hi there friends, i'm just jumping out of my skin with an email i just received from my older sister in reponse to this letter that i posted to my family just last week http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx.
this is the response i received just now;"hey babyi got your letter.
i cant write very much now but i just wanted to let you know i received it and i was very moved.
Thanks again everyone...and Sphere I appreciate that you might see it necessary to cushion me from the future respone this might produce. She is still very much involved with the org, and I know that her response will of course be from that perspective. But her reply suggests that I reached her somewhere inside, I couldn't have hoped for anymore than that.
thanks again everyone, speshially OFC & ALW
it's me again...most of you don't remember me, but i am in need of personal experiences and comments that you may help me out with.
i met someone online who has apparently turned out to be a good associate of mine.
however, she has informed me that though she has her own beliefs and hates religion itself, she does like to get different perspectives on what people believe.
Hi Fiveshadows, I can undestand why you feel a strong need to inform your friend, I think we would all react the same in this situation! But perhaps you could redirect her to this website, tell her to be openminded to the information she is reading, so that she can get a balanced view and make a decision for herself. Perhaps give her just some background on the people that post here.
froglett xox
funny story.
in the last week i have had my disassociation from the cult announced and taken over as manager at a new place of employment.
both are awesome things!!.
That is classic isn't it Dustin! You know what you will do well to always hold your head up with pride despite how these (poor) dubs treat you at first. You can be truly confident that you have made the right decision, as you mentioned on a previous thread it is a truly empowering and confidence building decision. Why should they make us feel awkward and ashamed when we come into contact with them, it is their laws not ours that make the situation awkward afterall. Good for you, and don't ever be afraid to speak the "truth" to anyone who seeks an explanation for the source of your joy...what was that scripture along those lines? Had a similar experience at my work over the weekend, will send it to you in a message when I've some time later froglett
hi there friends, i'm just jumping out of my skin with an email i just received from my older sister in reponse to this letter that i posted to my family just last week http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx.
this is the response i received just now;"hey babyi got your letter.
i cant write very much now but i just wanted to let you know i received it and i was very moved.
Thankyou everyone, she is such a great person really, that's what makes it all the more tough in a way. She really does try to be open and accepting but at the end of the day the laws are black and white. I wish she could be unleashed from that burden, perhaps one day she will be.
Thanks again for all your heartwarming responses, it was really nice to have shared my happiness with you froglett
i was afraid people might think i was trying to "compensate" for something... ya know it's a "guy" thing.
i'm told (jnbnz) it's a black and white pic of a couple.
because i can't... i think the deemunz have possesed my 'puter.
heya, I've had the same problem, I've tried numerous times to upload a new pic, but I can still only see the old one of me in a white top. Although I'm using different computers all the time on the University network, so I spose the old pic is still up?? Don't seem to have had any success in overwriting it???
hi there friends, i'm just jumping out of my skin with an email i just received from my older sister in reponse to this letter that i posted to my family just last week http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx.
this is the response i received just now;"hey babyi got your letter.
i cant write very much now but i just wanted to let you know i received it and i was very moved.
Hi there friends, I'm just jumping out of my skin with an email I just received from my older sister in reponse to this letter that I posted to my family just last week http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx
This is the response I received just now; "hey baby I got your letter. I cant write very much now but I just wanted to let you know I received it and I was very moved. I'm glad you found the courage to write your feelings. I think it was good for all of us. I'm hoping it will help us all to air some repressed feelings. I will write back to you properly very soon but I just wanted to acknowledge receipt of the letter so that you didnt think I didnt pay any attention to it. love you precious, A" (-older sister)
.........threads that have copies of official wbts letters and documents or anything else that may help me compose a letter to elder father.
i am 32 years old and still cannot communicate to him verbally how i feel.
so i am going to write it down.
Hi jwNOT, here is a post to the letter I drafted to my family only the week before last...well actually it took me many many drafts over the course of months to finally get to one I was happy with http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx ...mine doesn't really contain any anti-WT theory as such, more just my view of the emotional aspects of our relationship.
...I can only recommend you take your time with it, because you may not get another chance to express yourself so freely. It will be a very good experience for you to be be able to do this for yourself. Just keep in mind that its good to pluck words/lines from another person's letter if it helps you to find the right words, but make sure your final draft is truly the way you feel.
There's another poster's letter I think will be great for you to read...but will ask them before I presume it's ok to post the link.
All the best with your writing, froglett xox
.
there has been a number of discussions lately about not just accepting being shunned by family so i was thinking why not set aside a yearly day to get in touch with family...send a card,text,email to parents and siblings etc not saying anything controversial...just being nice..saying we miss them we love them and anytime they want to meet or write or visit they would be more than welcome..it other words dont treat them like they treat you..do you think that it is a good idea...if so reply here but also spread the word.....if this has been suggested before please excuse me...im new to the world.
lets make it 10th of may every year...dont think there are any other holidays on that date
yer crumper you're sooo right! I know my families jw/non-jw ask about me frequently...I can only imagine the responses they give at present, "no there doesn't seem to be any sign of her returning" respondent: "oh that's a shame, but hang in there and keep praying about it" blah blah blah...but if they had recent info to suggest that I was well and truly getting on with my life, it would have to come up...and as you say they couldn't help but feel some sort of complex for not having responded. Know what you mean about your sisters coming to joing you, wouldn't that just be too perfect, I've 4 myself and my arms are open to all of themv
good news.
whyamihere and my son's little guy will be coming home from the hospital (hopefully) later this afternoon.
he has regained 2 lbs.
that's wonderful news g'ma, all the subliminal loves and hugs must've worked:-)) xox
i will try to make this quick...... .
i have been with this wonderfull woman in a "relationship" for almost one year now (ive known her for 3 years).
she is jw and obviously i'm not, our relationship has gone almost exactly like many of the ones discribed here, hiding from parents, familly, church, etc.
Hi there Paja, your situation must be a very turbulent one for you. But at the end of the day you will not be able to help Cynthia through the process she has to go through to leave the org, if that is in fact what she decides to do. My question if for you really, even if Cynthis does concent to marry you, these backflips and about turns are only just the begining, how long do you think you will be able to deal with these inconsistencies? I know you're probably feeling euphoricly in love now, and I don't question the love you have for her, but leaving the JW has a definite way of changing a person, a way of helping that person to "realise" so many things about themselves that they were once repressing. I realise that this must be incredibly difficult for you to hear. But you may have had the benefit of a balanced life's education, but Cynthia has not. When the world starts to open up to her she will experience and ways of thinking she has never experienced before. So if she is making you feel insecure now, then I can only imagine that it will get much worse for you as time goes on. It is your decision, and it's hard to think in the long-term when we're so much in love, but for your own sake you have to.
My personal experience is one where I was very much in love with a man I had a deep connection with. We got together at about the time I decided to gradually leave the JW-org. I loved him very much, and he me, he was inspired by my strength at the time and helped me tremendously, I owe a lot to him I feel. But afte 18months of leaving the faith I did a complete backflip, I completely freaked out about world conditions and had a bit of a breakdown and felt like running back to the JW-org was the only way that I would be able to get mental peace again. So just overnight the beautiful relationship I had ended, my JW conscience was killing me, and I couldn't handle the relationship anymore. I cannot tell you how much after I recovered from that relapse just how much I cruisified myself for making that choice. Was 2 years ago now, and I still regret it, but I've moved on with life.
I wish you and Cynthia all the best. And remember that relationships can be temporary, but true and meaningful friendships can last forever. True friends don't put pressure on friends to make truly difficult decisions, they support them through a hard time. Your intentions are good and pure, and I don't envy the situation you are in, I know how painful it can be.
Take care of yourself, and please keep us updated luv from froglett xox
