Smokey, I have gone throught the same thing as you. I am not D.A 'ed or D.F'ed but all of my former witness friends have nothing to do with me. Around the time I stopped going to meetings an elder told them I wasnt good association and they stopped all contact with me. My best friend got married and didnt even tell me about it. I run into some of my old JW friends from time to time around town and they are always talk to me and act if everything is cool between us. I used to hold onto alot of anger and resentment towards them, but I gave that up and realized they haven't broken free from their conditioning.
Buddha says Anger is like a hot coal that is waiting to be thrown, but it's the person who is holding it that gets hurt the most.
Or as the wise Yoda once said "Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering"
Clayton