Dutchie, don't know if this will be of any help to you.
My committee meeting was started by the elders asking me if I pleaded guilty to the charges (okay, that was not exactly how they put it). My response back was "Just tell me, what exactly do you want to know? what I did, or didn't do wrong? Or are you, as elders and servants of your God, interested in my doubts of beliefs?" Ha, that shut them up for a minute, then they stammered that off course they wanted to know about my doubts etc. However, I was disfellowshipped within five minutes, so I wouldn't recommend this if you wanted to stay in.
Good luck! SYN is right, they only have power over you, if you allow it.
Viv.