However, you do have the upper hand in the fact that you're 'the man' and, therefore, head of the household. At your request, she has to decorate, cook and be present at the holiday gatherings. I know it because we've been instructed from the platform of situations when the woman is a JW but now the husband. She's under your command per say, of course that's if you know how to play the game. In many JW households, even when she's not supposed to, the woman totally rules.
Mine ex went with me to the initial visit with a mental health therapist ( definition: my deprogrammers). You should see the things they wrote about her baaad attitude towards the 'head of the household.'
You are in for a whole new life that is going to to rock your world like it has never been rocked. You have my sincere sympathy.