I smoke occasionally when I drink. I swear now and then, but I'm really working hard to change that. I sleep in on Saturdays. I actually enjoy CHURCH on Sundays...that's never happened as a JW! I watched Sex in the City on TV. I try to not judge people/situations too harshly without knowing the whole story. As a JW, all it took was a tiny piece of sixth hand gossip and I was completely comfortable lynching the person.
Billygoat
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What's your "Nickname"?
by JH inmany people have nicknames.
well, here on jwd i'm called "rat".
in real life, i don't have any.
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Andi - short for Andrea
Monkey Princess - don't ask, because I really don't know how it started.
Monkey - short for Monkey Princess, but we use it in our household for anything little (puppies) and cute (newborn babies).
Billygoat - nickname from my dad because I was stubborn and always questioned everything. And I was his "kid". Go ahead and groan.
Munchkin - because I'm a shorty.
Shortstuff - from my dad again, for obvious reasons.
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Do conflicts/arguments strengthen friendships/relationships ?
by JH ini think that conflicts do strengthen friendships or relationships.
it sets boundary lines and defines what's acceptable from what's not acceptable.
naturally it will strengthen the friendship or relationship as long as both respect the boundary line of the other one.. or, maybe conflicts mean that things aren't going right and the relationship/friendship isn't going good, and that the tolerance level has become very low, and arguments errupt for little nothings.... .
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On these hot August days I find myself returning to old ways........teasing a little here and there....he sees it as abuse and puts a stop to it.
Teasing is fine to me as long as it's in love and at the right time. (If the recipient of the joke is not in the mood, then don't say it, no matter if they'd laugh at it another time.)
But I know what you're saying. There was lots of teasing in our family growing up. But really it was rude and mean comments veiled in a funny comment. They were hurtful and had double meaning. I didn't like it AT ALL. I still hear my dad do it to my mom and I hate it. Hate it. I don't deal with passive-aggresive humor well. I think it's a cheap and chicken-$*** way to get your meaning across. Get out with what you want to say or don't say it at all...double entendres in love/hate jokes is not healthy IMO.
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I'm off to the Big D!!!
by ohiocowboy ini am finally ready to move to dallas!
i pick up the moving truck friday morning, load up and head out of ohio about 1 a.m. monday, which will get me to dallas monday evening.
i'm moving from a 4,200 s.f.
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((((((OhioCowboy)))))))
I've been wondering when you were going to make it down here. I'm glad to know it's soon! I hope you have a safe trip and give us a shout when you get in town. We'll have to have a housewarming party for you!
Andi
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A Customer really pissed me off yesterday at work: SHE WANTS TO PRAY for me
by Terry ini work in a bookstore that specializes in buying its goods directly from the public second-hand and reselling them at half price.. .
it is a large chain of 83 stores in 8 states and does about 100 million a year.. .
i'm in charge of the religion and the philosophy sections.. .
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Billygoat
Has a situation like this ever blind-sided you as it did me? Am I over-reacting? I don't think so. My reaction follows my values. I value self-sufficiency and cherish my rational mind. To have a stranger impugn both in a five minute conversation naturally generates an emotional reaction on my part.
Considering our background, I don't think you're overreacting. Any person with a backbone reacts similarly to an arrogant person demeaning us in a conversation. Funny thing...I don't ever remember Jesus acting like that, even to the dregs of society.
A similar incident has happened to me. Several years ago when I joined this board, a fellow-member invited me to a local exJW meeting (not affiliated with this board). It was at a person's home and I felt completely safe as there was a crowd of maybe 10 or 12 people. But one fellow in the corner (with his silent wife) had decided it was his mission to convert ex-cult members into Christianity. He didn't realize 1) most of us there were already Christians, and 2) that him "spouting" scripture in a loud tone of arrogance was doing NOTHING for his cause. Unfortunately, it's "Christians" like this that give a bad name to Christ. I was angered that day to the point of arguing with him in the same tone, but of course, to no avail. It was not what I expected out of the meeting and I've not been back since. My fellow-board member and I now joke about "The Screamer" the first time we met at that meeting.
I am a Christian, but I work very hard to not shove my beliefs down anyone's throat, even if I think they're flawed beliefs. It's not MY journey...it's their's. And like all the people that allow me my journey, I will always attempt to allow others as well.
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Mobile Phones a threat to the Watchtower?
by DevonMcBride inhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2002/10/22/article_01.htm
young people ask .
.do i need a mobile phone?related topics:what's so wrong with telephone sex?you are connectedhow?
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Billygoat
I remember a number of years ago my dad told me they got rid of their cordless phone because people could tap into to the phone conversations with special electronics. No paranoia there. My response to my dad was just why he thought his conversations were so important that anyone cared. He felt the government, especially the UN had taps on JW's especially elders because Armageddon was so near.
OMG - this is too funny!!!! I can totally hear my dad saying the same thing. (This is the same man who told me that Police's "Every Breath You Take" was Satan's tool to remind us he's always watching us, waiting for us to sin and make Jehovah look bad. LMAO!)
The arrogance of how some JWs think the "world revolves around them" is just too much. But I guess that's a typical trait of a cult-member. LOL
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Do conflicts/arguments strengthen friendships/relationships ?
by JH ini think that conflicts do strengthen friendships or relationships.
it sets boundary lines and defines what's acceptable from what's not acceptable.
naturally it will strengthen the friendship or relationship as long as both respect the boundary line of the other one.. or, maybe conflicts mean that things aren't going right and the relationship/friendship isn't going good, and that the tolerance level has become very low, and arguments errupt for little nothings.... .
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You're totally wrong Billygoat.
I guess I know now how you usually feel? LOL
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Having fun with the price of gas...
by upside/down infrom quitchyerbichin:.
think a gallon of gas is expensive?
this makes one think, and also puts things in perspective.
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Billygoat
I know...I filled up my hubby's Galant last week - $42.00!!!
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What do you think of your in-laws?
by ButtLight inmy bf has a large family.
his parents and 10 brothers and sisters.
im just about done with the whole bunch.
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Buttlight,
Hon, I feel for you. I really do.
I've was once married to a man like your BF. His mother and grandmother would take pot shots at me at the dinner table (usually on holidays) and my dear ex would just sit there and continue stuffing his face. I was heartbroken. Every interaction with his family gave me panic attacks and depressive episodes for days after. Looking back, I realize there were two issues at hand. One, his family was dysfunctional at best and trash at worst. They were terribly passive-agressive and had no courage to communicate in healthy ways. Two, my ex had no backbone and was a major mama's boy. One time my ex-FIL assaulted me when I lived in their home, because I left laundry in the dryer for two days. No I wasn't the best houseguest, but beating me to a pulp and shoving me out the front door was the appropriate way to handle it, right? My husband (then boyfriend) broke up with me over that. We eventually got back together, but it was tough going. I kept telling myself, "I'm marrying him, not his family." Man was that a load of crap! I hate to say it, but anyone that tells you that is lying or hasn't understood what kind of family baggage marriage can bring. Our marriage lasted for two days short of two years.
The guy I dated after that had family that was very wealthy and very into marrying "well". Let's just say, I wasn't the gal (divorced and no family name to speak of) they had envisioned for their sweet only son. They were very cool with me and discussed everything "around" me when I was in their presence. They were never outwardly rude, but they did NOTHING to make me feel welcomed. I understand today that he's married to a divorcee with two boys from her first marriage and is miserable. Yes it's tacky, but I get a sense of satisfaction from that.
Today, I am married to a wonderful man that has a family that loves me unconditionally. They really are fabulous people! My FIL pulled me aside one time during our engagement and told me, "C***** and I will never attempt to replace your parents. But we will love you like you're our own child. That means we'll tell you when you make us proud and we'll tell you when you do something disappointing. We will love you always, even when we don't agree with life choices you might make." How could I ask for more? They are honest, communicative, loving (even when Mozz and I do stupido things), and always always always kind to me. If anyone in my husband's family dared to do or say anything disrespectful of me, he would stand up for me without a seconds hesitation. If they continued, he'd make sure to remove them from our lives. I take a lot of comfort in that. In our marriage, we have a real attitude of "it's us against the world", even if that world were to mean his family. But thankfully it's not.
Today I look back at my past in-laws and I cringe. I settled for so much less when my future rested in so much more.
Buttlight, don't settle for something like this...you and your kids deserve so much more. Your biggest issue is not your possible in-laws, but your BF. I hate to tell you that, because it's not what you want to hear. But if your BF truly loved and respected you, he would NOT tolerate that type of talk about you. And if you loved and respected yourself, you wouldn't tolerate a man that allowed it, whether it was his folks or Mother Theresa. Don't do what I did. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Sometimes that's REALLY hard to do.
(((((hugs)))))))
Andi
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how to deal with a break up.please help?
by fleaman uk in.
i dont start many topics,but i have just split up with my longterm and wonderful girlfriend.i have never experienced such a black,deathlike feeling in my entire 35 years on this planet.i guess that is normal.. i cant see beyond this evening.i cant imagine loving again..ever.sorry for the drama(its really not like me),but i am at the end of my tether.. no-one could ever replace that wonderful,caring,generous sweet natured girl.. devastated and in need of any advice.. (sorry all,i know there are far worse things happening in the world)
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(((((flea)))))
I'm sorry. I've been there. Just be gentle on yourself. Take some time to grieve and treat yourself.
Andi