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  How long did it take for the fog to lift?

  by Honesty in

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  2. friends

  i was inactive for almost 2 years, not attending meetings or reading any watchtower publications before i felt the fog start to lift from my mind and i could truly think.

  how long did it take for you?

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  Thegoodgirl

  Hmm, I guess about 3 years. Two years of college, and then one year of being married and had moved to a new city, and finally, I was like, hey my thinking has been really screwed up!

  And, I too am still waiting to recover from my JW childhood!
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  Ctrl, Alt, Delete.....

  by bikerchic in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you some times wish you had a go back button on your life as a jw?

  i know the defining moment i wish i could hit ctrl, alt, delete.

  i'll tell you mine, you tell me yours, if you wish.. mine; remembering the summer of 1967 i was all of 15 years old.

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  Thegoodgirl

  I know when I would have done Ctrl, Alt, Delete, but looking back, it's all turned out for the good. I would have had more freedom and experiences, yes, but I would be trading that for the first feeling of stability in my life, ever. And with recent events in my family, I really need this stability and love that I have now at home.

  Anyway, it hurts too much to talk about it.
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  How DARE he?! This is why I'm still Single!!!

  by stillAwitness in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, i was dating this guy and its been a long time since i have even been with anyone that i thought was worthwhile.

  i've been focusing on other things and with everything else going on with trying to gain my independance i just have not wanted to get caught up.

  anyways, how dare the guy i was seeing call the whole jw mind-cult issue "stupid" when i tried to explain to him why i am the way i am (awful social skills, the simple excitement from just being around a new scene, etc.

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  I remember, I used to almost use the "I just got out of a supressive cult" as a pick-up line. Not really, but it did draw the guys in. Most were absolutely amazed, and wanted to know more. It is all ridiculous if you think about it. But hey, StillAWitness, you're young. YOU didn't get sucked into a cult, YOUR PARENTS did. Tell him to remember that.
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  Meeting Clothes

  by Nosferatu in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i absolutely hated the concept of "meeting clothes".

  all my meeting clothes were hand-me-downs from other brothers.

  i always hated getting hand-me-downs from the fat jw kids who were older than me.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Yes, we had the worst hand-me downs too. Patterned skirts, paired with a solid colored button-down or semi-decent t-shirt, that hopefully wasn't too faded. Nylons and flat plain colored shoes to top it off. Like you said, most didn't fit, and were faded.

  But I do miss dressing up a little bit. I haven't worn a skirt in ages!
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  Can a Sexual Predator Be Cured?

  by Kenneson in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the state of california is conducting an experiment by releasing some sexual predators, who have undergone treatment at a state hospital into some communities.

  one such example is cary verse, who is now in bay point.

  convicted of sexual assault of three boys and a man and treated in atascadero state hospital, he left treatment in feb. 2004 and is now on conditional release.

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  No I don't think they can, either. It's one of the hardest psych disorders to work with, I've heard. The patients are very resistant to open up. I saw this a bit when working with them. Often, they've been abused themselves, they do it to others, and it's just very sad.
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  CANADA HUGHES BLOOD SUIT GOES TO COURT

  by DannyHaszard in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  dad given ok to sue over death

  calgary sun, canada - 19 minutes ago .

  a judge's ruling has cleared the way for a wrongful death lawsuit filed on behalf of a teenaged jehovah's witness who lost her fight with leukemia.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Thank you, Danny, for fighting for all of our families. This is big and surely will have far reaching effects.

  GoodGirl
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  A survey

  by deneranys in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just joined this forum, for two main reasons.

  1-i've been feeling the need to talk to some ex-jw's out there.

  i feel like i've only been alive for 2 years, and it's hard to feel normal around the public.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Cool paper, would love to read it.

  And don't listen to the paragraph police, they drive me crazy.

  Welcome to the board!
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  What would make you jump on a couch?

  by jojochan in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i read this question in people magazine and lol'ed at the question.

  i guess one of mine would be:.

  to know that i won the lotto and that i don't ever have to work again, and to know that i can share the wealth to those that have none.. any one else?.

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  I'm with ya, Richie, and basically everyone else. I actually don't need the WTS to crumble, just the people I love to get their heads out of the sand and get out.

  Also, a cure for the diseases that run in my family, too CG21.
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  I am faced with serious decisions here - Can you help me find the answer?..

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. social
  2. family

  i am going to reveal details of a personal nature here.

  these details may reveal who i am to anyone looking to finally expel me from the organization - but frankly that it of little importance compared to what i am now having to decide.

  i ask those who here - with either the qualifications, or who can direct me to those with such, to respond.

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  Thegoodgirl

  And one more thing. It's great what you and your spouse are doing. My grandmother just died this week. I was just really really sad, and was trying to figure out why. I realized that she and my grandfather really have been that stability in our lives that our parents unfortunately just couldn't provide (Dad with mental illness, mom a JW and her own undiagnosed issues). One day, those three kids will realize what you did for them and be truly thankful. Especially at this age, you are definetly helping shape their lives and their own self-images that they will carry on throughout their lives.
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  I am faced with serious decisions here - Can you help me find the answer?..

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. social
  2. family

  i am going to reveal details of a personal nature here.

  these details may reveal who i am to anyone looking to finally expel me from the organization - but frankly that it of little importance compared to what i am now having to decide.

  i ask those who here - with either the qualifications, or who can direct me to those with such, to respond.

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  Thegoodgirl

  I'm no lawyer or psychologist, so I'm just speaking as someone's daughter.

  My dad had an undiagnosed psychological disorder, which was finally diagnosed at age 52. (He had been in rehab 4 times before it was diagnosed.) Once diagnosed and treated with meds and rehab, he became a different person. He has always been involved in me and my sisters' lives, but only recently has established consistant contact with my half-sister. I'm sure my half-sister had a bad opinion of him for years, and for good reason. But he now calls her often and is always willing to visit, though she is usually hesitant, which is understandable.

  Basically I'm saying don't throw this guy away as a total dirtbag, he may have good intentions, and if he is ever able to pull his act together, he may have a positive impact on the boy's life.

  BUT, that said, I totally agree with doing this legal beagle. He may just be "curious" and not really interested in taking a responsibility at this time. So I would get a lawyer, but like you said, be amicable.