Posts by whyamihere

Well I would have to say they have to start by preaching the truth. No Lies just plain old truth. Then there is the Love factor. They have to have love for one another no DFing etc....I think being too personal with those in your congregation is not needed. I think they should leave you with those matters and you should answer to god not men. With all of those I would think about it. No more lies, hidden truth and, cover ups on anything. Love for one another. No records of anykind. And to let you have a relationship with god and only you nothing to do with them.

However thats not going to happen. So I am not going back. I always say People in Hell want Ice Water ...don't mean they get it.

Brooke

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Not Having Kids in 'This System....'

by lonelysheep in

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one of my former bs conductors and her husband decided when they got married, they wouldn't have any kids 'in this system'.

i know the world could be better, but i see no reason not to have children if that's what your wishes really are....and you're able to for that matter.

she just turned 34 and really wants to have a child.

whyamihere

Yes I struggle! However, I am a young Mom going through alot and I have a hard time when someone calls me Mommy. It's still weird.I was first Pregnant at 21 and I was married at 19. I still have no idea what I am doing half the time. People call me up and ask how I am doing and how are the kids. I always tell them they are happy, healthy, and I haven't broken them, or killed them life must be good. Yeah, I want more but I don't want them right now. My husband works all day then has school, and then he plays in a band. I am basically a single parent with the hours I put in. So in time after he is done with school and, my kids are in school I may have more but, as of now I can't because my kids have so much energy and, life in them its hard to deal with. I sometimes ask are they normal. My first kid slept 5 hours in a 24 period for 6 months. That was really hard. It is getting better with time and, they are sleeping more. I hope to god I don't have twins ever!

Brooke

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4-year-old takes mom's car for a midnight spin

by unbeliever in

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whyamihere

My daughter is turning 3 and I can see her do that! I have lost many years off my life having kids and the crazy things they do!

Brooke

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Not Having Kids in 'This System....'

by lonelysheep in

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one of my former bs conductors and her husband decided when they got married, they wouldn't have any kids 'in this system'.

i know the world could be better, but i see no reason not to have children if that's what your wishes really are....and you're able to for that matter.

she just turned 34 and really wants to have a child.

whyamihere

In no way would i say kids make life easier or even, sometimes feel like a blessing. Little swines sometimes in my opinion.

Gill,

Do you have children? By that statement it does not seem like it. Children are hard yes I know that. I have 2 kids 1 who is turning 3 on the 12th of this month and the other who just turned 1 both still not sleeping full nights. I have not slept in 3 years nor have I eaten a full meal with out being bothered and not to mention 1 60 hour labor and one 15 hour labor. I know it is very hard rasing kids and dealing with them. But a blessing they are. They teach you more than you will ever know. They teach you Love and what it is and how to give it. In life you don't learn what love is until you have a child "in my opinion". You may fall in love with someone or think you have fallen in love. However after a long labor and a tiny child has been taken out of your body placed against you and you look in thier eyes for the first time and feel every emotion possible but most of all love for that tiny baby. I think Children make the world a Loving place to live in.

Brooke

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What Did You Typically Donate To The Hall & Society?

by minimus in

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i'm wondering if our departure has cost the society and local congregations money.

whyamihere

I don't know how much I put in ....I would think 5 bucks a month. I was 17 and I needed gas money!

I know for a fact at each Assembly my Mother would put in 200 to 2000 depending on what we had. Which sucks because I could have used some of that for socks!

Brooke

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Note-Taking at Meetings: What's the Point?

by Room 215 in

the last time i was at a meeting, i was struck by how many jws -- mostly women and pre-teenage kids were assiduously taking notes.

i mean, what is the point?

do they really believe the guy on the platform is saying anything that can't be found -- and reiterated -- dozens if not hundreds of times in their printed material?

whyamihere

I used to do it because I could fall asleep but turning my pen around and around and it would look like I was taking notes! God that was funny!

Brooke

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Are you easy to influence?

by JH in

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are you the type that's easily influenced by the opinion of others?

i'm easy to influence, but once i'm back alone, i do what i wanted to do originally.

how about you, are you easily influenced?

whyamihere

Absolutely!!!! I know I am. I am trying not to be. Now I am leading my own life but I look for other people advice. When I was growing up being called stupid or I don't know anything or that I am useless or that I was a rotten child by my mother everyday. When being told those things over and over you don't know if you are doing the right thing ever and you are always second guessing yourself. The only time I made my Mom happy was when I went to the meetings and when I was baptized. I don't think I was a bad kid I never asked for anything and did everything by myself. I raised myself! I think as an adult I have some problems and issues but I have done a pretty good job. But as for being influenced...I would say yes because I am still looking for approval and doing anything to make my Mother happy. I am trying not to do that as much though because I have my own life and my kids to worry about not my Mom and what she thinks of me.

Brooke