and if you are do you care to tell why you are disfellowshipped?
for those who were not what prevented you from being disfellowshipped?
curious minds want to know.
I am df'ed. My first husband was arrested, thrown in jail then charged with abuse, harrassment and uttering threats, he later pled guilty. He was publically reproved. We seperated. I met someone, fell in love, married that person. I was disfellowshipped for it.
Jez
hi everyone....i've been reading posts here for about 6 months and finally decided to introduce myself !
well i'll try to keep this short :-) .i'm 28, was born into the org and have been out since 1993. i was never baptised and as far as i know am not da'ed ( witnesses say hello, and don't try to avoid me ) .
mum became a witness in the 60's but is out now.
Welcome Jodo. I am always thrilled to read a newbie's account. One more out.......
As for the depression, I found that because I was so use to filling myself up spiritually (or so I thought) on an almost daily basis, that regardless of whether or not you bought into it 100%, it still leaves you with a huge void. Rather than leave this void, with many of us ex-JW, it HAS to be filled.
Some do it with another religion, others with their own definition of spirituality. Whatever your definition of spirituality is, you have to start a quest for it and find it. Once you do and you live according to that definition, an inner peace will start unlike anything you have ever known. It is too difficult to live life thinking that we were spiritual, and then finding out it was all a farce. Your own spirituality does not have to mean you believe in God, the bible etc. The answer is individual and inside of each of us.
I find my spiritual side now in family, mediation, reading and exercise. I love people and I am optimistic about the world scene. I continually find more and more what being spiritual means to me. It is difficult to come from being TOLD what it is and to actually listening to our inner self and matching that with how we live our life.
IMHO Jez
...then take this bible quizz:.
http://www.landoverbaptist.org/news0201/biblesex.html.
my score was 7/10... not too bad!
7/10
Those answers really do make you question the bible's validity and why some religions take it so seriously. I take it for what it is now....a glimpse of a time in history and as history goes, tainted with male perceptions, ideology, culture, beliefs and values. If that.
Jez
1/15/05 saturday chicago meetup?reza?s restaurant, 5255 n clark st (by wrigley field)
we are shooting for 5:30 pm giving us time to eat and talk and go to either the green mill or the jazz showcase afterwards.
parking: street parking possible, free lot (5238 n. clark st.)
I sure wish I could go. Too far away. Maybe this summer i will ride my moterbike down South and met up somewhere with some of you!
my parents have noticed my negative and sad attidude lately, whenever were going to the meetings or studying and so on.
but they just think that i am negative and sad in general.
i dont think they think that its spesifically because im being dragged to the meetings.. so lately we have had a lot of "serious" talks, because theyre worried for me.
Always be honest with your parents. Living a lie/leading a double life is torturous to your soul and always causes more problems than it solves.
Jez
last night, my cell phone rang and it was a number i didn?t recognize.
i answered, and the voice said, ?is this doug??
and he said, ?this is dd ?
Wow, your post is timed perfectly as I just got 'the call' as well. They want to meet Wed night. You have given some great ideas.
Jez
last night, i'm lying in bed, getting all sleepy and comfortablehuge spider in the corner of my room!!!!!!
eeeeeeekkkk!!!
i rush from my bed and grab the vacuum cleaner and flip the switch...........and voila he's sucked up safely and hopefully very dead inside............feeling much safer and again serene, i climb back in bed and pass an uneventful, peaceful night.
ew. We have widow spiders here. They are small, glossy black, and have a red hourglass on their tummy. Bad bite, can kill ya. Hopitals around here have the antidote though.
Jez
hi everyone, i don't mean to burden anyone with my problems, but hope that i can get some feedback.
in sept. i met a guy whom i assumed was happily married.
we worked together for 4 weeks at the first job and became pretty close friends.by then i already knew how much i was liking him.
You would not be the first women to be sucked in by the promises of a married man. It is an age old scam. You are perhaps a little wiser than others because you are seeking opinions and advice from experienced people. I hope you can make a decision that is best for your children first and you second.
From reading all of your posts, one things stands out to me the most: He wants the best of both worlds. He wants his wife, his children, his family, his lover, his unborn child, his religion, his friends, his job, EVERYTHING. Life doesn't work that way. He has way too many doors open and this can only result in some being slammed shut and people getting hurt in the process.
Jez
hi everyone, i don't mean to burden anyone with my problems, but hope that i can get some feedback.
in sept. i met a guy whom i assumed was happily married.
we worked together for 4 weeks at the first job and became pretty close friends.by then i already knew how much i was liking him.
Oh boy....where to start?
If he is disfellowshipped, he may or may not want to get reinstated. That means he will have to go to meetings for months without anyone even looking at him, total ignoring. Ask him if he plans of being reinstated if he is df'ed and what it will mean.
If he is disfellowshipped and chooses NOT to get reinstated, you or your child may never ever meet his parents let alone be accepted by them, you will not be accepted by his other children nor will your child. He will lose all friends and family. Many of us on this site are victims of this family shunning. My own mother will not talk to me and has met my husband only once.
He seems older, like around 40, so why is he not willing to face up to his decisions and accept responsibility for them, why is he trying to pin it on his wife? It would scare the crap outta me to have a guy jump from such a long term relationship (16 years you say?) over to me. WOW. I applaud the other suggestion here to put some distance between you and him. Let him figure out his shit first.
Tell him you are on this site. See what he says. Tell him you don't ever want to be a JW. See what he says. Tell him you don't want him to go back to the JW's. See what he says. You will soon figure out his priorities if you ask questions like this.
You have put yourself into this tangled web of lies and deceit. It is too bad, but nothing is free and clear yet, so wait a bit until it is. Then see what happens. Go home to your parents or whereever you said you could go.
Love Jez
i am so terrified!.
#2 daughter came home from college on 12/18 with a violent headache, nausea, neck pain and great fatigue.
we took her to the dr. on the 20 and again on the 21st as she had kept nothing down for 3 days.
Here's to a speedy recovery to your daughter.
((to you both))
Jez
