Well, I think I will set it out as a situation of I am going, and I am taking the kids with me, and if she wants to come she can. Otherwise, she will spend the day at home, alone.
Regardless, I cannot continue to exclude my family from the things I enjoyed as a child. Especially when I cannot find a scriptural basis for not doing so.
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Thanksgiving request
by NKyGuy inso i suppose i should give a little background here first, since i am not very regular here.
i was in "the truth" for a number of years, my wife with me, progressing nicely and was even a ministerial servant.
however, after a while i just couldn't do it anymore.
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Thanksgiving request
by NKyGuy inso i suppose i should give a little background here first, since i am not very regular here.
i was in "the truth" for a number of years, my wife with me, progressing nicely and was even a ministerial servant.
however, after a while i just couldn't do it anymore.
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NKyGuy
I could certainly see why he would be happy. Nothing would thrill me more than having my wife decide one day to just stop going. I hold out hope every once in a while, when she is just too "tired" to go to the hall, but yet is not too tired to do the dishes, play with the kids, or stay up until 11pm.
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Thanksgiving request
by NKyGuy inso i suppose i should give a little background here first, since i am not very regular here.
i was in "the truth" for a number of years, my wife with me, progressing nicely and was even a ministerial servant.
however, after a while i just couldn't do it anymore.
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NKyGuy
I have never heard not saying Amen. That is actually kind of funny to me. If you can't agree with a prayer of thanks, and asking for the family to be blessed. I am not sure what to think about that. Doesn't Amen mean "So be it"? The silliness never ceases to amaze me.
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Exodus 23:14-17 You CAN celebrate Thanksgiving. !!
by hubert init's right here, in the nwt bible.... .
exodus 23:14...."three times in the year, you are to celebrate a festival to me".. exodus 23:16...."also, the festival of harvest of the first ripe fruits of your labors, of what you sow in the field.
and the festival of ingathering at the outgoing of the year", when you gather in your labors from the field".. so, on the third thursday of november, we celebrate the "feast of the ingathering" by dedicating this day to giving thanks to god for the food and all the blessings we have enjoyed throughout the year.. it's right there in their bible, so why won't they celebrate it?
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NKyGuy
I might buy into the whole "pagan origins" thing, if not for the fact that they recently put information in the Awake about Pinatas and that they know it USED to have pagan origins, but it doesn't really mean that now. How can they use that reasoning in one place, but not another??
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Thanksgiving request
by NKyGuy inso i suppose i should give a little background here first, since i am not very regular here.
i was in "the truth" for a number of years, my wife with me, progressing nicely and was even a ministerial servant.
however, after a while i just couldn't do it anymore.
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So I suppose I should give a little background here first, since I am not very regular here. I was in "the Truth" for a number of years, my wife with me, progressing nicely and was even a Ministerial Servant. However, After a while I just couldn't do it anymore. Much to my wife's displeasure I simply walked away from it all. Unfortunately, since that time we have had 3 kids, and I find myself wanting to experience many of the things I experienced as a child. Namely Thanksgiving. It was always such a nice time for my family, everyone was there, the food was fantastic, and it was one of the few times a year when I felt truely happy. So anyway, this year I would like to go again, and even possibly bring the kids with me. The trick is how do I do this without drawing the ire of my wife. I have considered digging up the Awake with the Luau stuff on it, but given I don't usually read the magazines it will look REALLY suspicious to her. If possible, I would like for her to come with me as well, as I can find no real reason why she should not go. So my question is this: Has anyone had success in getting their Witness spouse to a Thanksgiving meal? And how did you go about doing it?
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How Many Here Are "Technically" Still JWs???... Who's Not??
by minimus inwhat i mean is according to the society, there are a number of persons that are "technically" "inactive" yet are viewed as jws still.
i'm sure that i'm viewed as a witness still because i am not df'd or disassociated.....what about you??
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NKyGuy
Well, I would fall into that category for sure.
I have never been disfellowshiped, and have never disassociated myself. Even though I have not been to a meeting in about 5 years I am sure they still consider me a JW.
Funny thing is, they try to call on me every year before the Memorial. Last year I told my wife to tell them not to bother, they would just be wasting my time and theirs. She was not really happy about it, but they didn't show up either :)
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I need to have my head examined!
by TrailBlazer04 in.
well, i've finally gone off the edge...after getting an aas degree in 2 years while working full time, i went and enrolled today to start working on a 4 year bs degree in engineering...i hope to get into the aerospace engineering masters program...heaven help me!!!.
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NKyGuy
Congrats on your degree and good luck. It is alot of hard work.
One of these days I need to head back to school myself. Unfortunately, I am too busy saving to send my kids for when they fiinish school. It costs too much now to go, I can't imagine what it is going to cost me to send 3 kids off to college.
Makes me want to cry.
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Looking for some advice...
by NKyGuy ini have been inactive for the past 5 years or so.
i just could not bring myself to sit through meeting after meeting of the same thing any longer.. however, my wife and children are still regular and as such are preparing to go to the district convention next month.. for the past 4 years i have been able to avoid going to it with commitments to work, etc.
unfortunately this year it is not the case and my wife has made it very clear that she expects me to go with her.. how do i express to her that i don't want to spend 3 days of my life in uncomfortable clothing, sitting in a hot arena, listening to information that makes me want to stab pencils into my ears?
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NKyGuy
I suppose I am going to have to come out and just tell her.
Now, the only question is whether I tell her when the kids are around or when they are not around.
As to the suggestion that I try to get the kids to stay with me, I would, if I didn't have to work on that Friday. If I am not going to the convention, I am sure as heck not going to burn a vacation day either.
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Looking for some advice...
by NKyGuy ini have been inactive for the past 5 years or so.
i just could not bring myself to sit through meeting after meeting of the same thing any longer.. however, my wife and children are still regular and as such are preparing to go to the district convention next month.. for the past 4 years i have been able to avoid going to it with commitments to work, etc.
unfortunately this year it is not the case and my wife has made it very clear that she expects me to go with her.. how do i express to her that i don't want to spend 3 days of my life in uncomfortable clothing, sitting in a hot arena, listening to information that makes me want to stab pencils into my ears?
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NKyGuy
Thanks all for the kind advice, and the welcome.
It was about 5 years ago (maybe a bit more now) that I first started to do more research on the WatchTower Society. At the time I was a Ministerial Servant on my way to being an elder. Hehe, that all changed after I missed about a months worth of meetings in a row and an elder or two knocked on our door.
She knows that I have problems with doctrine.
I try to be supportive, and as I have not DA or been DF I allow her to take the kids to the meetings with her as well. I even go so far as to attend the Memorial, but there is a huge difference between 2 hours and a 3 day convention. I even went with her to the special assembly day (something I have not done in years) just to help with one of the kids.
I am just not sure I can do this. And I am NOT looking forward to the berating coming down the road.
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Looking for some advice...
by NKyGuy ini have been inactive for the past 5 years or so.
i just could not bring myself to sit through meeting after meeting of the same thing any longer.. however, my wife and children are still regular and as such are preparing to go to the district convention next month.. for the past 4 years i have been able to avoid going to it with commitments to work, etc.
unfortunately this year it is not the case and my wife has made it very clear that she expects me to go with her.. how do i express to her that i don't want to spend 3 days of my life in uncomfortable clothing, sitting in a hot arena, listening to information that makes me want to stab pencils into my ears?
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NKyGuy
I suppose that is an option, I am just not sure if I am prepared for the shit-storm to follow immediately after.
I suppose in some ways I just get really tired of all the guilt. She is constantly saying that it is so hard to do everything alone.
While I know that she is just attempting to guilt me into going to meetings and what not, I just can't bring myself to sit there and listen to it for hours on end. At the same time I am not sure I can sit there and listen to the constant complaining leading up to the convention either.