((Josie)) It sounds like things are under control and at least you two are communicating. His trust and faith in his pastor will go a long way into getting him into that support group and like you, I believe that family counselling is a good thing. I can relate to your husbands experiences as a child entirely - his going off on the boy will cause your son to (without interference now) most likely have his own anger or self esteem issues later. Remind your husband of this and depending on your sons age, there might also be an all male youth group available to him or something just as effective. Good luck and stay strong..sammieswife.
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I need to get my husband some help...
by mrsjones5 inmy husband has an ugly temper.
it rears it's ugly head rarely (well used to be rarely) and now it pops up mostly when my oldest boy messes up.
it's so bad that anyone seeing it would call it abuse.
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Compliments from the UK
by sammielee24 insunday telegraph article.
from today's uk wires: salute to a brave and modest nation.
kevin myers, the sunday telegraph london.
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Thanks LT..I'm a Canadian...English and 11th generation French ..lol...but I understand what you mean. sammieswife.
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Compliments from the UK
by sammielee24 insunday telegraph article.
from today's uk wires: salute to a brave and modest nation.
kevin myers, the sunday telegraph london.
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From the UK a lovely tribute to Canada and her people -
Sunday Telegraph Article
From today's UK wires: Salute to a brave and modest nation
Kevin Myers, The Sunday Telegraph LONDON
Until the deaths last week of four Canadian soldiers accidentally killed by
a U.S. warplane in Afghanistan , probably almost no one outside their home
country had been aware that Canadian troops were deployed in the region.
And as always, Canada will now bury it's dead, just as the rest of the world
as always will forget its sacrifice, just as it always forgets nearly
everything Canada ever does.
It seems that Canada's historic mission is to come to the selfless aid both
of its friends and of complete strangers, and then, once the crisis is over,
to be well and truly ignored.
Canada is the perpetual wallflower that stands on the edge of the hall,
waiting for someone to come and ask her for a dance. A fire breaks out, she
risks life and limb to rescue her fellow dance-goers, and suffers serious
injuries. But when the hall is repaired and the dancing resumes, there is
Canada , the wallflower still, while those she once helped glamorously cavort
across the floor, blithely neglecting her yet again.
That is the price Canada pays for sharing the North American continent with
the United States , and for being a selfless friend of Britain in two global
conflicts. For much of the 20th century, Canada was torn in two different
directions: It seemed to be a part of the old world, yet had an address in
the new one, and that divided identity ensured that it never fully got the
gratitude it deserved. Yet its purely voluntary contribution to the cause of
freedom in two world wars was perhaps the greatest of any democracy. Almost
10% of Canada's entire population of seven million people served in the
armed forces during the First World War, and nearly 60,000 died. The great
Allied victories of 1918 were spearheaded by Canadian troops, perhaps the
most capable soldiers in the entire British order of battle.
Canada was repaid for its enormous sacrifice by downright neglect, its
unique contribution to victory being absorbed into the popular memory as
somehow or other the work of the "British." The Second World War provided a
re-run. The Canadian navy began the war with a half dozen vessels, and ended
up policing nearly half of the Atlantic against U-boat attack. More than120
Canadian warships participated in the Normandy landings, during which 15,000
Canadian soldiers went ashore on D-Day alone. Canada finished the war with
the third-largest navy and the fourth-largest air force in the world.
The world thanked Canada with the same sublime indifference as it had the
previous time. Canadian participation in the war was acknowledged in film
only if it was necessary to give an American actor a part in a campaign in
which the United States had clearly not participated - a touching
scrupulousness which, of course, Hollywood has since abandoned, as it has
any notion of a separate Canadian identity.
So it is a general rule that actors and filmmakers arriving in Hollywood
keep their nationality - unless, that is, they are Canadian. Thus
Mary Pickford, Walter Huston, Donald Sutherland, Michael J. Fox, William
Shatner, Norman Jewison, David Cronenberg, Alex Trebek, Art Linkletter and
Dan Aykroyd have in the popular perception become American, and Christopher
Plummer, British. It is as if, in the very act of becoming famous, a
Canadian ceases to be Canadian, unless she is Margaret Atwood, who is as
unshakably Canadian as a moose, or Celine Dion, for whom Canada has proved
quite unable to find any takers.
Moreover, Canada is every bit as querulously alert to the achievements of
its sons and daughters as the rest of the world is completely unaware of
them. The Canadians proudly say of themselves - and are unheard by anyone
else - that 1% of the world's population has
provided 10% of the world's peacekeeping forces. Canadian soldiers in the
past half century have been the greatest peacekeepers on Earth - in 39
missions on UN mandates, and six on non-UN peacekeeping duties, from Vietnam
to East Timor ,from Sinai to Bosnia.Yet the only foreign engagement that has
entered the popular on-Canadian imagination was the sorry affair in Somalia ,
in which out-of-control paratroopers murdered two Somali infiltrators.
Their regiment was then disbanded in disgrace - a uniquely Canadian act of
self-abasement for which, naturally, the Canadians received no international
credit.
So who today in the United States knows about the stoic and selfless
friendship its northern neighbour has given it in Afghanistan?
Rather like Cyrano de Bergerac, Canada repeatedly does honourable things for
honourable motives, but instead of being thanked for it, it remains
something of a figure of fun.
It is the Canadian way, for which Canadians should be proud, yet such honour
comes at a high cost. This week, four more grieving Canadian families knew
that cost all too tragically well.
Please pass this on or print it and give it to any of your friends or
relatives who served in the Canadian Forces, it is a wonderful tribute to
those who choose to serve their country and the world in our quiet Canadian
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Jehovah's Witnesses & "worldly" association (sad story)
by lovelylil intoday a jw friend of mine related this story to me.
she was at the park with a sister whose husband is an elder.
the elder's wife had their four year old son, an only child with her.
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SHE does not even let her child outside because they live on a street with other kids. Isn't this totally ridiculous! Not only that, I think it is mental abuse of her own child. I was thinking of writing a letter to
Thats the way we were raised. Thats the way my kids were raised - to make a stand. It was most definitely understood that any association with wordly kids was not an option. The isolation was dedication to Jehovah. Growing up in this environment - and then raising your kids the same way does nothing but ensure that you are in constant fear, turmoil, stress and anxiety when placed in a worldly environment. This makes it next to impossible to survive outside the society - and that is the way the Watchtower wants it to be. sam
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yet another email...
by puck injust got this one from my mom.... .
making the devil happy.
devil's beatitudes (happinesses).
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OMG, I called my dad yesterday...after years ...I wasn't feeling down at all...actually I called to tell him I love him and wanted him in my life. He said...Are you going to the KH? I said no...he said you need to get back before it's too late. I said..to late for what? He said you know what. I said..I've decided I didn't want to live in your paradise earth. I just wanted to love my family, and friends now. That's why I'm calling, because I love you and I miss you...... He said...I can't talk to you unless you go back to the KH.
Lisa..must have been a link to some tape recorder going around. Mom called secretly when everyone else went out (how pathetic that an old woman must phone her kids secretly) to find out if we had gotten the latest news - that Armaggedon is coming NOW and we must prepare. Of course this was countered with our response that this was already pushed back in 95 and its the same old story heard all our lives so there is no urgency-whats different? This stopped the conversation in mid stride and took the wind out of her sails but we were reminded by her that 'nothing' would make her compromise her faith - in other words - I'm showing you I love you by calling you once a year but under no circumstances will I allow you to visit me or call me unless you are reinstated. sammieswife.
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Congregation member lists: do they still use them? Current Dubz only!
by MinisterAmos infor some reason (read they are afraid that exiting jws will use them to "stumble" other bros.) my new congo will not issue the normal member list with names, addies, numbers and congo appointments; the same list that everyone uses to call their jw buddies over for a booze party.. i was switched to this new congo two or so years ago and since have heard of two other congos that have stopped distributing lists.
since i have only inquired of two congoes, i ass-ume that the distribution of "friends" personal info is now forbidden?.
please comment all you current members/faders.
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They say that, but: They really mean they don't want anybody sending a letter to the entire congregation explaining why they and their entire family left after seeing the light.
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Congregation member lists: do they still use them? Current Dubz only!
by MinisterAmos infor some reason (read they are afraid that exiting jws will use them to "stumble" other bros.) my new congo will not issue the normal member list with names, addies, numbers and congo appointments; the same list that everyone uses to call their jw buddies over for a booze party.. i was switched to this new congo two or so years ago and since have heard of two other congos that have stopped distributing lists.
since i have only inquired of two congoes, i ass-ume that the distribution of "friends" personal info is now forbidden?.
please comment all you current members/faders.
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the distribution of "friends" personal info is now forbidden
The reason the list is not to be circulated is so that when the police come to put all the witnesses in jail, it would be harder for them to round all the JW's up. When Babylon falls, witnesses expect to be rounded up and thrown in jail - a list makes this easy. Therefore - no list.
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Alpha Courses?
by sammielee24 indoes anyone know anything about the alpha courses?
i've seen an ad for them but i don't know anything about it - my sister is thinking of going to a meeting and i am curious.
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Does anyone know anything about the Alpha Courses? I've seen an ad for them but I don't know anything about it - my sister is thinking of going to a meeting and I am curious. sammieswife.
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Petition To Make Refusal of Blood on Religious Grounds Illegal
by Kenneson inin montreal, canada in late dec. jean-claude lavoie refused a blood transfusion and died.
his decision has split his family apart--the father respecting his son's decision.
his brother, jonathan, a former jehovah's witness has since launched an internet campaign calling on the government to make it illegal for a person to refuse blood transfusions on religious grounds.
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help prevent rampant abuses of religion
This is an interesting subject and one that sits on the line. While I don't advocate legallizing anything to the extreme, I also recognize that society generally wants to live within some rules that benefit the majority and that protect the vulnerable. How can we say polygamy is wrong? Who does that hurt? yet it is not legal and the critics are widespread and vocal. All polygamists are not pedophiles but many end up on state assistance. So - if it's a monetary issue rather than a religious one, then should not the WTS be forced to pay out all the money it took from unsuspecting members? Members who sold their houses, who did not go to school, who refused to sign up for pensions - at the direction of the WTS in 1975 are hurting now. Religion is dangerous when it becomes fanatical and when children are exposed to fanaticism and trained to follow that - who can blame them as adults?
I would advocate to legally stop the practice of shunning for any reason - including the blood issue. One simple reason. Shunning removes contact from family members who might otherwise be there to help those who are JW's when they are faced with major decisions like medical or financial. They can be the voice of reason and logic. They can ensure that their families are not being held up by the WT to sign over their houses or their insurance policies. They can be there to explain all the doctrinal changes as in blood, that many witnesses are trained to ignore. By removing the shunning, it increases the lifeline thereby effectively removing the number of people so willing to give up their lives, their childrens lives and their grandchildrens lives. sammieswife.
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Please say hello to my wife.
by nicolaou ini've been posting here for quite a long time, so long in fact that it just doesn't feel right that my wife isn't a part of it.
earlier today i created an account for her with the username heron, she'll know why.
i'm not sure if my wife will ever post here but i would feel much more comfortable knowing she is aware that i do.. this is the one post i am going to ask her to read.. so, i'd really appreciate it if you could say hello to my lovely wife.
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Hi Heron..welcome to the board. sammieswife.