Joy,
Thanks as always for the kind words.
This situation did give my wife and I an opportunity to talk.
She also feels that her niece is not being treated fairly.
The problem is and I guess always will be, that my wife is stuck between really analyzing her beliefs or having a relationship with her family.
I think I've come to realize that its not fair for me to want her to make a choice. My goal at this point is for her to learn the importance of forgiveness and the fact that we are saved by God's grace and not our works. If she can be free of the WT's presure of field service and required meetings, I think I can live with Sunday meetings and having respect for the JW's beliefs on unimportant issues.(ie. cross or stake, heaven or new earth).