Hi Jessi and welcome to the chat. Many people have experienced the same situation as you are in, and find it very hard to deal with, the only advice to you I can offer my dear is this. Stay close to your dad and family, he loves you, and in time maybe you can bring up question of how different he would feel if you had been df. Being raised as a JW can be real taxing on a person, emotionally speaking, but many lose contact with family members because of leaving the org. or being df. I have lost contact with family members, but also realize I need to live for myself, not for others, I need to be happy for myself, not for others. Live your life the best you can and try to be happy. It sounds like you have a real loving father, hang onto that, and be there for your younger sister if or when she needs you. There are quite a few feelings you go through when you leave the org. Some have anger, bitterness, fear, loneliness etc. but as time goes by you work through these feelings, and sometimes things do look brighter. Once again a big welcome to you.
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Hi, I am new to this board
by rebelledat12 inmy name is jessi, i am 24 and new to this site.
i spent the last hour or so reading some of the posts and wow!
i think i am in the right place.. a brief bio, i was raised as a "full" second generation witness (my grandmother converted) but always knew that i didn't want to be a witness.
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Is this how we want to be perceived?
by Joyzabel inthis quote is from someone who lurks on jwd!
sorry for the long email, but this has been therapeutic and i just may post this on the db one day.
(lol) but i have to get up the nerve, because those people can be a little mean at times.
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I come for the true support from others. To read others posts, and try to be supportive, I have noticed some have been mean, maybe not wanting to, but some people put up a supportive wall around themselves, to avoid getting hurt. Some have already been hurt to many times. If a person gets verbally attacked, the natural thing is to attack back, and in doing so may say things they later feel they should have not. I agree that many need to try to be more kind. If I find that some are not so kind, I tend to stay away. I want to say a special hi to Joy2bfree, as I understand you where asking how I was since I have not been chatting for a while. I am fine and hope you are also. Thanks for thinking of me.
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Memorial No Shows...Please Check in....
by ISP inwell, i was tempted but i decided not to go to the most bizarre religious ritual of modern times....how about you?.
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No invite extended my way, wouldn't go anyway, their big loss. Like I really thought anyone in family would give a dam anyway. What a joke.
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BEATING KIDS IN THE WASHROOM
by Rags ini am 36 yr old female originally from toronto ontario canada.
was raised jw till i was about 14. has anyone else had this happen in their hall?
the mom's (thank god never mine!
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This truly was a trend, I remember hearing kids screaming outside, as their parent was beating on them. It scared me at the time, I grew up had my own kids, never laid a hand on them. Children are children, they are young, and their attention span is short many times. They have a real hard time sitting for hours and doing nothing. I always felt sorry for them, and can't blame them one bit if in time when they grew up, left the truth. I think such treatment for little ones is terrible. Now you would think if that goes on someone should report such loving and caring parents to the authorities. I mean you can spank a child, then you can beat a child. Most of what I heard was on the line of beating. I wonder how the parents would feel if someone took them out and beat the crap out of them. How awful it must have been for so many kids when there was an assembly and they had to endure that all day long. It even got worse when there was a talk on disciplining your kids. MAYBE SOME PARENTS NEED A TIME OUT.
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My baby
by Kep inhi there,.
i've been mia for a week now and thought i would share my news with you.. here's is my precious baby girl, born 20 march.. her name is jahkeil.. nothing to do with any religion, just came out that way.. i wanted my child to carry my dad's name (jack).. .
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CONGRATULATIONS What a beautiful little girl.
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Post a message to Sharon Roe(Janet Bryant's sister
by seven006 insharon like her sister janet was also raised a jw.
she left the religion three years ago just about the same time as robert and janet.
her husband is not a jw but did attend the occasional meeting.
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Sharon, my most heartfelt condolances to you and your family. Although some may not know exactly what to say at a time like this, may you find some comfort in knowing that there is many of us who are thinking of you and your family at this time when such a tradgedy has happened. We want to let you know, we care, we are good listeners, and will try to help in any way we can. Plan and simple Sharon WE LOVE YOU.
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Thowing away WTS Publications
by Judith inin the past weeks, i have been throwing away my 32 year library of books.
the feeling of freeing myself from the weight of the lies contained within the pages was my objective.
i have always been afraid of letting them go just in case it was the "truth.
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It took me awhile, but finally I gathered most of my books, only kept a few. I took them to my JW sisters house, knocked on door, said she could have them, she asked if i was not coming back to truth, I flat out said no. She took them.
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The meeting did not go well.
by Danni init would have taken more much more time to tell it all.
he told us the meeting would began as soon as the other brothers arrived.
danni: i will give you two.
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I have learned witness stick togeather like glue, and use every excuse in the book to hid and sweep under the rug anything that goes on. If it is something wrong that they have done, they are always in denial. But if you do something wrong, look out because they are the first ones knocking on your door. Part of the reason I left, because I knew some were doing wrong things, and got away with it. So glad I don't have to see or deal with that anymore. HOW CAN ANYONE BE ON THE SIDE OF SOMEONE WHO HURTS CHILDREN, AND RAPES WOMEN. What a sad situation, and they should be exposed.
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3/24 - A Special Day
by Amazing insunday, the 24th, will be my mother's birthday.
had she lived, she would have been 95. she was 44 when i was born.
she died in july 1966, when i was 15. she would have turned over in her grave had she known that i had ever been a jw.. her first contact with the jws was when i was still in the womb.
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Amazing, your mom sounds like she was a very special lady,how nice to have had her in your life, and to be so loving, I wish I had a loving mother as she, you are so fortunate to have had her. HAPPY B DAY TO YOUR MOM. Thank you for sharing your lovely story of her.
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Meet my Lil Man:)
by mommy inhey all.
i just got home from the hospital earlier this evening, but i wanted to post a few pics of my lil man for you.
i can't believe he is finally here!
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Congratulations to you he is adorable.