Nellie,
The woman's question was specifically about where. You are exactly correct about Jesus' reply. Her question asked "where," Jesus answer was "neither ... nor ... Nevertheless, the hour is coming, and it is now, when the true worshipers will worship the Father with spirit and truth, for, indeed, the Father is looking for suchlike ones to worship him."
"Where" is anywhere you can with spirit and truth, which is? Anywhere. The woman asked "where." Jesus answered "how." "Where" was definitely addressed by Jesus, though. He didn't say where, but he did say the two places she believed to be the possible choices were not, didn't he?
They even change the question Peter asked Jesus on the occasion of Jesus stumbling some followers from, "Lord, whom shall we go away to?" into, "Where will you go away to?" That is the question asked of everyone who leaves.
Respectfully,
OldSoul