wild thing, sorry to read your post today, it is so charged with emotion im afraid you might say something to your mum you will regret,you dont want to put her offside of yourself if you can help it.
its good to vent on here with us who understand how you feel, but please be careful with your mum who is still under the illusion that the borg. is still the best thing since sliced bread.she wont see things the way we do .
your neice has to make her own decisions in life, and i think its great that she confides in you.however have you thought about playing the role of negotiator, im sure you have, just take a little time to calm down and try to be the peacemaker.
as for your neices' parents offer of " make friends of jws and then you can have worldly friends" it is a carrot she will never receive,i once tried a similiar trick with my son when i was brainwashed in the borg. i was hoping he would eventually forget it and we still would have opposed his worldly friends.
i do hope things work out for you both,when you feel like you are getting up tight, count to ten, slow down,and im sure you will benefit. mr. alw