Posts by Thegoodgirl

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Who are you now?

by tsunami_rid3r in

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all of us have been tit-sucking jehovahs witnesses at one point in our lives, and we have been deceptively forced to give up our very own individuality to become one group united under, supposedly, god's only earthly organization.

just maybe, maybe throughout your much hated dull life, as a brainless witness, you weren't allowed to experience the necessities of life, such as satan's blaring rock and roll that you oh so always wanted to listen to, dressing up in those flaming hot name brand clothes lines, being part of a sports team, knowing what true bonding friendship and competition really meant, or chosing those friends you know would never turn you in for having that nightly drink at the club.

now that we know the real truth, and the damage has been done, what have you done to repair it?

Thegoodgirl

Well, I don't really know who I am either. I guess I'm a person who ususally sees things differently than those around me, but I don't voice my opinion because I'm trying to "fit in" since I never quite did as a JW. So then I end up being bored with those around me, and no one really knows who I am.

I'm also learning that even though I may have a viewpoint that people should have no barriers to being friends with others (ie: race and culture shouldn't be a factor), others do not have that viewpoint. So while I am naively spending my time trying to build friendships with those of another race/culture, I've recently realized I will always be #2 friend for them. It's just a new realization I"ve come to this week. Not to hijack the thread!

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LUNG CANCER--WILL YOU BE NEXT? PETER AND NOW DANA

by horrible life in

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i ran out of happy pills sunday.

so monday i was feeling it.

when cnn started discussing peter jennings, death from lung cancer.

Thegoodgirl

You know, I just had to add this. My patient made a comment, that I know I will remember. There he is sitting in an ICU bed, with possible cancer and other long term problems. He's been there for a week. We were talking about the news, and he says, "You know, the only reason Dana Reeves lung cancer makes news is because her last name is Reeves. I mean what about me? Why don't I get to be on the news?"

I had never thought of it that way. Here I was feeling so bad for Dana, and getting teary at the Peter Jennings memorial tribute, and my own patient is suffering the same thing! In fact everyone down the hallway is dealing with a similar thing. I mean I know they're famous and that, but it just struck me that I am getting emotional for these famous people, yet this stuff is happening all over! So yes, think about the Nicotine patch, and if you've tried to stop before, try again with your doctor's help. There are great new ways and support.

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Infidelity

by Been there in

hi all, i am coming here to seek some help sorting out my feelings, emotions and try to put the million thoughts in my head into some sort of order.

i already did a lot of the grieving 5 years ago when i suspected so it is not as painful now that i know for sure, facts are usually not as good as what the wife with many lonely hours can dream up in her imagination.

this may get long, sorry.

Thegoodgirl

Well put Tijkmo.

Been there: I feel for you, I am so sorry you were so lonely and he did that and covered it up. I'm sure you are so angry. I have advice, but I'm not you, I'm not in your situation and don't know him or really you. I just hope you aren't hurt again. Like Tij said, you don't want to continue damaging the relationship by thinknig you trust him, but really don't. I can't imagine what you're going through. Good luck, I'll be thinking of you. Keep us updated.

I personally would leave my husband if I had that much proof, or if he confessed. He may be a new man on Saturday, but things may slip back to the way they were. Or he may feel uncomfortable now that the power has flipped, and he basically is begging forgiveness. That may wear on him after a while, and he may change for the worse. But that's just my advice, I'm not you. (I did have a similar scare a few months ago while my husband was out of town, but I really have no proof or confession, just a fishy situation. I beleive him that nothing happened, but it has really damaged our three year old marriage. I just cannot trust him like I used to, and he knows it. I can't help but ask a thousand questions when he goes out without me. It's horrible. I can't imagine if he really confessed or I beleived that he really did it for sure.) Again my thoughts are with you.

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could i be preggers???....or just sick?

by kittyeatzjdubs in

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ok...so i was cooking dinner last night and suddenly became nauseous and threw up 3 times.

i couldn't put anything in my mouth the whole night.

this morning i was feeling woozy so i managed to eat a bowl of cereal.

Thegoodgirl

Soooooooo? What's the result?

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My Mom Requests They Don't Announce Her Name If She Is Sick--- On Platform

by minimus in

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my mother's so disillusioned by the elders, circuit overseer and society for removing her as a pioneer for going to my daughter's wedding in which she married an "unbeliever", that she has told the elders not to even announce her name if they find out she's been sick or could use some welcomed calls.

nope!

she just wants them to stay away from her as long as is possible.

Thegoodgirl

Minimus,

That is so great. She's finally thinking out of the box. I hope it turns out well, and I sure do wish the same would happen to my mom!!!

GG

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CONGRATULATIONS ELLIE!

by diamondblue1974 in

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just to let you know that at last... ellie gave birth to baby girl over the weekend; georgia weighed 8lb 10oz and both baby and mother are fine....i thought you might like to send your congratulations to her and her partner.. .

db74

Thegoodgirl

Yaaayyyyy! Congrats, I was thinking of you over the weekend, wondering what happened! Looks like a real cutie!

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opinions please

by Ellie in

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would you all please give me your honest opinions.. if you were in a relationship with someone who through alcohol had let you down badly in the past, how would you feel about them going out a lot?.

how much freedom would you give them?.

would you think it reasonable for them to either go out without you once a week, sometimes staying out all night but certainly till very late?.

Thegoodgirl

Ellie,

So sorry. Listen, just worry about that baby right now. Deal with him in a few weeks. But just so you know you're not alone, yes, I would be pissed. He should not be going out when you're that close to giving birth, and they say an alcoholic should never take another drink once they come clean. Has he gone into therapy? AA meetings?

But again, worry about that stuff in a few weeks.

GG

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could i be preggers???....or just sick?

by kittyeatzjdubs in

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friends

ok...so i was cooking dinner last night and suddenly became nauseous and threw up 3 times.

i couldn't put anything in my mouth the whole night.

this morning i was feeling woozy so i managed to eat a bowl of cereal.

Thegoodgirl

I've often thought this, but it turned out to be the beginning of years of migraine headaches. The "aura" that you are about to get one is that you throw up. Then comes the yucky headache.

Did you take the test yet?

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What's the most DANGEROUS thing you ever did?

by JH in

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anybody ever bungee jump or do anything quite dangerous?.

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Thegoodgirl

Had sex without a condom.

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Ever had someone threaten to kill you, and mean it? Just happened to me.

by wanderlustguy in

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friends

i just had it happen for the second time in 3 years, today.

the first one wasn't that bad, because the guy didn't scare me.

the one today...i think might really try.

Thegoodgirl

Oh my God, that is so awful. Please, please do not stay in that office alone. Just have someone work there with you. I do not think you should carry a concealed weapon, because I've never heard of anyone using it in time, and if they guy comes back, I'm sure he'll be even more prepared. But then again, it's up to you. How about a dog? I know a guy who works alone driving around collecting rent money frompeople who are late with payments, and he takes his big dog (no pun intended Big Dog) everywhere. Anyway, I do hope you get that restraining order. Thinking of you.