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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  bikerchic

  Yesterday was a really really bad day for me. One thing my husband said though is helping me. He said that I am the one paying for her decisions and that it is ruining my life, this baby's life before it is even born, his life and ultimately our 12 year old's life. That I have to pull it together for 4 other lives now.

  I am trying.

  Jez

  Awe Jez my heart aches for you. I know too well when a child strays we tend to blame ourselves, what did we do wrong? Please don't stay there too long it can truly hold you back from experiencing all the wonderful joys of life right in front of your eyes like you husband said.

  Don't waste any more time on someone who isn't ready to receive the love you have to offer her right now. Some day she'll come around that's the best you can hope for. I know it sounds harsh but really she is controlling you from miles away and ruining 4 other peoples lives in the process. Does she really get to have that power over you?

  Have a good cry, morn her loss and move forward to all the wonderfulness of the new life within you and a husband who is so far standing by your side don't let that slip away, don't let her do that to you.

  Big hugs I know I've been there and am doing that right now.....sigh. We have to be the strong ones, it does teach them by example.
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  Has your brain been re-wired with the "F" word?

  by Gregor in

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  i learned an interesting fact from my father's doctor when he was being treated for a stroke.

  mom had mentioned that even though dad couldn't speak well enough to ask for a glass of water he could clearly say, "goddammit".

  the dr. explained that epithets are from a different part of the brain and this area had not been affected by the stroke.. i found this very interesting.

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  bikerchic

  I hardly used the "F" like you I thought it one of the most deplorable words in the English language, or any other language for that matter.

  After my life went to hell....oh I used all kinds of other cuss words all my life much to my Mother's chagrin she reasoned that since our Dad cussed like a sailor how was she able to stop us kids but she did always correct us! So back to the story....after learning of my X's affair and the whole bamshuckled ordeal dealing with the Elders and all, I started using the F work a lot....still do, although I do speak proper out of respect of others most of the time.

  My husband even sometimes blushes when I get going and he's a big strapping construction worker! LOL I ain't ashamed of nuttin! I honestly chalk it up to holding things in so much when I was a JW that it's a release for me to just say what I darn well mean to say and some words, well sometimes you only need that one word that says it all.
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  Bike Run: 9 States, 11 Days, 3,757 Miles

  by frozen one in

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  i arrived back home yesterday afternoon.

  the ride was really good.

  traveling on the bike is great therapy.

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  bikerchic

  Speaking of Utah, I stopped at the Flaming Gorge Dam (it was 100+ degrees when I was there and I felt like I was on fire) and read an entry in the visitors book. It said something like, "An amazing place. What a blessing from Jehovah God." Rather an odd comment about a hydroelectric dam. After I had left it occurred to me that I should have drawn an arrow and written freeminds.org or something. But I was dehydrated and road weary so I didn't think of it in time.

  I think you should go back and fix that entry!

  Beautiful country and I really enjoyed seeing the pictures. How cool you met some peeps from the JWD too!

  Sometimes I do miss riding on the back of a Harley with the wind blowing through my, helmet, sigh.
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  Sad News Orangefatcat's husband died this morning.

  by orangefatcat in

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  this is one of the sadest days in my life, my beloved husband marco passed away this morning at 5:15 am.. it has been a dreadful day.

  but my dear friend was with most of the day while we went togerther to make funeral arrangements.. that was really hard on me.

  i have done nothing but cry and cry all day, i finally fell asleep a few hours ago while my friend diane was here and she let me sleep.

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  bikerchic

  ((((((((((OFC)))))))))

  Thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.
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  Fight with ex-Wife

  by thepackage in

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  i just got off the phone with my ex-wife (we where talking about the kids) and out of the blue she starts tellnig me how much everybody at teh kh is supportive of her (she files for divorce after i decided not to go to meetnigs any more.

  n i did not cheat on her).

  any ways, she star5ts naming names of all the people that "love" her and how she is a better dub now than ever.

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  Hey I don't mean to sound harsh or rude I also hate two-faced people and gossip. I've learned to simply say "none of my business" and it's so freeing you don't have all that negative garbage filling up space in your head. I am truly sorry for your troubles and I hope things calm down for you soon.

  krgds
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  Fight with ex-Wife

  by thepackage in

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  i just got off the phone with my ex-wife (we where talking about the kids) and out of the blue she starts tellnig me how much everybody at teh kh is supportive of her (she files for divorce after i decided not to go to meetnigs any more.

  n i did not cheat on her).

  any ways, she star5ts naming names of all the people that "love" her and how she is a better dub now than ever.

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  bikerchic

  Hey sorry you are going through such a tough time divorce is no picnic!

  I hate the fact that all these JW calll me and talk sh*t about my wife (which by the way I agrre with), then when she is at the meeting, they hug and give her the "how are you holding up" line.

  Seriously it begins and ends with you, if you don't listen to it or contribute to it, it stops. Hang up the phone it's all crap and drama and who needs it?

  Good luck with the whole mess.
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  growing emotionally :)

  by Missanna in

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  i've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.

  i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.

  my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.

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  bikerchic

  Keep the conversation lively and away from touchy subjects. What you did here was perfect and you can do this face to face:

  He wanted to know why i didn't believe that it was the truth and surprizingly i didn't go off on a rampage but calmly told him that it was something i didn't want to discuss with him at this point. that was something i tried in the past but failed miserably. lol but i'm very proud of myself.

  You don't have to discuss things with them, period. Remember the feeling you got after you spoke to your Father how proud you were of yourself, hang onto that feeling if anything uncomfortable comes up, keep the feeling then pause, think before you speak and you'll say the right thing.

  Also set a time limit in other words don't stay too long and don't drink alcoholic beverages it loosens the tongue! LOL Be prepared, rehearse in advance anything which you can imagine coming up in conversation and how you will answer or not answer! You have a long time between now and October to prepare.

  I hope it goes well it would be a shame to miss out on seeing your nephew grow up!
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  Are some of us still judgmental and think ourselves morally superior?

  by nvrgnbk in

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  is a certain "uptightness" creeping into our community?.

  should we be scolding one another?.

  especially kids?

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  bikerchic

  Guess I'll be the judge of that eh? Bwhahahaaaaaaaaaa!
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  growing emotionally :)

  by Missanna in

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  i've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.

  i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.

  my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.

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  bikerchic

  That's awesome! You should feel very proud of yourself for taking a stand for what you believe and not cowering or getting upset while doing it. True growth and it also has to be something your Father recognized in you as well even if he never says it to you.
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  Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related

  by Mindyemt in

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  i just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to

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  bikerchic

  Hey girl you're among friends here, we're listening.