When they split our congregation into two, the attendance dwindled so bad, that there were elders meetings about pushing them back into one congregation, but they never did it. Also our hall was built before the society made all KH's have to be built alike, so we had like 300 chairs, and they were always mostly empty. It looked so bad that they eventually unbolted about 7 back rows and discarded the chairs, plus a strip of chairs from against both walls so that it would look more full. It's kind of depressing to go back. On the subject, when I did go visit mom after about a year of not going, it just seemed so odd that this building had once seemed so powerful and grand to me, and now it just looks like a silly empty and depressing meeting hall in the middle of nowhere.
Thegoodgirl
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Bookstudy Group Disbanded......haha
by Mary ini just got word that the bookstudy attendance in one of the groups at my hall has dwindled off to numbers so pitiful that they're dissolving this particular bookstudy group and splitting up the remainder and shipping them out to other bookstudy groups.
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Hi everyone... the PIG's Flyin' Now!
by burnthepig in.
just wanted to formerly introduce myself.. .
i've been hanging out here lately.. didn't want anyone to think i was barging in.. i got so excited about all of the normal people here.. and seem to have lost my manners!
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Thegoodgirl
"Kill the pig, slash his throat, bash him in", now that's in my head for the rest of the afternoon. Welcome. You're a brave girl to restart your life, it's hard, but doesn't it feel great??? I grew up in Florida, so we we're kind of close...
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I am scared of my future marriage
by jwbot ini am watching oprah (right now actually) and the topic hits close to home.
good timing actually, because yesterday i was thinking of talking with my fiance, mike about this very thing.
you see, mike really loves kids, and we plan to have them eventually, its a very important part in our relationship (to him, mostly).
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Thegoodgirl
JWBot,
Maybe I'm just young and inexperienced too, or just a bitter wife with no kids yet, but I always thought parents DO love their kids more than their spouses. I just assumed that. Yes my parents were divorced when I was 7, so maybe I'm biased, but I've always heard when you have a kid, the love doesn't even compare to the love for your spouse. So I always thought the challenge would be caring about your spouse after that. So I guess I see your fears, but in my view, you'll both love your kids more than each other, and it will not be a source of contention. But anyway, we should both not worry about it until we have kids.
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New Baby Pics
by Bryan inheeeeeerrrr'sss... sebastien!.
he's doing great!
he finally found the nookie and is eating well.
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Thegoodgirl
What a cutie! He looks so content in each of you and your wife's arms. Enjoy your "new" life.
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Do you see real people here at JWD?
by jeanniebeanz inwhen people post to jwd, do you make an effort to understand "who" they are and take an interest in their wellbeing, or are they just 'ghosts in a machine' there to entertain you?
do the people here fall somewhere in-between for you?
do you think it matters?
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Thegoodgirl
People are becoming more real to me the more I visit, and as I see a similar tone to their posts. I am starting to get addicted to coming here, especially when I'm supposed to be listening to lectures for an online class or writing a paper, I always have to hold everything and check out the JW site. I especially see people as "real" since I posted when I had a mini crisis a couple weeks ago. So many people were so helpful and open in sharing their private stories about marriges, etc.
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Genes re-united... and converted
by New Worldly Translation inmy parents are really into genealogy and looking into their ancestors at the moment.
pretty interesting thing to do you might say.
i have a funny feeling their going to turn it into a witnessing opportunity though.
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That's cool that you found some relatives. My grandfather did that about 10 years ago, and we had a huge family reunion in Central Wisconsin (Oshkosh) with like, 300 people. It turned out that one of the 300 was a Witness (actually she was just married into the family). Mom was super excited, so then everyone was happy. (We thought we were the only JWs in the family.)
I can't count the times we've ruined something fun by trying to Witness, but hopefully your newfound relatives will just give a polite "no thanks" and move on with finding cool family tidbits.
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Listen to Mom or listen to love?
by skeptikchick inmy boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now and living together for one.
our relationship couldn't be better, we love each other more than anything, and are supportive of each other in every way.
both of us are convinced that we are a perfect fit for each other, and we are basically on the same page about everything, until about 2 weeks ago that is.
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Welcome Skeptic,
I don't know how old you guys are, but I'd say this is the beginning of one of the most turmulous times in his life. If he wants to keep you, he'll have to stand up to his mom and everyone fromhis childhood for the first time in his life. If he choses to please his mom then he's going to ask you to lay low/move out for the week his mom is in town. He has to make a choice, and it's not about you, it's about him stepping up to the plate and growing up. It's hard to do. I would cut him some slack and give him a little time, but don't let him let things continue the way they are for too long. Good luck.
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Thought it was about time I spill my guts...
by Krystal ini have already posted bits and bobs about my "story"... i like the companionship i have found here and i feel it about time i get this off my chest, so here it goes.
i am a 20 year old montrealer (it is me above!
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Thegoodgirl
Krystal,
So sorry your mom wasn't there for you, but you've made it this far, stay strong, you did all the right things, they will pay off. Welcome.
GG
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My story
by Chia ini have posted this story before on some other boards, but after "lurking" for a long time here, i have finally decided to come out and tell my story.
it is really long, so i'm going to tell it in a few parts.
that way i can also tell if i'm boring everyone to death, haha!
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Thegoodgirl
Welcome, Chia! Hope you are able to have a healthy happy existance away from your family soon. I know you love them, but you'll never be able to fully be yourself in that house. I cannot believe the elders would ask you those questions! Unbeleivable!!!!!
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Have you conquered the indoctrination?
by Frog insomething i?ve wanted to ask you all for a while.
had you 100% denounced jw doctrine to yourself at the time of your leaving the org?
i know many have said that specific issues prompted them to leave i.e., wt membership in the un, silent lambs/child molestation policy, malawi political party card issues, inconsistent changes in doctrine i.e., 1975/1914 generation not passing?new light begets old light begets new light etc.
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Thegoodgirl
When I was leaving (after several years of stressful doubting), I told my mom and sort of myself, that I'm just going to "try out" not going to meetings because I wanted to only go for myself not out of habit. I about 25% wasn't sure if I may go back, 75% ready to flee. Within a few months, I saw that the world did not fall apart when I stopped going to meetings, and the world still made total sense even if there were no god. Wow. That was freeing.
But still, I was raised a JW since 2 years old, and left at 21, so really it is a part of who I am to the core, and it's hard to totally reject yourself. I still feel like "everyone deserves a chance" like the Witnesses taught us, and I think the field service made up who I am professionally (I'm a nurse, but when I introduce myself to a patient, I always feel I"m knocking at the door of a "potential sheep", you know?)
Also, I still can't help it: if I'm scarred in a dark house at night or am just getting home fumbling to find the light switch, I find myself mumbling "Jehovah, Jehovah, Jehovah" to keep me safe.