then, not having mailed it yet, i received a letter from my mom, also very loving, encouraging me to return, but telling me she will no longer have contact with me personally.
if i want to drop my daughter (who is only 3) off at her house for unsupervised visits and write letters in my daughter's name to keep her updated, that will be fine.
and she would also like me to bring my girl to the kh.
Your post reflects how a lot of us feel. I have total sympathy for you. I was having breakfast with a girlfriend of mine today. She is non JW and I told her how I found this board and we were crackin up because I said it's like the AA of JW's. I have the freedom to speak but don't have to reveal myself. She is 13 yrs AA so she understood the comparison.
Keep your chin up...sorry for your pain.
spoilers?
for anybody who knows the story of jesus, it should be like watching titanic---the ship sinks, get over it.
spouse: "nobody in the movie saw the hooded creature.
Bethany,
I was very moved by the movie and plan to buy it on DVD. The hooded figure is supposed to be a demon. In one part it has a maggot coming out of it's nose.
I will have to watch it again...I saw it opening night to see the sadness you saw on it's face.
I always enjoy your posts by the way.
this has been on my mind lately.
i'll probably end up having kids in the near future, and i would not want my mother preaching to my children.. so, i must ask, how do you handle your jw relatives who try to preach to your children?
how do you deal with a "gift" like my book of bs?
XQ,
I don't know you personally but you have made many comments here that irritate me. First you have claimed to still be a witness. Why are you here then?
Secondly I lived a life of HELL being raised to believe that everyone was bad. If I didn't do what was told I would die forever. These are NOT loving teachings. They teach FEAR. NOT LOVE. Fear is the motivating factor in the JW. I still hold dear some moral principles that I was taught. Those are taught in most every singly family I know. JW or not.
My son will not be exposed to hate and fear. Simple. You can throw stones all you want but apparently you don't have a child.
my son was born after i faded.
his dad and i always have had christmas (father never was jw).
we celebrate his birthday and we do easter.
My son was born after I faded. His dad and I always have had Christmas (father never was JW). We celebrate his birthday and we do Easter. I am now married to a man who was raised Catholic and is WILD about holidays. My ex (son's father) is remarried and they do it up big as well.
Sometimes I feel like a misfit. I never believed in Santa. I never had a tree. I never did any of their usual customs. Now it's weird to raise my child and go thru the motions with him. I will not lie to him and tell him Santa is real. I will not lie and decorate for the bunny. I love the celebrations for him because of the family and dinner and the fun. Beyond that it's hard for me. I know the effects of the religion will always be with me but I want my son to have a normal life. I LOVE his birthday though. I love the day I gave birth to him. I love God for giving him to me. I will NEVER have a problem with his birthday or my husbands. But Christmas and Easter are hard. Anyone else have a point of view on this?
this has been on my mind lately.
i'll probably end up having kids in the near future, and i would not want my mother preaching to my children.. so, i must ask, how do you handle your jw relatives who try to preach to your children?
how do you deal with a "gift" like my book of bs?
I no longer allow my son to spend time alone or any overnights with G&G. My son's father FLIPPED when our child came home and said that Santa was demonized and that God hates people who celebrate birthday's. Also told my son that Santa and the Easter Bunny were not real. My ex is not a JW and can't stand religion in general. I had to explain to my son that G was a different religion and that she was wrong and that he should not repeat this. My son was only 6 at the time so you do the math. He was upset. He no longer is allowed with her because she won't stop.
This whole thread makes me want to throw up. How parents could subject their children to this kind of abuse is beyond me. I was DF'd at 19 and that was bad enough. Reproved at 16.
its easy to belive what we read and accept as truth.when my wife came to the computer i left on the screen a post on what happend at bethel (not intentionally) ..she read it and said i dont belive it?
i would like to belive what i read on this board is 100 % true.
iam grateful for the truth on the u:n and more and more stuff that blows my mind away.and also personal stories that have had a profound effect on me.. sadly iam certain with-out doubt that the majority of exsperinences on this board are true because no matter how sincere a person is when you allow people to have a higher legal position in the land they live in than the law of the land they live in( no matter how bad or corrupt the society of the land we live in.
I for one am so grateful to have found this board. It made me feel normal and less like a freak for what my childhood had been like.
You can usually tell if you have been around the truth for any length of time if there is a BS post.
hey guys.
both my mom, dad and sister have asked me to write them with my reasons and concerns for leaving the wts.
this is what i wrote them.
Jared,
You are full of courage and I know how difficult this road is. Many of us here do. Please know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Be strong my friend.
The whole thing breaks my heart and makes me cry. Brought back many memories of the same type of exchanges with my own parents. Find your path and know that you are loved.
a long story condensed in order to keep private things private, but first of all, how many active members are on here now?
second of all, were the pre-1975 jws less hard core, would you say?
is that around the time they "stepped it up"?
Apparently I was asleep during the infamous Watchtower of 81. Please let me know what it was about. Thanks!
okay ... here's what happened .... first, some background ... i am the youngest of three daughters raised in the org (we are third generation), and i left for good more than four years ago (i left in my heart a long time before that).
they tried to shun me for a while, but couldn't keep it up any longer than 6 months, and after that we slowly got close again.
my mother and sisters are all still witnesses.
Perhaps more then anything...you feel slighted one more time by the religion. One more time it was chosen over respect for you and your feelings. One more time your family has rejected you in some way, however slight, and you are feeling the rage that we all have at one time or another.
Maybe instead of looking at it as a slight to you see it from her eyes. Dealing with the elders/family/daughter and maybe she isn't strong enough to do that right now. A divorce and custody battle are in and of themselves too much. She may view your relationship strong enough and you personally strong enough to be slighted so that she won't have to deal with the issue at hand.
You are strong to her. She is weak. I think about this everytime I have an issue with a sibling. They don't get it and maybe never will but I sure do and I can be there to pick up the pieces in the end.
Just another view...either way I am sorry for how you are being treated and are feeling.
