Posts by Iforget

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Dating a JW when you are not

by jwgirlfriend in

i am dating a man who is a jw and i am not.

i attend a nondenominational church.

i found out from a mutual friend of ours, two months after my boyfriend and i had met, that he was a jw.

My brother is married to a non-JW. He has faded but still holds a lot near and dear. She goes to her parents for X-mas and birthdays. They have a child who is being raised without Christmas in their home but my sis-in-law takes her to her grandparents who celebrate for them. I think it is a house divided. One way or another someone gets hurt.

The birthday thing for me is weird. Since I have never celebrated my birthday as a child it doesn't really faze me now when someone forgets. My husband NEVER forgets and loves birthdays. However...my childs birthday to me is one of the greatest days of my life and I defy anyone tell me to not celebrate his birth.

Run away and don't look back. Children are hard enough to raise in a united household. But that is just my humble opinion.

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Did you ever......

by Iforget in

make an ass out of yourself being a holier then thou witness?.

i have been thinking about the past more and more since finding this website.

i can recall working in the cornfields one summer and a pentacostal girl was also working.

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make an ass out of yourself being a holier then thou witness?

I have been thinking about the past more and more since finding this website. I can recall working in the cornfields one summer and a Pentacostal girl was also working. You could obviously tell her faith because she was wearing a skirt out in the field. Long hair no jewlery ect... Anyway I can remember feeling this overwhelming need to blow holes in her faith. Here was my chance to "witness" and tell her how wrong her faith was.I cornered her basically and brought up the scriptures. She was totally off guard and the poor thing was just trying to earn some money. Thinking about what an outcast I used to feel like in regards to "normal" kids....how she must have felt showing up in a skirt to work in nasty dirty hot conditions. I went home that night and told my mom what a great job I had done. I told mom how she said modesty was why she wore a skirt and mom's response was .. well ask her how modest she thinks she is in the middle of a corn field in a skirt.

Of course I went back the next day and said this horrible thing to her. I am so ashamed of myself for this particular event. How bad I must have made this girl feel. I suppose it was my chance to poke holes at the different girl and make myself feel superior. What a joke and in the end...how badly I must have made the witness' really look for being such an ass.

I know being raised this way made me socially retarded. I regret so many stupid things said and done. Anyone else have a similar experience?

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The newest article on infertility

by DaCheech in

hey out there, back in the days when my wife and i was trying to have kids, we were worried and it took 1 1/2 years to conceive.. .

this latest wt or awake, (since right now i'm pissed): does nothing but bring out negative sides to every issue of fertility (or adoption) possibilities!.

i'm mad as heck!

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Well I have to admit we are close to 100k at this point with 4 IVF's and 6 IUI's. We have great insurance so we have not been out of pocket much. There are currently 4 states that require insurance companies to pay for infertility treatments.

They are off the mark on amounts because 7 IVF's would be hugely expensive even with insurance. Well over 100k. Also...one would have to have a doctor that was not credible. RE's who are worth a damn would never ever do 7 IVF's on a woman over 42. They told us at our beginning appointments that donor eggs were our best bets at age 35.

I am in my late 30's and there are so many midagating factors to infertility that to label even two women the same is too many. Again I digress...I know too much. What works for one doesn't work for another. It is one of the most painful things I have ever had to go thru emotionally. Maybe they are jealous now that it's not helpful elders making my life a living hell. It also requires one to read and be knowledgable. It also requires a lot of me physically. They would argue that would/should be time spent in service.

They can kiss my ass.

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Witnesses do gamble

by JH in

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friends

we all know that witnesses say that they don't gamble, but do they?

i don't mean gambling with lotteries, i mean gambling with life.. many witnesses attend meetings and follow the jw way of life, not because they like it, but because they are afraid of dying at armageddon, so they gamble with their current life, or take a chance, and follow the group, just incase they would win eternal life with the witnesses.

some give away nice life oportunities, marriage, good jobs etc, and gamble all that away, for possibly a better prize..

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I had an elder...who I really do like...say well you can gamble but only once. Otherwise it's a habit. It made me laugh. He is such a down to earth pleasant man. Still enjoy him to this day when I see him in public.

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The newest article on infertility

by DaCheech in

hey out there, back in the days when my wife and i was trying to have kids, we were worried and it took 1 1/2 years to conceive.. .

this latest wt or awake, (since right now i'm pissed): does nothing but bring out negative sides to every issue of fertility (or adoption) possibilities!.

i'm mad as heck!

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It is insulting at the highest level to me. I am in the throes of this so I suppose I am biased. They have no clue as to what they speak. Science is an ever changing thing and what was not even considered possible 10 yrs ago is now the norm with infertility. It's a process that changes daily.

They can f**k off as far as I am concerned. Until they want to educate themselves or stand in my shoes.

I am no longer considering my sister. I am too afraid she wouldn't be able to let go and try and witness to my child.

It's heartbreaking and the WTS has no idea however I am not longer being controlled by them. I could SCREAM reading that article because members will take it to heart and preach about what they do not know. Hell even the Catholic church doesn't have a problem with it.

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Soooo lucky

by Iforget in

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friends

my mother called and is in town brown nosing with the co's wife.

wants to "stop by and visit" with me this afternoon.

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Well I made my self unavailable. Mom was fine with it in the end. I was just not up for a fake afternoon. It takes more out of me then I can even begin to deliver.

She knows I don't go but it forces me to be polite. It's over and now I have another year off.

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Soooo lucky

by Iforget in

jw
friends

my mother called and is in town brown nosing with the co's wife.

wants to "stop by and visit" with me this afternoon.

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Seriously else...I am DYING LAUGHING. Not sure what I will do. I told her to call me before she wanted to come and I would see where I was at.

Off to catch the cat and hold knife naked...roflmao

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Soooo lucky

by Iforget in

jw
friends

my mother called and is in town brown nosing with the co's wife.

wants to "stop by and visit" with me this afternoon.

Iforget

My mother called and is in town brown nosing with the CO's wife. Wants to "stop by and visit" with me this afternoon.

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Question... Do JWs shun Family?

by Sassy in

i had a disagreement with xq in chat today, because he was trying to say that jws for the most part disobey the wts and still treat family like family even if they are dfd or quit being witnesses.. i don't feel that is true.

i think that the majority of us on here who no longer are jws have family members who no longer have anything to do with us and shun us.... so i said it would be interesting to take a poll and see how many here are treated just like all the rest of your 'loving family' who is a jw still.......are you treated the same?.

does family shun you for being df'd, da'd or no longer participating?or do they hide and talk to you but only when other active jws can't see?

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It truly truly breaks my heart to read some of your pain. I went thru it for 5 years and then couldn't take it any longer. If it helps...you are not alone. You are not wrong. You are loved and supported here by people who without a flinch love you and know your pain.

I wish for peace and love for you all.

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Ozzie's Weekend Poll #107

by ozziepost in

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friends

how's the wekend for you?

mrs ozzie and i attended the most incredible concert today - the best violinist we've heard up close and personal.

brilliant - even if he is a pom!!!.

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Ooooo you forgot the best one...

Reading the book you smuggled inside your bible. You could read and everyone thought you were really into the scripture.

Besides that....just looking at other people. Wondering when my real family was going to come rescue me from this freak show.