Monica,
Yeah people sometimes don't take emotional/psychological abuse seriously. It's like "Well if he dosen't hit you then it can't be that bad."
alot of victims of emotional abuse would prefer their tormenter would just hit them, it seems physical blows would heal faster than emotional ones. Tormenters such as my dad get their jollies by controlling others. Issues such as dumping your clothes over the floor and ordering you to clean it up is them exercsising control. Anothe rmethod of torture is sleep deprivation. He will often make my mom stay up all night talking to her about her innadequcies, why she was a bad mother or why her family was awful or how the whole world was out to get him. He was paranoid and being a JW didnt help much. He voudlnt hold a job longer than a couple of months, mostly because he could not take orders from someone else..he was too proud.
I dont speak to him anymore and never wish to, there were many times I literally wished him dead but could think of no way to kill him without being caught. Emotional abuse is that bad.
I was scared to be alone in the house with him. He would preach against the evils of tom and jerry as being violent and therefore from satan. Oh get this..he hit my mom in front of my 7 year old little brother who happens to be autistic, and hass the $#@%! nerve to try to give me a speech for playing a video game like tekken tag in front of him. What an asshole. He still claims satan made him do it.
that it wasnt him, it was satan attacking the family. He is still trying to contact me I beleive but i have moved and have new number and everything, he hasnt been able to track me down at all.
When he got angryhis eyes would literally look demon-possesed. I have heard accounts of soldiers who commit attrocities in wars, such as the japanese in the naanking massacre, to have this look. I beleive it now to be the look of absolute loss of rational thought, the moment when you are completley at the mercy of your deepest animal insticts and fury. THis is why we fear it so, because we are no longer dealing with a human being but an animal. One time he hit the wall half an inch from my face and put a hole in the wall..why?
Because I had missed the school bus. And it wasn't even that i had missed it..he misunderstood me. I told him the bus that had just left was not my school bus but another one, mine would arrive any minute..but he wasnt to be reasoned with. I just ran and left the house after that. My mom told me he would throw knifes at her, and to this day she does not keep any sharp knifes in the house. She uses a special electric safety knife to cut meats and vegetables.
All this while he wa sa JW in good standing, and everyone thought he was a great guy. Especially my older brother who defended him constantly. His response? His advice was to 'just avoid him' and 'dont provoke him'
yeah whatever.
One time, to avoid him, i walked 3 hours to my friends house and stayed the night. This is a man who never learned how to love or how to interact with humans. In court when my mom was trying to get custody of my autistic little brother he brought all these papers trying to discredit my mom by saying she had depression and was on medication all the time..yeah i wonder why she was depressed.
Then he tried to say me, by leaving the jw's had rejected all moral standards and was disobedient and a delenguint. THe judge saw he was a psycho though and gave custody to my mom. Unfortunatley she is now under the control of my older brother but thats a different story.
-Dan