to call down the devil on me. I kept my composure and and would not budge from my decision and told them to disfellowship me because I would not change my mind. I told them why I was ending my marriage I met with them once, and it was all over. I felt wonderful. Called my lost love and we talked about my flight to his arms. Have been happy ever sense now for 3 years. I
Don't be wishy washy unless you want to stay in the religion. Stand your ground if you are really ready to be out. We don't need to apologize for wanting something more than the life we lived as a JW. We don't need to feel any shame either.